“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” – Maya Angelou
There are many different relationships that we will all live through. Some we will survive, and others will damage us beyond repair. Does one need to ask himself, ‘Why?’ That magic word that tears at our heart when we cannot understand the change that suddenly appears in our life.
Why seems the word that spills from our lips as tears fall down our face. For some reason, we cringe at the change that appears from nowhere. Or, so we assume! Just the word relationship holds a vice around our hearts. Whether it is a parent, spouse, child, friend, relative or boss, all relationships are complicated. All these relationships at one time will define who we are as an adult.
“Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home – it’s your responsibility to love it, or change it.” – Chuck Palahniuk
We are a society that plays by the rules sometimes, and sometimes we give up on ourselves eventually because we are told over and over again there is something wrong with us. The sad part is that we believe what others say. The voice in our head stems from the view of others most likely. The damage and negativity that we heard over and over again growing up. Those ugly words!
If you create change in your life that leads you down a spiritual path of positive belief, prayer, meditation, forgiveness, and joy, then you will change how you are defined. How you believe is how you believe not how you have been told to believe by others. You have a right to be here. You have a right to speak. You have a right to your dreams. You have a right to know yourself. It is your right to wake up!
It is time for all of humanity to awaken to their truth now. Not tomorrow or next month, but today! Stop letting others define who you are. Be faithful to you in all your relationships. When we choose to live our truth we make important changes which raise our vibration. We begin to live in the present and forgive the past because we cannot change it.
Begin today by raising your vibration!
– Spend a few minutes outside with Mother Nature daily
– Eat more veggies, fruits, nuts, and grains and bless your food
– Drink water that is pure in a glass container and place a crystal in the container
– Wear crystals on your body because crystal energy is what vibrates the Earth, your body and your cells. When we hold a crystal in our hand, it fine tunes our connection and pulse to the Earth – the Mother of all life here (-Dianne Robbins’ book Messages From the Hollow Earth)
“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” – Donald Miller
Just look around at those you love and live with on a daily basis. Do these people you share your existence with in the form of a relationship speak and sound like they are happy? Do they act joyous? Do they believe they have to be like others? Are those you live with or related to filled with positive words or negative words of speech? Do they ever stop complaining? Do you ever stop complaining about them?
No one does not have a story to share when it comes to our childhood, teen years, adult years and dating years. Some of us are married forever, some of us divorced, some widowed, some have never been married. Some of us are in a marriage we detest and want to get out of, but it is so comfortable to know how your day will unfold, so we stay. Sometimes for the children! Sometimes it is for financial reasons that we stay. But we do stay!
“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
All of life boils down to our relationships – no matter who they are! Something that has happened in your childhood sets off a trigger today with your wife and a fight develops. (If you are triggered by another, know that there is still a lesson to learn!) You feel that your mom abandoned you when you were small, and today you feel left by a friend who no longer is part of your relationship. Your father is vicious, screams and yells about everything, so you believe that is the person you must be as well. It worked for him, you whisper to yourself, it will work for me!
You do not have to be like another no matter who they are. You can still love your parents, spouse, and friends as they are but do not get defined by others. Be You! Wake Up! Raise Your Vibration! Live Your Truth! Release what no longer serves you this very minute! Choose love not fear in all circumstances and relationships.
Life is meant to be experienced daily with love, joy, happiness, togetherness and most importantly freedom. Freedom to be you, as you are. To live a life you choose to live. To share your life with others that fill you with support, love, encouragement and pure happiness when you are with them. However, we don’t know how to achieve the simplicity of such an existence.
Many of us get sucked into the belief that we have to be angry and unhappy; that we have to earn more money. We must have more things. We must work crazy hours to get more money to get more things. That is when the anger, unhappiness, and emptiness creeps into our lives and drains us. That is when we disappear from the truth of our souls. Greed developes along with the belief in materal things as a way of defining who we are. Eventually, we end up defending ourselves to others.
It takes a lifetime, marriage, many deaths, and divorces but we are very good at this scenario of not being happy. Then to top it off we blame our parents and everyone else but ourselves. When does the love of life, ourselves and others disappear? How do we get so tangled up in a loveless life? The belief of control adds to many relationships that then turn ugly and extremely confrontational. A parent tries to demand an adult child be a certain way! This is never possible, all it is is a form of abuse. There is no unconditional love evident if there is any form of abuse.
I am blessed to be surrounded by young love – a few married for some time and then there are the newlyweds! So beautiful to witness. Such happiness and joy that has not been trampled on. It is pure love to be part of life where young love, new babies, and a journey of experiences waiting to blossom into their relationships. At this time all there is is the memory of their dreams to delight them! Everything seems to be perfect and brand new. They have their dreams and their goals set. Life is magical at this time!
“How people treat you; is their karma – how you react is yours!” – Wayne Dyer
Journal the following questions and change your life today. Not tomorrow!
When did you forget about You?
Did love of self or another begin to extinguish itself through the daily lies, defeats, and anger in your life?
Is there resentment that builds up today because of a change in your life choices?
Can betrayals of self or another stem from the foundation of the love slowly drifting away from your relationships?
Can it be that we as a society cling to the old because we are afraid of the new? What are your fears? Release them today!
Are you ready to awaken and raise your vibration to one of love?
Always remember that Love is all there is…
Pray! Meditate! Journal!