L O V E
A simple word in our vocabulary which confuses us, causes us pain and fills us with fear. We are a society that needs to know we are loved, as well as, that we love another. Where does the need to know we are loved come from but by those who have held us in their arms as a baby. Our parents are the first loves of our lives. Yet, they are filled with their own demons and can only love as they have been taught. As babies we come into this world filled with love and light only to learn how to protect ourselves by developing defense patterns to protect ourselves from those who love us. We forget who we are, our truth and develop a persona that protects our heart. We grow to become a person with a heart that is wounded, closed or simply frozen.
Many of us feel abandoned, abused, betrayed and unworthy. Somewhere along the path of baby, toddler, youth and becoming an adult we develop our own fears, guilt, shame and grief. We blame our Parents! Of course, it was them who did something wrong, something bad or just that they were not there for us. We become addicted to work, money, sex, food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, shopping: we become addicted to things outside of us to find and feel love.
Love waits within the self to be acknowledged because no one can love another until they love themselves. No one can feel the beauty of being loved until they love themselves. The hole will not become whole until one embraces and loves themselves. Forgiveness of the past is key to finding Love! I believe that each of our parents and if you are a parent as well has done and is doing the best they can. Many of us look for love outside of ourselves, actually outside of our marriages and relationships but trust me to abandon one to love another through the action of hurting someone will never be a true love. The hole within will never suddenly become whole if any type of pain is involved. True Love is the Love of Acceptance and feeling Responsible for another. You accept the person you are as well as the person you are with. In some manner or form you feel responsible for them. We complain about another only when we believe they are doing something that we don’t want them to do. We wake up one day and want them to be another way; nice, kind, respectful and more loving towards us. Ask yourself is that how you are towards them. All of us, get what we give whether it is through our thoughts, words or actions.
Now is the time to forgive, become an observer in life, open your heart by starting with loving yourself. Pay attention to your thoughts, words and actions. Believe what you believe about yourself and life not what you have been taught by anyone else. No one has the ability to judge or criticize you nor do you have the right to judge or criticize another. We simply do not know God’s Plan for anyone. Go within through the act of meditation, prayer and journaling. Stop taking everything personally. It is not about you. It is about another’s fear and pain being projected outwards. Look at it as a cry for help from them.
Let us all begin to simply Love one another as we are with no strings attached! Take time for you to know what your heart desires!
Pray, Meditate, Journal