This word has been going around my mind all week. How is it that relationships are the hardest for so many? I meditated on this and I believe that the first relationship we need to manifest is the one with ourselves. I have asked myself the following and in doing so, I learned that I am capable of saying “YES!” The clue here is to say, “YES” to life.
Questions I asked myself are …
Do you like who you are? Do you know who you are? Can you sit and just be? Is silence easy for you? Are you joyful? Are you happy? Do you know your passion and purpose? Are you living your best life?
I believe that once I found that I loved myself my perspective in life totally changed. I suddenly felt connected to a wider essence, something bigger than me. There was an inner intelligence I discovered that was calling to me. When this calling began I was in despair, filled with doubt and empty of my own belief system. I seemed to be brain washed by the society I grew up in and lived in. Today, I have learned from many teachers, mentors, and by going to workshops and reading lots of books that there is an alternative belief in life that I named believable. I actually named my counseling business Believable Alternatives in 2004. At that time I was clueless as to the meaning but today I know that there is so much out there to learn about by the simple act of meditating, sitting in silence and being aware of the beauty in every day.
The greatest of lessons for me is that I know that I cannot change another but I can change myself and in doing so, others will change around me. Acceptance of everyone as they are by seeing the light within them allows for unconditional love for everybody. No one is more special than another. We are all children of God and we have come here to live life with all its ups and downs. Its about our reaction to life and our emotions that we need to process and release.
I discovered that when I choose to not take anything personal I am at my best. I am positive in thought, word and action. Growing up in a society that broadcasts how a woman is to be a wife and mother, and in today’s world work outside the home as well, how we should look, what we should wear, what is good to eat and bad to eat, as well as, how we need to be heard because we know what is best for another. Ha-Ha! No one knows what God’s plan is for another and no one knows the depth of another’s fears and pain. We all have our triggers that were handed down to us as if our parents were giving us a unique gift. I say, throw that gift away now.
When you get to that place in your life that you know that you do not know anything you are free. All your relationships will be blessed with love. It all comes down to all we choose to be. Going to bed happy with a smile on your lips and trust me you will wake up happy. There is never nothing to worry about when you let go and let God! To travel this life living life and enjoying life by never taking anything personal because you are love, you are kind and you are joyful is the greatest of achievements to manifest. We all are given free will to choose how we want to live our lives. Go for it and see for yourself.
As we approach the day to honor our fathers. I must say that I loved my dad unconditionally from the moment I met him. He was the wisest of men for me. I miss him since he left in 1998 but I know I was a loving daughter to him and my husband was also amazing son-in-law. We talk of him even today as someone who was wise, interesting, loved mother nature and life. A positive being in the world. Yet, he was alcoholic, manic-depressant and attempted suicide at 40 years old but to me he was the best. He was unable to throw away the gift of abandonment that his mother bestowed on him and searched to be loved his entire life. I was told once by a psychic that I was the exclamation point in his life! How cool is that? He knew I loved him as he was, no questions asked. What a ride it has been.
Happy Fathers Day daddy, I will always love you.
Pray, Meditate, Journal…