LOVE of life and all that we experience daily comes from what we believe is LOVE! The simplest words to express this inner emotion are, “I LOVE YOU!” As babies we are cherished with hugs and kisses from all who LOVE us and welcome us into the world. We grow up with this inner emotion expressed to us throughout our lives.
Sometimes though we are shown LOVE by another and then abused or lied to and filled with grief over something we did wrong. Where does the LOVE go? What is the fear that holds this person captive to do harm to someone they claim to LOVE?
“Hearts grow from a love of life and of each other…” – Anthony T. Hincks
In life, we journey a path that either is filled with LOVE, lacks LOVE or we are confused by LOVE! Many of us live a life of not believing we are worthy of LOVE, feel LOVED or simply do not know how to LOVE ourselves or another. Where does that stem from?
February is the month of LOVE!
Red is the color of LOVE!
Candy, Flowers, Champagne, Jewelry express LOVE!
Emerald Green is the color of the 4th Chakra our heart that pulsates LOVE!
Hugs and Kisses embrace LOVE!
Diamonds speak of LOVE!
An entire day to celebrate the LOVE in our lives is offered every February 14th. There are songs as well and all choices of gifts, books, and means of celebrating this special day as a LOVING couple, parent, sibling, child or friend. Remember the little Valentine cards in school and the candy hearts with the words on them we shared. The sentence, “Will yoube my Valentine?” The sweetness of these memories is of LOVE or pain today for some.
“If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love…” – Maya Angelou
My granddaughter Luciana is an expression of LOVE. When she FaceTimes me or I see her, I say to her, I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! She giggles and says it back to me. At two years old she is LOVE!
Her brothers, Franco, six years and Sal, four years of age hug and kiss me when I visit and they feel LOVED and I feel LOVED. Sometimes actions are louder than words when it comes to LOVE!
At ten years old my oldest grandson Hunter is at the age where he is cool and has the sweetest smile when he sees me and we both know we are LOVED! His brother, Hudson at nine years of age is a bundle of LOVE open to a hug and kiss from me and eager to show his strength. My six-year-old granddaughter, Jameson is pure beauty and LOVE as she beams out joy.
“Happiness is a child’s smile…” – Anthony T. Hincks
I cannot imagine ever in my life how they will experience this loss of LOVE one day through the societal relationships of others beliefs. I do understand that there is a reason for all that we experience on this amazing journey we travel. The plan, actions of others, karma, release and outlook on life is to discover the truth that rests with wonder when we were children like my grandchildren. Children have an inner wisdom that needs to be nurtured to allow their mastery of self to be experienced as a LOVE for self.
To suffer abuse, abandonment, criticism, judgment, control from another is painful no matter how old you are. There is no LOVE ever portrayed in pain caused to another especially if they claim to LOVE you! This painful type of LOVE cuts deeply into the core. We as a society accept pain as part of the path of life but it is not acceptable.
As a mother, I have raised four children with LOVE, kindness and respect. Today, I choose LOVE in all situations completely. Why? I believe that LOVE is the answer to all the craziness in life that many experience and choose instead of LOVE!
What if, we decided to live and let live as the saying goes with no reaction of anger, control, criticism or judgement towards another? It is not easy but it is time to try in some way to forgive and LOVE each other. To be kind, honest and release our own fears and embrace LOVE! If there is someone in your life filled with fear, anger and judgment know they are in pain and not capable at this time to choose LOVE! Offer them your LOVE!
Look around at those you say youLOVE …
Does your heart skip a beat when you see them?
Do you respect their choices in life?
Are you in awe of their sacredness?
Have you told them that you LOVE them and showed them with an action?
When was the last time you took time to be with the one you LOVE holding hands?
What surprise do you have planned to express LOVE this Valentine’s Day or any day?
Do you see your LOVED one, really see who they are as they are?
Can you relate with LOVE when your LOVED one needs your compassion?
How true are you in life to all whom you claim to LOVE?
Do you fear expressing LOVE because of your upbringing?
Can you forgive someone who has harmed you in the past, by taking their LOVE away?
“One is loved because one is loved.No reason is needed for loving…” – Paulo Coelho
Valentine’s day will come and leave and there will be tears of surprise, engagements, joy, happiness and lots of candy and flowers. For some there will be no celebrating, no joy, happiness or candy and flowers. LOVE simply is the emotion of who you are and the life you choose to live.
If you LOVE yourself you are filled with joy, respect and happiness. It is not the normal choice for many because of the society we leave in that has created this holiday as one day to tell another and show them how we LOVE them. LOVE simply is a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly emotion in life that needs to be expressed not held back or refused. Where there is LOVE, there is action, otherwise it is just another word!
Choose LOVE for yourself and every day will be Valentine’s day!
The language of the times has changed drastically. Yesterday no longer serves this day. As a society that is separate in our belief, we now desire to unite. There is emotional pain, fear, anger, and dis-ease of our bodies, and mind. Our souls are offering clues that there is a better way to exist.
We all want peace!
We all crave to be whole!
We all need self-love!
The questions arise daily for many of us that we are unhappy, and being harmed by another’s, thoughts, words, and actions. At times, even our own thoughts that are negative do harm to us. The seeds of yesterday that were planted and fed by anyone who has ever caused any of us to fear, experience guilt, shame for not letting another control us, and grief at a loss of any kind need to be released.
Becoming aware is becoming awakened to the truth, passion, and purpose of our life existence. Somewhere along the path of believing in what our parents raised us to follow and all that society instills as a way to be, look and perform has created our truth to hide. As all of life is energy, money is the culprit in many relationships that manifest a form of suffering. We choose money over our passion and purpose in life.
We desire to be a chef, but the money is in working in our family business.
We want to be a teacher but there is no money for college, and we instead marry and raise a family.
We crave to experience life by playing music, but the money is in working with our hands.
We choose money over our innate gifts.
Life is a process of understanding that free will offers us the choice of how we want to live our lives. Everyone shows us who they are, by their decisions. This very day is the day to sit, close your eyes and reflect on where you are at this time in your life. What is it that you need to release that is no longer serving you. The following affirmations by Sohini Trehan are a way to look within and contemplate your beliefs about yourself daily.
“I am a divine being of light, and I am peaceful, protected and secure.”
Bring your attention to your legs at the base of the spine down to your feet.
Personal development stems from being grounded in our lives. If you are disconnected from your body and the world it is due to trust issues, not feeling safe, nourished, or healthy, that stem from your family, tribe and home experience.
How do you feel at this moment?
Are there any aches or pain?
Do you fall a lot?
What beliefs are yours when it comes to how you were brought up?
Who is part of your tribe on a daily basis?
Do you communicate with love to one another or fear?
Was there any negative birth experiences?
Did you ever feel abandoned or felt abused as a child?
Any childhood surgeries or severe illness or accidents?
Did you move many times when small?
Is permanent stress part of your existence now?
Aromatherapy, by using essential oils in a diffuser like cedar or clover is beneficial. Hug a tree, yoga, Pilates, walk barefoot outside, take a hike, dancing, gardening, sun on your body. Meditate. Journal about how you feel. Visualize your roots. Sit against a tree. Close, your eyes, breathe deep belly breaths and imagine your energetic roots sinking deep into the ground beneath you. Picture them connecting you to Mother Nature and know that the foundation is a solid one to build your life on.
I am radiant, beautiful and strong and enjoy a healthy and passionate life…”
Move up to sacral, place your hands on your naval area.
What is the sensation you experience at this moment?
It is here where our emotion and pleasure exist, the divine inner child and wounded child. A person who has unhealthy boundaries when it comes to relationships, money, and sex, become a martyr. The major distinction is an addiction to food, drugs, alcohol, sex, pornography, shopping, and exercise that is excessive, and chocolate and on and on. A person who wants to control others is angry and filled with rage. They are very excessive, their belief is ‘life is about me!”
Are you creative in your life by enjoying what you do daily?
Are you whole in your sexuality or is guilt in your body from past actions?
Any tumors, or miscarriages?
Prone to negative attitudes daily?
Did you sell out for money, power or sex?
Are you chronically feeling lonely or abandoned?
Do you get angry when you give to others and they are unappreciative?
Are you sacrificing your dreams and goals for another’s approval?
Do you sense impotence within?
Do the opinions of others matter most to you?
Does change terrify you?
Are you revengeful and unable to let things go?
Is there a lack of ethics?
Are you an energy vampire?
Your body needs to move; dance, slow and sensuous or wildly abandoned. How do you feel when you dance? Indulge in a treat once a week that comforts you, take a bubble bath, use scented oils, treat yourself to lunch. Keep the sexual energy moving through fantasy, books, romantic movies or sexy clothing.
“I am positively empowered and successful in all my ventures.”
Take your hands and place them on your solar plexus and imagine the power you possess as a divine being of light and love.
Do you feel powerful in your daily interactions with those you love, work with and when it comes to your parents?
Has anyone ever made you feel shame?
Are you angry?
Who do you blame?
Filled with resentment?
Only you – can do for you! Laughter is the best medicine to heal. Play! Get physically outside in sports, swimming, and connecting to the earth. Get outside every day in the sunshine. Walk by bodies of water, rivers, lakes and the ocean in the moonlight especially.
“Love is the answer to everything in life, and I give and receive love effortlessly and unconditionally.”
Now you are at your heart the bridge to the rest of your body above.
Do you love yourself?
Do you feel loved?
Are you loving?
What does your heart ache for in your romantic relationship?
How has grief kept you stuck in a relationship because of fear, guilt, and shame?
What have you refused to do with passion and purpose in your life because of grief?
Is your heart shut down?
Have you felt betrayed, or rejected?
Who do you need to forgive?
Are you resentful?
What feelings don’t you want to feel?
Being loved and loving is why you are here! Get a pet to love with joy! Meditate, journal, then journal, meditate daily! Intend to be open to loving yourself. Do what you love! When balanced with a sense of love of self and love of others a profound sense of peace and fulfillment is evident.
“My thoughts are positive, and I always express myself truthfully and clearly.”
The throat is our avenue to communicate in life with all. Now it is time to speak your truth! In the past, did someone lie to you and you were aware of it. In doing so, you have grown up to also lie as a defense mechanism because you are clueless as to why they lied. A pattern develops in all of us as we copy our parent’s behavior.
Are you honestly taking responsibility for your needs?
Do you say what you think or do you self-edit?
Do you hear and act on inner guidance?
Are living creatively?
Do you have repeated sore throats?
Frequent pain in this area?
Talk too loud, too much, stutter, or reluctant to speak?
Are you shy?
Purchase a beautiful journal that you will enjoy writing in daily all your thoughts, feelings and insights about you. Scream if you must! Singing lessons, chanting works as well. Pick a form of creative expression like a child; dance, voice, writing, drawing, painting, or whatever appeals to you. If you have relationships issues go to couples therapy to improve communication to connect. Surrender. Open to guidance to a higher power.
“I am tuned into the divine universal wisdom and always understand the true meaning of life situations.”
Between our eyes is our brow or third eye, which also is called our intuition. That which we see that is unseen. We store our memories and dream experiences. The imagination of the past and future is evident here. We also can go beyond our five senses and the physical plane. Discernment in our daily life of what we want to see or not choose to see.
Any health conditions related to the eyes, nose brain or neurological system?
Do you remember your dreams?
Are you closed-minded?
Do you deny or ignore the facts or truth in a situation?
Are you shutting off your inner guidance?
Do you believe your inner guidance does not exist?
Do you believe in a way that it is not of your moral obligations?
Are you negative first and project that out onto others in most situations?
You will benefit by sitting in silence through meditation, being in Mother Nature or even the act of prayer or taking pen to paper? These are the tools to awaken the mind of intuition. Believe that you are intuitive! Practice visualizations. Set an intention and commit to listening within for direction. Honor the information with your actions. Create a feeling of inner harmony by surrounding yourself with beauty that you love. Experience life as a child filled with wonder. Explore life more. Set an intention at night to remember your dreams and write down what you do in the morning. What is the message?
“I am complete and one with the divine energy.”
The crown of our head is our connection to the Divine in thought, consciousness, information, and intelligence. The whole process of knowing. Our search for fulfillment and enlightenment. Spirituality needs to be in the body and our daily lives not in our heads only.
Are you always in your head?
Do you have a holier-than-thou attitude?
Are you spacey?
At times are you dissociated from the real world?
Do you believe you are narrow-minded?
Do you have rigid beliefs?
Meditation, and prayer, as well as a sacred ritual, will strengthen you. Spiritual practices allow us to embrace the universal field of consciousness. Fear, anxiety, and anger tend to close off our connection to the Divine. Prayer, meditation offers a release from difficult emotions so that we live entirely in our unique life journeys.
We are all born gifted!
We need to discover this gift!
We can then live our gift with passion!
At a convenient time, take a pen and paper, light a candle and answer the above questions one by one. In doing so, you will develop a path of truth for how you want to live your life today. Your inner wisdom will guide you towards all that needs to be released by simply paying attention to how you feel in your body.
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things…” – Albert Einstein
We are preparing to let a year-end and another one to begin. The coming year 2019; holds surprises, losses, sadness, joy, kindness, happiness, and memories to cherish. Some of us will make new friends and some of us will release friends. There will be weddings and divorces, births and deaths.
How will you plan for 2019?
What action do you need to take to implement your plan?
What goals are you setting?
How will you contribute to life in general?
How does the big picture in your life look?
What are you letting go of?
I want to share with you a process of deeply looking within and answering the following questions. There does not need to be a surprise in 2019. You as a Divine Essence of God have the power to manifest your heart’s desire.
“Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life…” – Shannon L. Alder
Who do you believe you are?
In life daily, who do you show to others, that you are?
Do you have boundaries set?
How accepting are you?
How rejecting are you?
Who and what do you let in? Why?
Who and what do you keep out? Why?
Who are you connecting to through communication in your world?
What kind of relationships are you forming?
What engages you in life?
Are you learning something new?
Is your life coherent?
Are you creating wholeness around yourself?
“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect…” – Anais Nin
I have been witness to the power of taking pen to paper since I learned how to write. A form of the depth of discovery of self becomes insightful as one goes within. We as a society are bombarded by the beliefs of a world that is an illusion. The truth of self waits to be awakened by the action of our thought process.
In 2004, I received the words; “find that whichcreates freedom of thought!” Hmm, I thought to myself what does that mean? I was clueless! I was enticed by the words especially ‘creates freedom!’ The journey began and I learned through the discovery of self that I had certain beliefs and truths that were gifts of mine to embrace. I learned to disengage from anything that was no longer serving me
After answering the above questions, may we all embrace the new year with a sense of belief, knowledge, and discovery of our truth of self? We as a society of human beings are desirous of a plan to move forward. The truth is that if there is no action taken there can be no freedom from the despair in our lives. There is a part of us that seeks a form of personal growth and self-mastery in our lives. The truth of who we are is in the answers we discover as we go within.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that…” – Martin Luther King Jr.
In reflection, as I embrace the coming year 2019, I must admit I have lived the simple words of the above sentence to “find that whichcreates freedom of thought!” Connecting to the light within through the written word allowed me to create a life filled with freedom when I changed my thought process about myself, my life and others. I decided to choose love period.
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us…” -Joseph Campbell
As we travel through this month and the holiday season, and any celebrations that we join together as a family there is a silence where death has stumbled into our lives. Stumbled because some are unexpected while others are simply unbelievable.
It is these moments where we have to rise up. Our hearts shatter and we crumble at the moment a loved one is no longer visible. We just cannot fathom life without them. We grieve, cry and mourn that they are gone in sporadic episodes of deep longing. Many have even grieved a loss for years.
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart…” – Helen Keller
I always wonder why we do not remember the life they have lived? Some lives can be abusive in many forms, filled with regret and addictions but we loved them – did we not? The memories of yesterday can be filled with a smile at the mention of their name today if we search through to the end result and discover the love we felt for them yesterday. It is in acknowledging our pain with love that lets our loved one rest in peace.
Losing a child has to be the hardest no matter how old we are; parents, spouses, family members, friends, pets and people who traveled through our lives are gone, and we fill with pain. We are told this is the cycle of life but it hurts unbearably.
I believe there is a reason for everything that happens in life. During challenging times I choose to wonder what the reason could be for this happening in my life? What is the lesson for me? No one can control when life moves on, we can only choose how we react to our loss. The veil is right in front of us; so close but yet so far it seems. Out of sight is the greatest of pain we experience as a society.
“The best preparation for tomorrowis doing your best today…” – H. Jackson Brown,Jr.
I have read about the contracts we create with each other and how with free will we can genuinely make a difference of our time here.
Can it be we choose …
dis-ease, suicide, car accidents, terrorist attacks and other forms of despair to learn from?
To learn the lessons of forgiveness, endurance, and acceptance.
I imagine we all struggle with our choices; how we loved; how we acted as mother or father to our children.
What we mean to say and forgot to mention or do for another. The regrets we carry so deep that we grieve them as well.
If I could have, would have, or should have said this, done that circles our minds when we live through the death of a loved one.
What about our own defensive choices we use to survive in life.
It’s always about how we choose to think, speak, and act towards one another on a daily basis that creates memories of love or fear.
Life is the journey we get to travel daily and I, at times, ache for that moment that has slipped away. I try to recapture a word or smile even the essence of a loved one’s voice that has moved on. I believe in eternity and that we shall be together one day. Still, my heart fills with sadness that clings to me to see, hear, and touch the many that are gone.
The holiday season can bring love into our hearts as well as sadness. We can be sprinkled with the essence of an ache that takes our breath away by the experiences of death. Yet, it is said that life is eternal and our loved one lives on.
“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light…” -Aristotle
I have survived these changes in my life by believing in simple rituals that last a lifetime…
Power of prayer
Basking in the beauty of Mother Nature
Soaking in a scented bath of essential oils
A clean organic super foods and super herbs diet
Please understand and try to connect to the angels, ascended masters, spirit guides, elemental beings and loved ones that are with you daily. We are never alone. Close your eyes and see them. Ask for a visit in the form of a dream from your loved one. The signs can be many; music, license plate numbers, pennies from Heaven, a fragrant smell, flowers, even the smell of cigarettes from a loved one is a visit for you to embrace.
Believe that anything is possible and it is. Treasure the memories that fill you with emotions of the life a loved one lived with you and smile. Learn to celebrate their unique and exquisite life.
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style….” -Maya Angelou
It is the ego that wants to touch, see and hear a physical person so we grieve our loss as they rest in peace. Sometimes our grief can sweep us away for a very long time.
There are only two paths in life to travel. Remember it is fear that roars the ego-self that wants what we no longer have. Love comes from our God-self which knows that we have not lost anything as eternal beings of light.