LOVE of life and all that we experience daily comes from what we believe is LOVE! The simplest words to express this inner emotion are, “I LOVE YOU!” As babies we are cherished with hugs and kisses from all who LOVE us and welcome us into the world. We grow up with this inner emotion expressed to us throughout our lives.
Sometimes though we are shown LOVE by another and then abused or lied to and filled with grief over something we did wrong. Where does the LOVE go? What is the fear that holds this person captive to do harm to someone they claim to LOVE?
“Hearts grow from a love of life and of each other…” – Anthony T. Hincks
In life, we journey a path that either is filled with LOVE, lacks LOVE or we are confused by LOVE! Many of us live a life of not believing we are worthy of LOVE, feel LOVED or simply do not know how to LOVE ourselves or another. Where does that stem from?
February is the month of LOVE!
Red is the color of LOVE!
Candy, Flowers, Champagne, Jewelry express LOVE!
Emerald Green is the color of the 4th Chakra our heart that pulsates LOVE!
Hugs and Kisses embrace LOVE!
Diamonds speak of LOVE!
An entire day to celebrate the LOVE in our lives is offered every February 14th. There are songs as well and all choices of gifts, books, and means of celebrating this special day as a LOVING couple, parent, sibling, child or friend. Remember the little Valentine cards in school and the candy hearts with the words on them we shared. The sentence, “Will yoube my Valentine?” The sweetness of these memories is of LOVE or pain today for some.
“If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love…” – Maya Angelou
My granddaughter Luciana is an expression of LOVE. When she FaceTimes me or I see her, I say to her, I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! She giggles and says it back to me. At two years old she is LOVE!
Her brothers, Franco, six years and Sal, four years of age hug and kiss me when I visit and they feel LOVED and I feel LOVED. Sometimes actions are louder than words when it comes to LOVE!
At ten years old my oldest grandson Hunter is at the age where he is cool and has the sweetest smile when he sees me and we both know we are LOVED! His brother, Hudson at nine years of age is a bundle of LOVE open to a hug and kiss from me and eager to show his strength. My six-year-old granddaughter, Jameson is pure beauty and LOVE as she beams out joy.
“Happiness is a child’s smile…” – Anthony T. Hincks
I cannot imagine ever in my life how they will experience this loss of LOVE one day through the societal relationships of others beliefs. I do understand that there is a reason for all that we experience on this amazing journey we travel. The plan, actions of others, karma, release and outlook on life is to discover the truth that rests with wonder when we were children like my grandchildren. Children have an inner wisdom that needs to be nurtured to allow their mastery of self to be experienced as a LOVE for self.
To suffer abuse, abandonment, criticism, judgment, control from another is painful no matter how old you are. There is no LOVE ever portrayed in pain caused to another especially if they claim to LOVE you! This painful type of LOVE cuts deeply into the core. We as a society accept pain as part of the path of life but it is not acceptable.
As a mother, I have raised four children with LOVE, kindness and respect. Today, I choose LOVE in all situations completely. Why? I believe that LOVE is the answer to all the craziness in life that many experience and choose instead of LOVE!
What if, we decided to live and let live as the saying goes with no reaction of anger, control, criticism or judgement towards another? It is not easy but it is time to try in some way to forgive and LOVE each other. To be kind, honest and release our own fears and embrace LOVE! If there is someone in your life filled with fear, anger and judgment know they are in pain and not capable at this time to choose LOVE! Offer them your LOVE!
Look around at those you say youLOVE …
Does your heart skip a beat when you see them?
Do you respect their choices in life?
Are you in awe of their sacredness?
Have you told them that you LOVE them and showed them with an action?
When was the last time you took time to be with the one you LOVE holding hands?
What surprise do you have planned to express LOVE this Valentine’s Day or any day?
Do you see your LOVED one, really see who they are as they are?
Can you relate with LOVE when your LOVED one needs your compassion?
How true are you in life to all whom you claim to LOVE?
Do you fear expressing LOVE because of your upbringing?
Can you forgive someone who has harmed you in the past, by taking their LOVE away?
“One is loved because one is loved.No reason is needed for loving…” – Paulo Coelho
Valentine’s day will come and leave and there will be tears of surprise, engagements, joy, happiness and lots of candy and flowers. For some there will be no celebrating, no joy, happiness or candy and flowers. LOVE simply is the emotion of who you are and the life you choose to live.
If you LOVE yourself you are filled with joy, respect and happiness. It is not the normal choice for many because of the society we leave in that has created this holiday as one day to tell another and show them how we LOVE them. LOVE simply is a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly emotion in life that needs to be expressed not held back or refused. Where there is LOVE, there is action, otherwise it is just another word!
Choose LOVE for yourself and every day will be Valentine’s day!
The language of the times has changed drastically. Yesterday no longer serves this day. As a society that is separate in our belief, we now desire to unite. There is emotional pain, fear, anger, and dis-ease of our bodies, and mind. Our souls are offering clues that there is a better way to exist.
We all want peace!
We all crave to be whole!
We all need self-love!
The questions arise daily for many of us that we are unhappy, and being harmed by another’s, thoughts, words, and actions. At times, even our own thoughts that are negative do harm to us. The seeds of yesterday that were planted and fed by anyone who has ever caused any of us to fear, experience guilt, shame for not letting another control us, and grief at a loss of any kind need to be released.
Becoming aware is becoming awakened to the truth, passion, and purpose of our life existence. Somewhere along the path of believing in what our parents raised us to follow and all that society instills as a way to be, look and perform has created our truth to hide. As all of life is energy, money is the culprit in many relationships that manifest a form of suffering. We choose money over our passion and purpose in life.
We desire to be a chef, but the money is in working in our family business.
We want to be a teacher but there is no money for college, and we instead marry and raise a family.
We crave to experience life by playing music, but the money is in working with our hands.
We choose money over our innate gifts.
Life is a process of understanding that free will offers us the choice of how we want to live our lives. Everyone shows us who they are, by their decisions. This very day is the day to sit, close your eyes and reflect on where you are at this time in your life. What is it that you need to release that is no longer serving you. The following affirmations by Sohini Trehan are a way to look within and contemplate your beliefs about yourself daily.
“I am a divine being of light, and I am peaceful, protected and secure.”
Bring your attention to your legs at the base of the spine down to your feet.
Personal development stems from being grounded in our lives. If you are disconnected from your body and the world it is due to trust issues, not feeling safe, nourished, or healthy, that stem from your family, tribe and home experience.
How do you feel at this moment?
Are there any aches or pain?
Do you fall a lot?
What beliefs are yours when it comes to how you were brought up?
Who is part of your tribe on a daily basis?
Do you communicate with love to one another or fear?
Was there any negative birth experiences?
Did you ever feel abandoned or felt abused as a child?
Any childhood surgeries or severe illness or accidents?
Did you move many times when small?
Is permanent stress part of your existence now?
Aromatherapy, by using essential oils in a diffuser like cedar or clover is beneficial. Hug a tree, yoga, Pilates, walk barefoot outside, take a hike, dancing, gardening, sun on your body. Meditate. Journal about how you feel. Visualize your roots. Sit against a tree. Close, your eyes, breathe deep belly breaths and imagine your energetic roots sinking deep into the ground beneath you. Picture them connecting you to Mother Nature and know that the foundation is a solid one to build your life on.
I am radiant, beautiful and strong and enjoy a healthy and passionate life…”
Move up to sacral, place your hands on your naval area.
What is the sensation you experience at this moment?
It is here where our emotion and pleasure exist, the divine inner child and wounded child. A person who has unhealthy boundaries when it comes to relationships, money, and sex, become a martyr. The major distinction is an addiction to food, drugs, alcohol, sex, pornography, shopping, and exercise that is excessive, and chocolate and on and on. A person who wants to control others is angry and filled with rage. They are very excessive, their belief is ‘life is about me!”
Are you creative in your life by enjoying what you do daily?
Are you whole in your sexuality or is guilt in your body from past actions?
Any tumors, or miscarriages?
Prone to negative attitudes daily?
Did you sell out for money, power or sex?
Are you chronically feeling lonely or abandoned?
Do you get angry when you give to others and they are unappreciative?
Are you sacrificing your dreams and goals for another’s approval?
Do you sense impotence within?
Do the opinions of others matter most to you?
Does change terrify you?
Are you revengeful and unable to let things go?
Is there a lack of ethics?
Are you an energy vampire?
Your body needs to move; dance, slow and sensuous or wildly abandoned. How do you feel when you dance? Indulge in a treat once a week that comforts you, take a bubble bath, use scented oils, treat yourself to lunch. Keep the sexual energy moving through fantasy, books, romantic movies or sexy clothing.
“I am positively empowered and successful in all my ventures.”
Take your hands and place them on your solar plexus and imagine the power you possess as a divine being of light and love.
Do you feel powerful in your daily interactions with those you love, work with and when it comes to your parents?
Has anyone ever made you feel shame?
Are you angry?
Who do you blame?
Filled with resentment?
Only you – can do for you! Laughter is the best medicine to heal. Play! Get physically outside in sports, swimming, and connecting to the earth. Get outside every day in the sunshine. Walk by bodies of water, rivers, lakes and the ocean in the moonlight especially.
“Love is the answer to everything in life, and I give and receive love effortlessly and unconditionally.”
Now you are at your heart the bridge to the rest of your body above.
Do you love yourself?
Do you feel loved?
Are you loving?
What does your heart ache for in your romantic relationship?
How has grief kept you stuck in a relationship because of fear, guilt, and shame?
What have you refused to do with passion and purpose in your life because of grief?
Is your heart shut down?
Have you felt betrayed, or rejected?
Who do you need to forgive?
Are you resentful?
What feelings don’t you want to feel?
Being loved and loving is why you are here! Get a pet to love with joy! Meditate, journal, then journal, meditate daily! Intend to be open to loving yourself. Do what you love! When balanced with a sense of love of self and love of others a profound sense of peace and fulfillment is evident.
“My thoughts are positive, and I always express myself truthfully and clearly.”
The throat is our avenue to communicate in life with all. Now it is time to speak your truth! In the past, did someone lie to you and you were aware of it. In doing so, you have grown up to also lie as a defense mechanism because you are clueless as to why they lied. A pattern develops in all of us as we copy our parent’s behavior.
Are you honestly taking responsibility for your needs?
Do you say what you think or do you self-edit?
Do you hear and act on inner guidance?
Are living creatively?
Do you have repeated sore throats?
Frequent pain in this area?
Talk too loud, too much, stutter, or reluctant to speak?
Are you shy?
Purchase a beautiful journal that you will enjoy writing in daily all your thoughts, feelings and insights about you. Scream if you must! Singing lessons, chanting works as well. Pick a form of creative expression like a child; dance, voice, writing, drawing, painting, or whatever appeals to you. If you have relationships issues go to couples therapy to improve communication to connect. Surrender. Open to guidance to a higher power.
“I am tuned into the divine universal wisdom and always understand the true meaning of life situations.”
Between our eyes is our brow or third eye, which also is called our intuition. That which we see that is unseen. We store our memories and dream experiences. The imagination of the past and future is evident here. We also can go beyond our five senses and the physical plane. Discernment in our daily life of what we want to see or not choose to see.
Any health conditions related to the eyes, nose brain or neurological system?
Do you remember your dreams?
Are you closed-minded?
Do you deny or ignore the facts or truth in a situation?
Are you shutting off your inner guidance?
Do you believe your inner guidance does not exist?
Do you believe in a way that it is not of your moral obligations?
Are you negative first and project that out onto others in most situations?
You will benefit by sitting in silence through meditation, being in Mother Nature or even the act of prayer or taking pen to paper? These are the tools to awaken the mind of intuition. Believe that you are intuitive! Practice visualizations. Set an intention and commit to listening within for direction. Honor the information with your actions. Create a feeling of inner harmony by surrounding yourself with beauty that you love. Experience life as a child filled with wonder. Explore life more. Set an intention at night to remember your dreams and write down what you do in the morning. What is the message?
“I am complete and one with the divine energy.”
The crown of our head is our connection to the Divine in thought, consciousness, information, and intelligence. The whole process of knowing. Our search for fulfillment and enlightenment. Spirituality needs to be in the body and our daily lives not in our heads only.
Are you always in your head?
Do you have a holier-than-thou attitude?
Are you spacey?
At times are you dissociated from the real world?
Do you believe you are narrow-minded?
Do you have rigid beliefs?
Meditation, and prayer, as well as a sacred ritual, will strengthen you. Spiritual practices allow us to embrace the universal field of consciousness. Fear, anxiety, and anger tend to close off our connection to the Divine. Prayer, meditation offers a release from difficult emotions so that we live entirely in our unique life journeys.
We are all born gifted!
We need to discover this gift!
We can then live our gift with passion!
At a convenient time, take a pen and paper, light a candle and answer the above questions one by one. In doing so, you will develop a path of truth for how you want to live your life today. Your inner wisdom will guide you towards all that needs to be released by simply paying attention to how you feel in your body.
There are many doors in life that we open as we travel our journey. It seems that we choose to be born into our specific family type to discover one key. Yes, there are confrontations and diseases, illness of all kinds and demons that we suffer. We enter life as a Spirit of Light, and we grow up not remembering who we are or where we originated.
We all get to travel many different paths throughout our lives. Different schools, jobs, and relationships all come and go. Our demons sometimes get the best of us as well. Challenges and chaos seem to be part of many daily lives. The saying goes that when one door closes another door opens in life. However, there is only one key that we need to discover to open the first door to change.
“You have to believe. Otherwise, it will never happen…” – Neil Gaiman
It is a belief of many that this is it! We are here! We live! We die! The end! Some of us believe in reincarnation and that we will get the chance to be born again after we die because our souls are eternal. Karma is another example of what goes around comes around, or what you do to me, I will eventually do to you. There is a belief that we manifest in our lives lessons we need to learn lifetime after lifetime.
“A very little key will open a very heavy door…” -Charles Dickens
My understanding is that we are here to discover one key in life and that is the key to LOVE! If we wake up one morning and feel that life sucks, we are miserable, hate our job, do not understand our spouse and even dislike who we have become, well, change is needed. Fear is the culprit for staying where we are not happy. Fear of change. Fear of blame. Fear of not being loved. There are many fears and reasons, but as a Spirit of Light, you will know when it is time to make a change.
“Beliefs are choices. First, you choose your beliefs. Then your beliefs affect your choices…” – Roy T. Bennett
We are all Beings of Light, and we come to our earthly homes to discover that Love is the key that opens the door to our freedom. Many of us know that there is more to life, even a better way of living life but fear locks us in place. Look around at your life and imagine that you can live your heart and souls desires whatever they may be now. Can you believe this?
The tool that one must discover for making a change in their life is: A shift of belief …
To awaken to know your Soul is the first door of many that love opens
That you as a human are a vehicle, for the Soul is pure light born as a baby to grow and experience free will
There are lessons chosen by Self of Soul that you decided to learn from
The Soul is eternal love and focuses on bringing Light into your life
You are a Being of Light with a mission of awakening, which is due to all that the Soul has experienced every lifetime
To change is to know that there is more to your existence in life
Your Challenges and Chaos have all been agreed on but forgotten
To Be a Being of Love, You Must Choose Love
Remember You are Love, but first, You are Light.
“Where there is love there is life…” -Mahatma Gandhi
There was a time during this life experience that I filled with fear. Fear of EVERYTHING! I walked the path of my journey connected to the challenges, and chaos in life growing up. Yet, I survived and the significant change I made was to get to know me which led me to LOVE MYSELF, the one key! A Belief of Self then led me to open all the doors that I needed to live my Passion of Self and Purpose of Self.
Today, I trust that there is a process to live because I believe the Universe. I am aware that there are no mistakes and that anything is possible with Love! We as humanity residing at this time on Mother Gaia need to look within, connect to our Light and change our beliefs to manifest being responsible for our actions in our relationships to live our universal truths.
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things…” – Albert Einstein
We are preparing to let a year-end and another one to begin. The coming year 2019; holds surprises, losses, sadness, joy, kindness, happiness, and memories to cherish. Some of us will make new friends and some of us will release friends. There will be weddings and divorces, births and deaths.
How will you plan for 2019?
What action do you need to take to implement your plan?
What goals are you setting?
How will you contribute to life in general?
How does the big picture in your life look?
What are you letting go of?
I want to share with you a process of deeply looking within and answering the following questions. There does not need to be a surprise in 2019. You as a Divine Essence of God have the power to manifest your heart’s desire.
“Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life…” – Shannon L. Alder
Who do you believe you are?
In life daily, who do you show to others, that you are?
Do you have boundaries set?
How accepting are you?
How rejecting are you?
Who and what do you let in? Why?
Who and what do you keep out? Why?
Who are you connecting to through communication in your world?
What kind of relationships are you forming?
What engages you in life?
Are you learning something new?
Is your life coherent?
Are you creating wholeness around yourself?
“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect…” – Anais Nin
I have been witness to the power of taking pen to paper since I learned how to write. A form of the depth of discovery of self becomes insightful as one goes within. We as a society are bombarded by the beliefs of a world that is an illusion. The truth of self waits to be awakened by the action of our thought process.
In 2004, I received the words; “find that whichcreates freedom of thought!” Hmm, I thought to myself what does that mean? I was clueless! I was enticed by the words especially ‘creates freedom!’ The journey began and I learned through the discovery of self that I had certain beliefs and truths that were gifts of mine to embrace. I learned to disengage from anything that was no longer serving me
After answering the above questions, may we all embrace the new year with a sense of belief, knowledge, and discovery of our truth of self? We as a society of human beings are desirous of a plan to move forward. The truth is that if there is no action taken there can be no freedom from the despair in our lives. There is a part of us that seeks a form of personal growth and self-mastery in our lives. The truth of who we are is in the answers we discover as we go within.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that…” – Martin Luther King Jr.
In reflection, as I embrace the coming year 2019, I must admit I have lived the simple words of the above sentence to “find that whichcreates freedom of thought!” Connecting to the light within through the written word allowed me to create a life filled with freedom when I changed my thought process about myself, my life and others. I decided to choose love period.
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us…” -Joseph Campbell
As we travel through this month and the holiday season, and any celebrations that we join together as a family there is a silence where death has stumbled into our lives. Stumbled because some are unexpected while others are simply unbelievable.
It is these moments where we have to rise up. Our hearts shatter and we crumble at the moment a loved one is no longer visible. We just cannot fathom life without them. We grieve, cry and mourn that they are gone in sporadic episodes of deep longing. Many have even grieved a loss for years.
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart…” – Helen Keller
I always wonder why we do not remember the life they have lived? Some lives can be abusive in many forms, filled with regret and addictions but we loved them – did we not? The memories of yesterday can be filled with a smile at the mention of their name today if we search through to the end result and discover the love we felt for them yesterday. It is in acknowledging our pain with love that lets our loved one rest in peace.
Losing a child has to be the hardest no matter how old we are; parents, spouses, family members, friends, pets and people who traveled through our lives are gone, and we fill with pain. We are told this is the cycle of life but it hurts unbearably.
I believe there is a reason for everything that happens in life. During challenging times I choose to wonder what the reason could be for this happening in my life? What is the lesson for me? No one can control when life moves on, we can only choose how we react to our loss. The veil is right in front of us; so close but yet so far it seems. Out of sight is the greatest of pain we experience as a society.
“The best preparation for tomorrowis doing your best today…” – H. Jackson Brown,Jr.
I have read about the contracts we create with each other and how with free will we can genuinely make a difference of our time here.
Can it be we choose …
dis-ease, suicide, car accidents, terrorist attacks and other forms of despair to learn from?
To learn the lessons of forgiveness, endurance, and acceptance.
I imagine we all struggle with our choices; how we loved; how we acted as mother or father to our children.
What we mean to say and forgot to mention or do for another. The regrets we carry so deep that we grieve them as well.
If I could have, would have, or should have said this, done that circles our minds when we live through the death of a loved one.
What about our own defensive choices we use to survive in life.
It’s always about how we choose to think, speak, and act towards one another on a daily basis that creates memories of love or fear.
Life is the journey we get to travel daily and I, at times, ache for that moment that has slipped away. I try to recapture a word or smile even the essence of a loved one’s voice that has moved on. I believe in eternity and that we shall be together one day. Still, my heart fills with sadness that clings to me to see, hear, and touch the many that are gone.
The holiday season can bring love into our hearts as well as sadness. We can be sprinkled with the essence of an ache that takes our breath away by the experiences of death. Yet, it is said that life is eternal and our loved one lives on.
“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light…” -Aristotle
I have survived these changes in my life by believing in simple rituals that last a lifetime…
Power of prayer
Basking in the beauty of Mother Nature
Soaking in a scented bath of essential oils
A clean organic super foods and super herbs diet
Please understand and try to connect to the angels, ascended masters, spirit guides, elemental beings and loved ones that are with you daily. We are never alone. Close your eyes and see them. Ask for a visit in the form of a dream from your loved one. The signs can be many; music, license plate numbers, pennies from Heaven, a fragrant smell, flowers, even the smell of cigarettes from a loved one is a visit for you to embrace.
Believe that anything is possible and it is. Treasure the memories that fill you with emotions of the life a loved one lived with you and smile. Learn to celebrate their unique and exquisite life.
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style….” -Maya Angelou
It is the ego that wants to touch, see and hear a physical person so we grieve our loss as they rest in peace. Sometimes our grief can sweep us away for a very long time.
There are only two paths in life to travel. Remember it is fear that roars the ego-self that wants what we no longer have. Love comes from our God-self which knows that we have not lost anything as eternal beings of light.
It is the first week in December 2018 and also the last month of this year. I smile to myself reflecting on these past months and the changes I have been guided to make. In January 2018, I was inspired to ‘pause’ my life. I eliminated social media, working with clients, and I even stopped blogging for a few months.
I was on a path once again in search of what? We, you and I are the same. This I know for sure. We are one. We want and need love in our lives, to be loved, accepted, seen and filled with passion daily. We need to have a purpose. I discovered that I needed to begin at the beginning. Clueless as to where that was, I went back to 2001 where the journey of my education into the realm of Spirituality began.
“When in doubt, choose change…” -Lilly Leung
As an avid reader my entire life, books have always fueled my soul. I graduated from high school in 1969 was married in 1971 and a mom in 1977. Empty nest syndrome after raising four brilliant children took me on a journey into life in 2001, experiencing all that I needed to release and to empower myself by loving who I am as I am. Schools, Teachers, online Workshops and Retreats would nourish my body, mind, and soul.
As women, we are born into a role that is generational in many ways. My mom had many rules. Her major one was ‘dressing the bed’ immediately upon awakening. I was raised to be a wife, mother, and homemaker. I was to nurture and nourish my husband and children. These were her greatest tools she gifted me with: to food shop, cook, clean, iron and do it all with love. I also learned the power of being silent from her. In reflection, I have to acknowledge that I continue to do as I was raised. WOW! Amazingly my mom raised me well.
“Each person’s task in life is to become an increasingly better person…” -Leo Tolstoy
The many life changes I have manifested since 1969 has been always filled with love. I recall, when I wanted to go to college to be a teacher. To be told by my parents, “no,” because I would get married, have babies and keep house, did not upset me. It was the silence within that fueled me to go with the flow! I agreed! Why go to college? (Afterall, my parents only went up to the 6th grade themselves!)
It’s the ‘pauses,‘ we take in life that light the way to connect us to our truth. It’s 2018, and IAM an Evolutionary Guide; Teacher of Spiritual belief, blogger/writer and I empower others to live their truth by my alternative beliefs as a metaphysical practitioner. We as a society believe that we know what is best for others but the truth is we do not! We are all teachers and we all have lessons to learn. It is in accepting people as they are that is the greatest of challenges. Everyone shows you who they are by their words and actions! All you have to do is pay attention.
We as spiritual beings have an inner guidance system that plants the seeds of our dreams to manifest when we begin to water them. I am living proof. It may have taken me a lifetime, but I know that which fuels my soul and which I am passionate about is being of service.
This being of service comes in the format of saying ‘yes’ to life, this life today! I have learned that I can only change myself. I cannot change another! Family drama is the biggest relationship issue in most families. Still, everyone has free will to do as they please during their life experience. Look around at those you have relationships with and the many choices they make in life that are harmful to you or another. Accept them! Pray for them! Love them! That is all that is required of any of us.
When it comes to being of service the choice one chooses may be any of the following …
sharing stories through the written word or in groups,
listening to another’s story of fear, pain, sorrow with an open mind,
praying for others and sending them energy and love always,
being present and aware daily by choosing love and kindness to express at all times.
Being of service is a free action and plan that can be incorporated into all our lives; women, men, and children! The only cost is to open our hearts with love and kindness! To not be critical or judgmental! Mostly, to be aware of our thoughts, words, and actions! To do no harm is key to being of service. We must always remember that our children are watching us and we are their teachers!
“Never, never, never give up…” – Winston Churchill
It may sound simple but is it? Since 2003, I learned the power of positive thoughts and emotions that affect the body, mind, and soul. It’s interesting when we catch ourselves with negative thoughts and words towards another. The truth is we become ill. It is a darkness that settles within and must be released with thoughts of love, joy, kindness, and acceptance.
Life, today for me, has gifted me with endurance, strength, adaptability, and wisdom. These are the qualities of letting go and trusting that God has a plan for everyone.
Endurance to accept others as they are.
Strength to not be judgmental or critical of another.
Adaptability to go with the flow in all situations.
Wisdom to accept others to choose how they want to live their lives.
During my ‘pause’ I went deep into the depths of my being through meditation. I also became a vegan after watching the movie “What the Health?” Super herbs, Superfoods, Juicing, Raw foods, Minerals, and educating myself on all that would inspire me to live a healthy life began this year.
A change was surfacing once again in my life. I would discover a past teacher, David Wolfe and a new teacher Lars Rain Gustafsson and his online teaching platform The UEXL Master Mind Club Membership which is a Professional & Personal Development Mentorship Community. (bodymindinstitute.com) I signed up to learn how to set up my online teaching platform that will be birthed in 2019.
Miracles and the unseen world of spirit developed through going within and enlightened me to a new path of service by taking me into the world of the internet. I look forward to my online teaching platform in 2019. I learned that silence is the essence of my truth. It has served me well to be silent during challenging times.
“You must do the thing you think you cannot do…” – Eleanor Roosevelt
In the next few weeks, the holidays will welcome in a New Year! Goals will be set, as we plan for the big picture of our lives, by taking action, and what we can develop for personal growth will set us on our way for 2019.
If you set any goals, may one of them be to choose Love in all confrontational, ugly, unkind, situations? This does not mean that you have to continue to be in a relationship with such a person. Accept their choice and move on! Many of us believe we need to make things right but we do not! We cannot! All we can do is accept one another with love in our hearts for ourselves and them.
My list is a small one but accurate for me at this time on my journey:
to open totally to Source for spontaneity,
to share all the wisdom and knowledge I am gifted with as an Evolutionary guide through my online community by teaching universal truths,
to love all of life and be in harmony with; people, animals, nature, and God.
Mostly to continue learning for my self-mastery as a responsible, being of freedom, to contribute to humanity in service!
What does being grateful mean to you? I would like to share my list of gratitude at this amazing time in my life.. for you to reflect on! May you be blessed with insight into the amazing life you are manifesting!
IAM GRATEFUL FOR …
my connection to Spirit
my belief that anything is possible
my ability to know that there is a reason for everything
the sense of oneness I feel for humanity
the gift I possess to share unconditional love
my life experience as a daughter, wife, mother, grandmother, friend, and relative.
my greatest teacher, my husband
my children that chose me as their mom
the wisdom I learned from my children
the abundance in my life.
my health; body and mind.
the ability to be a healthy, loving grandmother in their lives.
the internet and how it connects me to my children and grandchildren on FaceTime.
the view from my kitchen, as I bask in the beauty of Mother Nature living on the water for the past 31 years.
my waterfall that I can go to and meditate by, surrounded by the beauty of Mother Nature and the elementals that are on this planet alongside us.
my journey into the world of healing and especially for the clients that let me be of service to them.
for the time to read, learn and share information.
all my blog followers; their likes, comments, and shares
Being grateful can mean many different things to most people. There are sadness and sorrows in life that are part of the journey but what about the good memories? If we reflect on our lives and move forward from the fears and pain there can be a ton of gratitude to acknowledge. Simply, bless everything as a lesson learned.
Yesterday, for me was not as simple as it is today because my thoughts were not mine. Yes, there were circumstances in my life as a child that I had no control over; addiction, abandonment, abuse, death, and loss of self. Then one day, I relived the memories in my journal and chose the process of forgiveness, and a lesson learned. I was grateful for the experience of this life I chose with my parents and moved on. I simply said, “thank you!”
Who has not lost a loved one, through illness, suicide, cancer, an accident or killing?
Who hasn’t had a lesson to learn.
An acceptance of forgiveness to offer?
A karma to heal?
Hopefully, this is the moment for us to reflect, bless, forgive and move forward filled with gratitude for the lives we are manifesting and living daily. We are the only ones that can make changes in our lives. We are in pain as a society at this time! We are angry! We are disturbed by the political choices that separate us! Yet, we do not realize that to make any kind of change in life we must change ourselves first. With a change, comes growth! We are powerful!
I am living a blessed life and I am loving life because of all of the above. I have no regrets because of the belief system that I incorporate into my life daily through prayer, meditation, taking pen to paper and getting outside in Mother Nature.
Right before I go to sleep after I say my prayers, I bless and thank all that I communicated with during the day whether in person, on the iPhone, iPad through text or FaceTime calls from my grandchildren, especially. It is a wonderful time to be alive, I believe. I AM GRATEFUL!
We as a society struggle daily with the news, politics, and relationships in our personal choices. How can we be responsible, excited, in harmony and creative within our own lives? I have developed these golden rules to unravel the fear, guilt, shame, and grief that followed me in my life since a young child. It is an interesting journey the path we travel when we are aligned with our soul’s truth. In doing so, we nourish and nurture the part of ourselves that falls into the category of self-love.
The Golden Rules for Personal Growth Stimulation and Self-Mastery are:
“And into the forest, I go, to lose my mind and find my soul…” – sun-gazing.com
Interestingly enough, the first golden rule that I developed was to connect to Mother Nature. A simple, free inclusion into a daily life of being outside in any form that we will benefit from. A walk around the block. Sitting under a tree or as a child, I use to climb trees in a park near my home with my brother. If I remember correctly, I think we actually named our trees.
At a young age, I learned never to disrespect Mother Nature. Swimming at the beach was a favorite, walking along the waters edge breathing in the salt air even captivated me later in life. Sunbathing is a time when we can relax and let the sun warm our bodies. Hiking in the woods as well as sitting in the woods are simple and effective for the changes we desire in life The act of being outside a few times a week away from electronics and breathing in the elements of earth, water, fire, and air are part of a significant golden rule. This golden rule allows us to be clear of mind and not to make assumptions in life.
“Prayer does not fit us for the greater work: prayer is the greater work…” – Oswald Chambers
Raised by any kind of religion that is our foundation comes with prayers. Praying connects us to the Divine Intelligence that we believe. Any positive word of love, and joy, as well as a blessing bestowed on another, is a form of prayer. Yes, we all have our favorites but when we acknowledge that our thoughts manifest our lives we pay attention to the words in our mind and the words that fall out of our mouths as a form of prayer. There are three superpowers that we all possess: thought, word, and action!
Growing up I never understood why people were mean and hateful with their words. I was very conscious always of how hurt I would become when someone was vicious, mean, critical or condescending to me. It filled me with a ‘zap’ of fear, guilt, and shame that lasted for years. I felt that I had done something wrong. I learned through the act of prayer to be the best that I could be in life. By paying attention to my own thoughts, words and actions I have changed my life for the better. Simply by switching from a negative thought to a positive thought takes a second. If I catch myself with words filling my mind that are not positive, I repeat three times, cancel, clear, delete!
“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect…” – Anais-nin
The benefit of the third golden rule is when we take a pen to paper in a journal. As a form of release and detaching from the fears, of guilt and shame that I experienced it was my greatest moments in life that I adhered to as soon as I could write.
The simplicity of talking to oneself in a book through the written word and releasing what did not serve me helped me to understand human nature and why people spoke and acted the way they did. Yesterday I was clueless about the power of the ego that dwells in the realm of fear. Many in my life were fearful and projected this unto me as a child. In my journal, I could release the fear and heal myself. It was a journey of going within to discover my truth and to not take anything personally.
Writing has many forms besides keeping a journal! You can keep a Goals Book, and a To Do List Book. Every morning I write whatever goals I am interested in achieving. Then I go to “The Notebook” and write all that I desire to accomplish during the day. It can be anything from journal writing, Facebook, writing my blog, posting my blog, emails, food shopping, bills, or banking. Then I check each one, as I accomplish said task.
At the end of the day, I go over the few and sometimes none at all with a yellow highlighter so that I carry those forward tomorrow. This form of writing keeps me responsible for myself every day and I found it extremely beneficial. When you think in your head about what you want to do it slips out of your mind and disappears.
“Meditation can help us embrace our worries, our fear, our anger; and that is very healing. We let our own natural capacity of healing do the work…” -Thich Nhat Hanh
Late in life, I discovered the true power of this last golden rule that I practice diligently. Meditation has healed me in many ways. I am now calm, filled with inner peace and in harmony while experiencing fun. I accept that there is a plan as well as searching for a better way to live my life.
My teacher, Deborah King states, “Meditation will help you tune into your waking life in a way you never thought you could experience. Yourconsciousness will expand. You will be able to tap into the universal energy that will assist you in healing yourself and your life. Meditation paves the way for emotional healing. On an energetic level, meditation will assist you in removing any blockages that come from holding onto anger and resentment. Meditation ushers in what may be the most important part of the energy healing process, forgiveness.”
I have found that I am loving life. I am blessed by the power of connecting to Mother Nature, my daily prayers, taking pen to paper, and of course daily sitting in silence twice a day for twenty minutes in meditation. There is a deep power that I am gifted by the silence of life in the twenty minutes I sit whether it is inside or outside, under a tree, at a waterfall or just in my backyard. I feel energized at times as well when in the middle of the day I choose to do my meditation practice.
I hope that you will pick one of these golden rules to start a journey in changing your life if you are having difficulty. Pick one for one week and then pick another to delve into the following week and so on. Remember consistency and staying focused daily is the most important on the path to follow these golden rules for personal growth, stimulation, and self-mastery.
Please join me in this adventure by going within. I would like you to take pen to paper and write yourself a letter to you from your Higher Self. Go to that place of intuition where you know that there is a Divine Intelligence and communicate openly. You are living a human existence, but you are a spiritual being.
All of us have come here with challenges and lessons to discover who we are. We have questions, and we want answers. The process is to ask, listen for an answer, and then take action. We know to ask, but we choose not to listen to the response at times. When we make no effort, there can be no change.
“A word after a word after a word is power.” – Margaret Atwood
Fear is the doubt of your being but not today! Today, you will go within and begin the journey to all that you are and all that you have lived through this lifetime. Your Higher Self knows all the answers because it has been with you forever. Your soul, my soul is the spiritual part of our existence and is eternal.
I believe we all have the same general questions! Take a look at the letter below and see if you can relate to the insight given. If you can connect, then dig a little deeper and ask for that which you need to make a change in your life today. Remember, we must take action to create a difference in our lives. There are no quick fixes or miracles. An act is a step that is needed to manifest and create change.
“Tears are words that need to be written.” -Paulo Coelho
Who am I?
What is my passion?
What is my purpose?
Why am I in this situation at this time?
Why is this happening to me again?
I do not understand _______________?
Dear Self, You did it! The silence and the unknown have brought you home. The fears, abuse, challenges, and nightmares you embraced beautifully through love and inner wisdom connects you to live your truth today.
To believe is a knowing that anything is possible! The discovery of your truth ignited your ability to change which has now led you to the light. Was it easy? No! Was their pain, yes! And, you survived!
Without questions, there were no answers; only belief. The moment of your call, your heart opened wide as it filled with love to heal; your story-your fears-your demons! Your soul will now give you a gift of hope to share.
The challenges are part of the life experience for all, but once you saw the lesson, you grasped part of your destiny. You never doubted that the process would be lengthy or complicated. The beat of your heart told you to travel the journey forward because the end was your destiny.
The ego quivered fearfully of no longer being heard, as you ran forward without looking back. It took a lifetime of many difficulties, but you chose to see with love; speak with passion and be love! In doing so, you will help many.
You did it! You changed your story to share with the world. A belief that anything is possible when one beckons the unknown to walk along the path of one’s desires and passion. In doing so, we all discover our truth of purpose. It is merely that which fuels you living as a spiritual being having a human experience.
“I write to discover what I know.” -Flannery O’Connor
May the light within guide you on your path and journey of discovery. We as humans, struggle with the fears and demands made on us in life. What if, we merely went within for the answers to these demons and nightmares that grip us but which we need to release and let go of today.
Hopefully, your answers will enlighten you on that which is your purpose because you are passionate about it. In doing so, it all comes down to how we choose to live our life at this time. For change to appear on our journeys, we are the only ones who can take a step towards the action of our dreams.
She walked past the window and out of the corner of her eye she did not recognize herself. She trembled at her reflection. She felt like picking up a stone and flinging it at the window. Then she looked again and there she was. Her eyes were beckoning to her to look deeper.
“Sometimes, you have to look back in order to understand the things that lie ahead.” – Yvonne Woon
She took a deep breath and stood perfectly still as she looked into the window and her life. It flashed right before her eyes at her reflection. Slowly the tears began to fall. The sudden deaths, miscarriages, and divorces she had experienced. The pain of abuse, abandonment, and addiction.
Of course, she had to change. Those memories had to change how she looked to the world unless someone was to look genuinely at her. What would they see? She looked into her eyes and saw her inner self-hanging on by her fingertips. She heard the voice, ‘help me!” As she wiped away a tear, she smiled and walked away!
In that instant, the door opened to grasp the lessons that were evident in her life. Recently she had discovered that there is a reason for everything that happens in life through this power many have called manifestation. Along the way, there seemed because of this power of expression that there are no mistakes in life. We actually as humans manifest and create our existence by our thoughts, words, and actions. We have superpowers!
“Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.” -Roy T. Bennett
Kindness was the word she reflected on at this moment. All she could gather was that people did not know how to be kind. Why? So she decided to be kind to everyone even strangers. What harm could come from a smile, a hello, maybe just a thank you? She started her mission that very day and was amazed that people were receptive.
It dawned on her that people were engulfed daily in their personal stories. As she reflected on this thought, she agreed because had she not also held her story close to her heart. Today, she realized anyone could change their story. There was a time where she felt the pain and sorrow daily. Not ever realizing that all she had to do is to leave the despair in the past.
She began to embrace that inner self, her inner child that had been hanging on and asked for help. She started to pay attention to those she shared her life. As she traveled to different celebrations and met many people while talking to them, she observed: that there were two kinds of people. Like her in the past, there were many filled with fear. While others mostly were happy and chose to love.
She wanted to learn how to choose love forever and ever. The journey began on that day as she searched through books, courses, retreats, and workshops to discover a new way of being. To change, forgive and release her story. In learning all about the central fear of self that stemmed from the ego, she would also determine where the self of love was. It was a simple two-step belief: choose fear or choose love.
“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” -Paulo Coelho
Thinking back to the reflection of herself in the window, she realized she had been filled with fear her entire life. So she asked herself what was she afraid of most of her life? All her worries had begun in her childhood and were not of her belief system today. Cellular memories could be triggered in any situation and pop up right there, and then, and fear would rise she recalled. If there was to be no fear anymore then like her, anyone could change their story. In her heart, she believed that anything was possible.
Today, she knew deep within that there is no reason to fear. Now she looked at the choice of love which was a connection to the self within which is one’s Spirit. She knew that once connected to the Spirit of Self; love was the only option to choose. Spirit has no fear. Spirit is Love. Instead of allowing memory to surface from the past as a trigger all she had to do was embrace the choice of love no matter what was going on because fear is not real.
Amazingly, she wanted to travel this path and journey in life by choosing only love. She decided to think up a process to do so. Maybe a type of plan to follow she imagined? After all taking action is vital to change as she learned by making decisions with her heart and being logical about this process of life we as humans experience.
How does one connect to their Spirit of Self, she wondered? She took pen to paper after mediating and began with how she changed her life to be free of fear and only to choose love. Knowing today that it was a challenge and that she struggled for years merely to believe that she could.
“One should eat to live, not live to eat.” -Benjamin Franklin
Here is the plan, to taking action, while opening your heart and making logical decisions in life:
1. Speak words of love that are positive and affirm them often.
2. Learning to meditate and sit in silence while going within.
3. Writing in a journal as an act to process the past, forgive, and release it.
4. Setting goals down in a book that begins as affirmative sentences of who you are and how you want to live.
5. Creating Sacred Space in the home, with incense, candles, crystals, and essential oils where the essence and energy of the divine could enter.
6. Journeying outside and embracing the beauty of Mother Nature.
7. Reading of Spiritual books to enlighten the heart to open as to how the ways of ritual and how our ancestors believed.
8. Consuming healthy organic raw foods, superfoods, super herbs and fewer animal products, and more plant-based meals as part of daily consumption.
At this time in the evolution of life, let us individually, contemplate the following …
1. Do you love yourself?
2. Are you healthy?
3. Do you know your purpose?
4. Are you happy?
Interestingly many will answer, ‘yes’ that they love themselves. If health is an issue? There is no clue as to what their purpose of life is? They are not happy? Then many are lying to the depths of their inner core of self. The majority of people tend to look outside of themselves for happiness. Whether that be; material objects, food, addictive choices or merely a new relationship.
What is this concept of loving the self all about anyway? When a man or woman love who they are in life and how they are experiencing life the following appears in their life. They take the time to nurture and nourish their body, mind, and soul. In doing so, they choose healthy foods to consume which means they do not eat processed foods.
Processed foods are all foods that come in plastic and boxes. Fast foods are the worst possible foods any of us can consume. Chemicals, genetically modified organisms are in these types of foods, as well as toxins and pesticides, especially if we are not choosing organic. It has come down to learning about ingredients in our food and what we are putting in our mouths. If you cannot pronounce the ingredients, don’t eat it!
Foods that are not real, not fresh, not healthy wild fish, not organic free-range meats are harming the body. First, we are a soul, eternal beings that need to nurture the desires of our soul by connecting to Mother Nature. Second, we have a mind that is abundant with wisdom to share with others in whatever creative outlet we desire. Third, we have a body which as a vehicle for our soul needs to be nourished to live.
We are together on this planet to grow, expand and develop our souls which are eternal. Begin by eliminating processed foods. Choose to expand our minds through the act of reading spiritual books, taking classes on subjects that interest us. Many that love themselves also love Mother Nature. That is where the magic in life happens; a walk outside, planting, growing foods, swimming, hiking, sitting in the sun, meditating under a tree. Being one with nature by being in nature is medicine!
When we learn to meditate which is staying focused for at least 20 minutes, we center, and ground ourselves to spirit. A form of meditation can be watching our breath go in and out. Others are; walking outside in silence, running, sitting under a tree, hiking, swimming, playing the guitar or another instrument, journaling, reading a spiritual book. We as human beings on this planet need to take the time to rest, relax and be one with spirit at least once a day.
When we are happy, and healthy because we love ourself, we will then discover our purpose. Whatever we are passionate about doing, creating, manifesting is our mission today. That which is part of our goal in life is to love ourselves so that we can love another? The another in life is all of life. Our relationships, with our parents, sibling, spouses, children, grandchildren, friends, co-workers, and bosses. A simple smile, a greeting of hello, acknowledgment to anyone from the mailman to the supermarket clerk will change your life.
Let’s look at dogs for the lesson that they can offer to us when it comes to unconditional love. Dogs show us how to love unconditionally by their excitement to see us each and every time. They do not care how we look, dress, wear our clothes or how we act. They love us as we are period. I am a dog lover and have had a few dogs through my life experience. But this lil guy ‘Buddiethepom’ has an Instagram page you can follow. He is 13 years old and has a fan base. Why? He gives the essence of love to all …
If there are any health issues we are concerned about, let’s take the time to check in with what foods we are consuming. Why do we consume fast foods, processed foods, junk foods, alcohol, and drugs? If we truly love who we are as we are, we will choose more vegetables, superfoods, maybe once a week eat a vegetarian meal or even a plant-based meal. Drinking enough water with a pinch of Sea Salt is a priority in life instead of soda or chemical-filled drinks. Take a look at the benefits of herbs that are available instead of popping a pill. If you are not aware of what healthy foods are then take a course. www.BodyMindInstitute.com is a great choice to begin with to be inspired to eat healthy for yourself or if you are inclined to teach.
If you are not happy and you want to be, YOU MUST begin to love who you are as you are. Forgive your past. Forgive yourself. Forgive everyone that may have hurt you in some manner. Bless your future. Learn alternatives to help you on this fantastic light-filled, loving world that we all live in together. We will look back one day and discover we have regrets. It is never too late to release anything that no longer serves any of us today. Hopefully, when it is our time to transition we will smile and say, “I lived a great life!”
“I asked myself, “do I sit here and admire the view, or do I keep going and see what is on the other side?” Mother Nature is beautiful. She has such a wide range of emotions that it is hard not to love them all.” – Anthony T. Hincks
We as a people, spiritual beings living a human existence, are abusing our mother. We cringe and suffer from weather that terrifies us. We are extremely busy when it comes to daily disregard for her beauty. We choose to liter her paths and contaminate her fields with abusive pesticides. We destroy her trees continuously, fill her oceans with debris and plastics. We have more garbage that is wasteful, and we now need to recycle.
“Forests are the lungs of our land. ” – Franklin D. Roosevelt
Yesterday, was not so long ago where the memory of climbing a tree with my brother filled me with joy. It was then when I learned to respect mother and never liter her. There was little in the way of plastics, as well. As a family, we ate at home never in a restaurant and had no take-out plastic or styrofoam boxes to discard. Life may have been simpler only because there was less.
Our mother still blesses us daily with her beauty; parks, beaches, oceans, and forests. Trees, birds, flowers, green pastures and the warmth of her sun as it shines down on our faces. We have decided to ignore our mother! In doing so, our abuse of her is destroying her. How do we begin to pay her respect for all that she has provided? We each need to ask ourselves what we can personally do on a daily basis.
Pay respect to mother by going to her beaches, taking a swim in her waters, sitting in a park, hiking through her woods. Show her that you see her. Embrace her so she can embrace you back. Open your heart to her beauty and be grateful for her belief in us as humans. Thank her. Merely say; “thank you, mother!”
Recently, I have discovered the cleanest, freshest, energy in the simplicity of walking through the woods. There is joy in hugging a tree and sitting in meditation outside. Being thankful that mother nature is there for me whenever I am in need of her sustenance fills me with happiness. To sit under her moon and be witness to her love for me. To float on her seas while surrounded by her elements in a way fills me with an energy that is bountiful. How do the elements; earth, water, fire, and air, play a role in your life?
“There is nothing more musical than a sunset.” – Claude Debussy
I no longer climb her trees, but I am capable of hugging them and talking to them. I speak to the trees and thank them for their protection and shade. I am grateful for the fruits they bare for me to eat. I am thankful for the plants, flowers, and foods that I consume from the depths of her being as she nourishes me. Even her water that cleanses my body, clothes, and house and quenches my thirst I find delightful.
When mother shutters and shakes and lighting bolts roar her strength in the sky, I tremble at her anger. When her tears fall from the heavens, I imagine her sadness. At times when the waters rage and wind forces life to be unbearable, I believe how difficult it must be for our mother to cleanse herself. The moments she decides to freeze over and cover herself with a blanket of white snow and ice chills me to the bone.
I am amazed that so many of us are clueless as to how we can help our mother in distress at this time. She cannot do it alone. It need not be only her who concentrates on raising her vibration. If we as society tried personally to raise our vibration, life would be much more comfortable. The most natural act is to acknowledge that we need her, love her and are grateful for her.
“Plant seeds of happiness, hope, success, and love; it will all come back to you in abundance. This is the law of nature.” – Steve Maraboli
To choose love, kindness, joy, and happiness as the tools of our existence can make a difference. To waste less when it comes to everything! To recycle as much as we can. To stop buying plastic water bottles. To eliminate processed foods from our diets daily that have no value to our lives. To instead bless and thank all of our mother’s plant-based foods, superfoods, super herbs, organic fruits, veggies, nuts, and grains that will nurture us and her at the same time.
We are the ones in a state of despair by our choices when it comes to how we think, speak and act. We are the most potent beings; we can ever imagine. It is time now for change, love, and kindness towards one another, as humans and the animal kingdom. In the end, the compassion and love will manifest tenfold from our mother to us.
Abuse is prevalent in our society and many of our hearts are broken, dis-eased (breast, lung, thymus disorders plus asthma and immune system deficiency) because we are in pain by a person who claims to love us. We choose especially, as women to give our POWER and OUR RIGHTS away in the name of love?
We have a chakra system within. Which are the blueprint for our soul! Our heart is the fourth chakra and ‘Our right to love and be loved.’ As well as being the bridge between the lower and upper chakras.
Chakra One – ‘Our right to be here’
Chakra Two – ‘Our right to feel’
Chakra Three – ‘Our right to act’
Above the heart Chakra Five – ‘Our right to be heard’
Chakra Six ‘Our right to see’
Chakra Seven ‘Our right to know.’
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wilde
When our chakras are balanced, it is our right to experience the following:
– Chakra 1 / Our foundation (base of spine), we feel safe, secure and comfortable in our physical body.
– Chakra 2 / Our sensation (sacral), we feel sensual, passionate, emotional and fluid.
– Chakra 3 / Our identity/power (solar plexus), we are action-oriented, self-assured and courageous.
– Chakra 4 / Our relationships (heart) are compassionate, loving and harmonious
– Chakra 5 / Our resonance (throat), is expressive, creative and we are communicative
– Chakra 6 / Our insight (third eye/brow), is intuitive, imaginative and perceptive
– Chakra 7 / Our understanding (crown), is wise, transcendent, visionary, open-minded, intelligent and thoughtful.
Let us journey into the wounded/closed unbalanced heart chakra. It is the beautiful color of emerald-green. There are many different kinds of hearts in our society; some become damaged by fear, guilt, shame, grief, lies, anger, and hate. Some are chipped at daily by the act of mental abuse, betrayal and physical abuse from a loved one. To heal the heart, we first must examine our belief around self-love and self-acceptance. Forgiveness begins with ourselves and where appropriate towards others.
“All abuses traumatize the heart chakra as they betray love.” – Anodea Judith
Our hearts suffer even from movies, the radio, and newspapers when we hear of killings and violence toward our fellow humanity. The abuse towards our planet bruises our hearts, as well as tornadoes, hurricanes, and forest fires. Our hearts are sensitive to what we are connected to daily whether it be by sight, sound, touch, emotional or spiritual. Sometimes in conversation one can become triggered by another. A flashback to a time when words by a loved one hurt.
If any chakra is out of balance, it is due to the act of neglect, abuse, grief and not feeling loved which affects our heart. We as a society, as parents, siblings, friends, lovers are strong. We are powerful! Our power stems from our thoughts, words, and actions. We are unaware of the damage that is done by the apparent abuse of our words towards someone we claim to love which if unkind, is a form of abuse.
Parents are influential. They can heal or harm a child that grows into an adult. Words are like swords in our heart! Painful memories in our soul! Sometimes this hurt and pain travel lifetimes with many of us. A wounded, closed heart stems from becoming detached, and refusing to change or grow towards a joyful destination in life as a human.
“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.” – William Shakespeare
Everyone is aware of that feeling while lying in bed when we feel an inner ache in our chest. Deep in our heart area because a loved one of ours is experiencing abuse of some kind, has a dis-ease, or has transitioned over. There is no reason for such pain in our lives, which can be healed by beginning to choose love. Peace can arrive, even if someone is no longer here through prayer and meditation. A loss is a deep pain that fills our heart with sorrow but when we choose to love we will be healed.
I believe those with deep wounds that have closed their hearts carry fear, profound grief, and criticism because they feel unaccepted and are afraid of involvement and commitment. They need to achieve some power over others to feel deserving, right and that they are in control. They may long for tenderness but due to their prior abuse from a loved one have difficulty admitting it. They are looking for approval because they believe that approval means love. What type of disapproval did they experience is the question?
“Thus children … are confronted by a tormentor they love, not one they hate and this tragic complication will have a devastating influence on their entire subsequent life. ” – Alice Miller
Another form of abuse is abandonment that does damage to the heart. Not feeling worthy of love, no rules, and no boundaries set the child forward on a path of not believing they are essential. Something happened to these adults in the past that has been buried deep within that they refuse to release. They cling to a form of escape with a wounded, closed heart when it comes to love by not letting in any emotions or feelings to surface. It is their grief, anger, hate, and fear that they feed and nourish daily.
We will never know why but they have never felt loved or worthy of love. They live a life of pain and keep a barrier up to protect themselves. Within their essence is this belief that they are alone, separated and need to defend who they are from others through abuse. It comes down to them choosing a defensive, negative pattern.
When all our chakras are balanced, and we have a healthy heart, there is no dis-ease in the body. There is no addiction, no fear, no guilt, no shame, no grief, no lies, attachment or illusion. As these are the demons of all the chakras starting with Chakra One.
Please ask yourself at this time what demon are you feeding? What is it within you that you are nourishing daily as that demon that you cling to because of something that happened to you yesterday by a loved one. What right have you discarded because of another’s abuse toward you?
There are lessons in life, and sometimes we are not aware of the teaching until it is too late. Hurting another’s heart willingly, and consciously hurts our heart as well. Kindness, love, and support are the tools we as humans need to strive for in our relationships. If we can open our hearts to know we are worthy of love today because we are born of love our lives will manifest greatness.
After years of having our heart chipped away by abusive words, damage to our psyche and exhaustion to our mind, we hold on tightly to our innocence of self. A discovery of self-opens the door for our freedom to arrive. Sooner or later a wounded, closed heart affects all those around them. No one has the right to take away even one of the seven rights that we are born with as a spiritual being having a human experience. Know you are worthy of love today.
I am filled with awe for the life we as humans are experiencing. It’s a very exciting/emotional time. With the holidays approaching, I look forward to the decorations, music, brisk fresh air and snow. My heart skips a beat when I see the first snowfall each year. There is such a joy in the memories from my childhood and my children growing up. Now I am blessed to have grandchildren to play in the snow with.
What are the main reasons one is thankful for anything at this time of year? I always wonder at the happiness but yet sadness that travels this path during the season. Like many, I too have lost people who have transitioned home. Today, I recall the memories I shared with them and I feel grateful that we shared years and for those times we laughed together. All of our minds are filled with pictures of what was and how happy or sad we have been with certain people.
A disease is the hardest to bear. A sudden death, so unexpected knocks one to the floor. A suicide makes us question and ask why of the universe? We cry, scream and suffer from the moment of death because of what will not be. I like to imagine and celebrate the life that was! Knowing that there is a reason that everything happens in the world, I am grateful for all those who I have travelled this path and journey with whether for years or for a short time. It is the memories which I am thankful for this Thanksgiving!
The holidays are for the children, family, gift giving and generosity. It is a joyous time for all as we fill our hearts with love for mankind and those we share our lives with. Forgiveness is key to what was but is not now possible for many. Go into your photo book in your mind and fill with glee at those happy times of yesterday. The silly times where you were excited, joyful and laughing. We all have them…
This year I would like to bless all that have lost a loved one through the act of a hurricane, earthquake, terrorists attack, suicide, natural causes, cancer or any other disease or mass killing of any kind. Let us join together in prayer for them and for us. Set a candle in celebration for their life this year during the holidays and forgive those who are now free by their own hands. May they all rest in peace as we pray for them.
We are one in life and in death. We are one through the years. We are one in every country on this planet. We are capable of love towards each other if we just look at all that we have to be grateful for and thankful for at this moment in time. Peace of mind, love in our hearts, kindness on our lips, and forgiveness of ourselves and others will bring joy to each one of us.
There was a time years ago, when the crack in my heart opened wider and wider. Death, depression, fear, and abuse dragged me to the ground. Now as I look back, I see that we as a society are here to be the best we can be. To take the lessons learned and thrive.To be of service, to become our truth. To live our dream and to let others live theirs.
Meditation is the tool that can rescue everyone from their cracked heart. Simple to just sit but difficult to incorporate into ones life daily. I tell many to meditate and they say they do not know how. I cannot imagine starting my day without this amazing comfort of silence in my mind connected to spirit. During this time of year, if there is sadness in your life, despair of any kind, even fear go to www.DeborahKing.com and learn how to meditate with your own personal mantra. Trust me you will be thankful that you did.
I struggle no more! I fear no more! I despair no more! I am peace! I am love! I am joy! That is the beauty of meditation and I am thankful for being guided to have known, I needed to sit in silence yesterday, today and tomorrow. Being grateful. Being thankful. One needs to go through their mind at the end of the day and reflect on those they were with, those they spoke to, their actions and words. Then take a breath and rejoice in the life experience they have manifested. I am grateful! I am thankful! Three words that make a difference as you go to sleep.
It matters not the news, radio, television or what others say that fill you with fear. There is nothing to fear, there is only love to be embraced, to be thankful for. We are connected by the earth we all walk, the water that flows for all to use, the fire in the sky that beams down on us when the sun warms us, and the air that we breathe. Be thankful for these elements that join us as a family of one no matter what is going on in our lives. Try desperately to remember and use as a mantra, Love is all there is!
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” -Lao Tzu
I love you! I swear I do! Yes, I do. Love is how I feel about you, I swear… I also love puppies, chocolate, apple pie, sunrises, sunsets and snow. I love the smell of fresh clothes. I love the aroma of a home cooked meal. I love candles and incense. I love the moon when it shines brightly in the sky.
Years ago, I loved ironing my children’s clothes and doing the wash. Believe it or not, I love cleaning my house. I love my life and the freedom these days to blog, read and write.
I love the way my grandchildren call me “LaLa” and how they hug and kiss me. I love watching my children as adults and now as parents. I love the sound of my grandchildren laughing. I love their voice as they tell me “I love you!”
“Where there is love there is life.” -Mahatma Gandhi
I will tell you what love feels like now. My heart swells with pride for the things I love and treasure, especially books. I can sit in my kitchen and feel part of the world as I look out upon the water. Grateful and thankful for the home I live in. I love the memories of days gone by.
The love I feel within thumps in my heart at the memory of my home when I am away. I crave to be back in my home. I feel safe and comforted by the surroundings of my home. I enjoy the beauty that surrounds my home daily just looking outside my kitchen.
Love is the essence one feels for another; a place, an object or simply a good book. Love is respect. Love is joy. Love is happiness. Love is all there is to attach oneself to daily.
“We accept the love we think we deserve.” -Stephen Chbosky
We as a society throw the word, love around on a daily basis towards those we claim to love! However, actions speak louder than words. Love is an emotion that fills our hearts and entire being at the birth of a baby, at a young couple on their wedding day, at special occasions and at the end of a loved ones life.
Love is the warmth that takes our breath away when we see the beauty of Mother Nature in a flower. The first snowfall can be a memory of love from one’s childhood. A walk in the woods is the essence of true love. Love waits for us to become aware of all that can be reflected as love back to us in the simplicity of life. Life is meant to be enjoyed, to actually love your life and all that you share it with.
“I have decided to stick to love… Hate is too great a burden to bear.” -Martin Luther King, Jr.
In between birth and death, how many times have we spoken the words, “I love you?”
How many times afterward have we then gossiped, abused or hated the same person we claimed to love?
How many mothers smother their children by controlling them constantly, verbally abuse their daughters or simply treat grown children as if they were their property?
How many husbands mentally mistreat their wives disrespectfully but say they love them?
What about the mother who tries to constantly correct her daughter and how she chooses to dress, wear her hair or even raise her children?
How about the dad that is short tempered and drunk who scares his child with his outbursts?
Where is the love?
How is abuse of any kind love?
I have become aware of this simple word that we use but which at times means nothing to another. We as a society have abused ourselves and those we claim to love! We abuse our planet daily and yet all Mother Earth offers us is love.
Many are unacceptable of their adult children and their choices in life? Many are disrespectful of their parents as grown children because they believe they now know better! Do we actually believe we know better than our parents? How could we ever know what they have known? Think about that!
There seems to be in our society a need for love. There is an emptiness to our words which we claim without emotion when we say; “I Love You!” Would you believe me if I claimed that I loved you and then when I saw you I was unkind, mean, and actually a bit nasty?
“And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” -Paul McCartney
There comes a moment in time when the word love actually means nothing to someone who is abused by another who claims to love them. Many women today believe that they are unworthy of love. Why? To receive love one must give love! Love stems from our essence. We are born love.
Life distinguishes love right before our eyes in some cases by the despair we experience. And yet we allow love to disappear and ask not why? If there is any kind of abuse in your life, that is because another’s ego is roaring fear, not love! Ask yourself, why this person has the right to abuse you? Why do you allow abuse to be part of your life? Love yourself first and only then will the abuse stop!
There is sadness, and an ache for all that will never be. The loss is part of life as change is the process. Nothing ever stays the same. We live, and we die. We discover, and we make choices. Sometimes they are excellent choices and sometimes they are not. My thought is about processing the loss we experience. The only thing that is constant in all our lives is change.
“Mostly it is the loss which teaches us about the worth of things.” – Arthur Schopenhauer
The loss of our loved ones, the loss of our relationships, our jobs and even the loss of our pets. Terrorism is a loss, as well as drastic changes in our weather, fire, and hurricanes. There is a loss where a person you love cannot find their place in life and ends up as a loss to themselves and others. They only are fighting a battle that they cannot win unless they incorporate change into their existence.
Life can be dark. Life can be scary and feel unsafe for some. The loss is that which we cannot release as the pain seeps deep into our mind and body. We get that lump in our throats when triggered by another’s loss. We know our loss, and we feel their loss. How do we deal with these nightmares in our lives? The loss we feel is simply the horror that we experience or one we anticipate.
Tears need to fall. Tears are required to stream down our face and wet our lips as we process the pain of loss. Does it matter what type of damage there is? No! What is important is that we handle the loss and deal with the pain through meditation, prayer, journaling, and by embracing Mother Nature.
“Grief is NOT a disorder, a disease or sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.” – Earl Grollman
To embrace Mother Nature, we stroll through the streets of our neighborhood, walk through a park, sit in the sand at the beach. We need to breathe in the essence of her beauty to heal the heart that is wounded. Her vision will allow us to taste the salt air on our lips as the sun warms our face! To be grounded in the presence of Mother Nature will heal us. As we heal others will heal as well.
Many years ago when I was struggling with a loss of self actually, it was a daily walk outside and at the beach that comforted me. I felt connected to something that was bigger than me. I felt loved by the beauty of nature. It took me some time to heal and find that I could love me as I am. There was no loss anymore sitting within. I grew from the experience of this as we all can grow from any loss that we allow to shut us down.
Death is a significant loss of life for everyone. I have decided to stop counting the deaths in my life experience. I cannot imagine how much more will come. As I cannot choose who lives or dies, it is my freedom to accept that change, loss and death are part of the game. I believe that we are eternal beings, so there is no death just a transition from this life to the other side of the veil.
“No one ever really dies as long as they took the time to leave us with fond memories.” – Chris Sorensen
The process of life and death which equals loss is to grieve as long as is necessary. To cry, go to bed but for no longer than 48 hours with the covers over our head. Disconnect from life for a few days and feel the pain. Journal. Meditate. Pray. It will help us and those we are grieving if we pray for them. There is no set time to grieve. We must grieve those we lose to their transition. I always imagine that life and death is a tremendous plan we incorporate in the spirit world before we arrive as part of the game of life.
I recall, years ago when my brother died my mom wore black for two years. In looking back, my grandmother wore black all of her life because of the deaths of her many children. Was it a way of showing the world, ‘I am in pain.’ ‘I am grieving a loss.’ ‘I am sad.’ Today we seem to jump right back into our lives and forget to stop and mourn. To breathe in the death and loss of someone we loved is extremely necessary. Eventually, illness will surface if we do not take the time to grieve our loss.
Life has a blanket around each of us that is comforting at times, but at other moments it seems not to be able to keep us warm. It can be itchy or too thin! The drama in our lives that surround a loss is the sadness of the heart for that which will never be. Can we scream and beat ourselves up for something that we have no control over. No! Can we blame ourselves for something we have no control over when something or someone comes to its end? No!
The loss we all experience is part of life as we change and grow into our awareness. It matters not the type of loss but that we take the time to feel the pain. We need to reflect on our lives and our loves. We will heal from that which has changed because our lives are all eternal.
Loss of self is the hardest for the person and those around them. To not understand because of confusion, to change ever so slowly on a daily basis because the mind is confused. The onset of dementia creeps into an entire families world not only the victim of said illness. Dementia changes the mind as well as the way the person acts because the memory begins to fade. It is almost as if they do not even know if they spoke or not. The sadness that surfaces are coupled with anger because they do not know if they spoke out loud, inside their heads or did not speak at all. It must feel as if they are going insane to them.
“It all goes away. Eventually, everything goes away.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
Years can pass by and still there is something different, but no one can grasp the significance of dementia that is creeping into their lives. We as a society expect those we love, as they age to have loss of memory. However, loss of memory and dementia are different because of the confusion that sets in as well. It is not a matter of where I put the keys but more about what are the keys for with dementia.
All loss fills us with pain. All loss is sad. All loss at one time or another will touch all of our lives. The loss of our lives is part of the game of life. We simply need to become aware and prepare ourselves that loss is possible. The loss we get to experience is part of life!
“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live…” – Norman Cousins
I’m wondering if there are tools to help one process the death of a loved one. I believe it does not matter as much as who died, when or where but that they are no longer here. We cannot see them, talk to them or touch them. What do we grieve most then; the touch of them, not ever seeing them again, or the absence of their voice.
What are we grieving?
Why are we grieving?
Who are we grieving?
My mom lived in Puerto Rico for the last 26 years while I lived in New York. She had dementia and did not know me or anyone else for the last few years. Then she was gone. I was motherless! I became fatherless in 1998! I cried for that which will never be and for that which had not been. Yes, I cried tears that filled up my heart to bursting. For me, because she was simply no longer here on the planet with me. Sharing the air, I breathe daily. Looking up at the moon and stars that I loved. All these years I just knew that she was here, only far away which comforted me in some way.
Then one day I was filled with a deep calmness when I realized she was finally at peace, resting and smiling down at me. It was her life, not mine that she lived. It was her life to live as she chose because God gives us all ‘free will. Slowly it dawned on me one day, how we accomplished a perfect teaching as mother and daughter together this lifetime.
Finally, I looked back at our relationship and all that I had learned from her. I felt blessed that she was an amazing teacher. I felt happy that I had chosen her to learn from all that I could. To be the wife and mother, I am today because of her. I remembered her and how she laughed, how I felt laughing with her. The little gifts she always needed to purchase for me when I was visiting her. She had a talent of nourishing me with food and love when it was just the two of us, many yesterdays ago.
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on…” -Robert Frost
I honored and respected her always even when I felt abandoned by her. Today, I understand it was her grief that she became stuck in when my brother died in a head-on collision by a drunk driver in 1988. It wasn’t me! It was her loss, fear, and sorrow. Fear was the foundation always of her existence, in that she chose dementia to escape into, to survive as long as she did. I recently went and bought her favorite perfume from when I was young, and every morning I spray my space with her and say, “Mom, let’s start the day together!” And off I go knowing she is by my side.
I imagine you are like me struggling with a loss of some kind. It doesn’t always have to be a death. It can be a divorce, a job, a friendship that ended or just that we cannot find where we belong in life. Maybe what we are grieving is not about another but our grief at this time. The simple end to something or someone!
Can it be that we are grieving our loss, our fears, and our sorrow? It has nothing to do with the deceased. Our heart aches and tears run down our face as we try to understand how we will exist without them. The deceased are at peace. But, I can’t imagine even if that is possible the way we carry on about them leaving us. They must feel guilty and sad!
“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time …” – Mark Twain
Whenever I pass a funeral procession, I say a prayer for the living family and friends of the deceased. As well as, a prayer that the living let the dead rest in peace. I have read that everyone handles grief differently. Some have regrets. Others have a fear of death. Some of us get stuck deep in our minds and cannot comprehend the loss, as my mom did. We cannot handle our grief! Maybe it is time to look at the reasons why we struggle with grief in such a heartbreaking manner.
For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one. – Khalil Gibran
What can we do, when our hearts break apart violently because of the death of a loved one?
How can we survive the loss of friendship, job, or even a divorce?
Are there any tools that we can grasp onto which will help us to heal?
Fear of our death is the first tool that needs to be accepted. Life will always end in death for every living person, animal, insect, plant and fish. Death is the only process there is to life. We have all chosen a life experience that must begin and end. We will never have the answers for why a baby dies, or why another life lives to old age crippled with disease.
What we all must comprehend is that we chose a plan and that there is a purpose to each life. The reality is that there is a reason for everything that happens in life. Especially, today when there are so many killings across our world by terrorists, suicides, and death to drug-related deaths. I have read that we choose our life experience to either heal our karma or heal another’s karma! We agree to die at a given moment to help heal ourselves or another member of our family group because life is eternal. There is no death. There is a transition period. We need to express love.
No regrets are the second tool that many will find hard to process. Usually what we regret is an action we did not accomplish. We didn’t visit our parents, offer support to our friend, we were always abusive, negative, confrontational or we just could not be bothered with their drama. Our actions will always speak louder than our words. We all deserve a second chance, a third chance, maybe even a fourth chance!
Even when a baby or child dies suddenly or due to an illness, there can be no regrets. We must remember there is a plan. All we can do is take their death and make something good out of it. Remember you chose this life and everyone in it that travels the path along your side.
There is no loss, brings us to our third tool. Our souls are eternal. Our bodies are our vehicle. How we take care of our vehicle is a clue to how long it will last. Everyone knows how to eat and what to eat to remain healthy – yet we choose consciously to eat what will harm us. Like putting soda instead of gas in a car. We are witness to many celebrities dying of drug overdoses or obesity in some cases. Why are we shocked suddenly, as we say; “What a sin, he/she died so young?” It is not a sin. They did not take care of themselves! Their vehicle was misused and mistreated.
“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive…” – John Green
We must believe that our loved ones visit us in dreams, with signs, symbols, music, smell and coins. Know that the best process to help a loved one who has transitioned is to pray for them. Thank them for the time you shared, the happy and joyful memories you now possess. To continue to send them love. To forgive them if they had any additive behavior. As well as forgiving yourself! Know it was all part of the plan.
I have read that when one door closes another door will open. Divorce, jobs, relationships run a course. One knows when the reason for divorce or leaving a job or relationship is necessary if there is any form of abuse. No one has permission to verbally, mentally or physically abuse us through their addictive behaviors. It is not allowed! Many of us survive abuse to be part of our existence because we feel we are worthy of said abuse. Or, maybe we do not know how to make a change to better ourselves. The addiction in life that dulls our souls is the drama we become addicted to daily.
“Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75 …” – Benjamin Franklin
When we cry, scream, ache deep within with pain it is not for them. It is for us! We hurt! The question is why? Look at it this way, you traveled a life journey with a loved one together laughing, dancing, raising children, maybe working together, or you were a child, friend, sibling, spouse or even a parent. The memories are bountiful. There are pictures, gifts received and given. Likes and dislikes shared. You cried together or wept over a sad movie or event. This life experience may have ended in a fight or not. Either one of you could have become too busy for the other. One of you may have been critical of the others choices. Life moved forward on its own, and you lost touch. It is all normal human behavior.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself…” – George Bernard Shaw
When we forgive ourselves, we can then forgive others. There is a process to loving the self so that we can then love another. There is no reason to not pray for those we can no longer see, touch or hear. We can ask them to visit us in our dreams. To send us a sign; whether a symbol, coin, smell or memory. Trust me they are still by your side. Believe it, and they will be there for you. Fill the ache within your heart with love for them.
Our journey here is to grow our soul for our soul is the part of us that is eternal. Love, kindness, acceptance, and forgiveness are essential to offer every single one of us a chance to live a life of our dreams.
What do you dream for you?
How can you manifest this dream!
What do you need to change in your life to live your dream?
As a lover of the written word, I have spent my entire life taking pen to paper. Some may call it a form of therapy. I believe it is a release of that which no longer serves me that my mind clings to. In 1984, I began the journey of writing poetry to deal with stress in my life. For years I rarely felt the neeed to write a poem but more a type of journal writing when needed. In December of 2016 I was at a workshop with my teacher Deborah King in California. As I normally start my day with prayer, meditation and writing I started to write the following poem. I hope you are inspired by my words. My release. My form of therapy!
I almost lost myself
“The Me of Me!”
In my Spirituality
I became numb to myself
“My Inner Reality!”
Shall I stuff down deep within
I have laughed …
I have cried …
I needed to die …
From the woman I created
To please those who chose to berate
The brilliance of my light
But the darkness I dove into
I needed to fight
For, “The Me of Me!”
To set “Me” Free …
Freedom is essential
I clearly now see
As a child raised in fear
I silenced the “Me” without a tear
I became a wife on a journey
Of discovery to finally hear
The voice of my inner child’s cry; “Embrace me for I do not want to die, Pull me free from the depths of this despair, For I cannot breathe without your care …”
So I held onto her fingertips
From deep within my being
Knowing it was time to pull her
Up from an inner sorrow,
I was witnessing …
Struggling at first
because of the years
Of neglect of my inner beliefs
I discovered a voice to unravel
“The Me of Me …”
I had roared loudly as a mom
Filled with love, joy, and happiness
Proud of the honor to be chosen
So I became fearlessly
An advocate for those who needed “Me …”
My sanity I was gifted!
As their mom, I was bold
Allowed me to unfold
With joy for the chores of my life
Stronger beyond even I knew,
I was able to handle all strife …
One may wonder of the time needed
To hug “Me” into becoming my Truth
A week …
A month …
A year …
For “Me” it seemed a lifetime
Of Journaling – Reading – Writing Poetry
By releasing my fears and finally
Allowing the tears!
Still, I subdued the real “Me of Me,”
Behind my Spirituality
Once again I silenced a part of my
Inner child’s laughter, joy, and happiness
Through this new sacred personality!
Today I believe as a spiritual being
I am here to experience my human creation
As I am,
The Divine Presence of God
The “I” that “I AM,”
The “Me of Me.”
For the lessons, I learned
Offers an acceptance for the
By those who loved “Me,”
As I loved “them.”
Whether they be family
I was aware of a vast resource
on the Ring of Keys!
The Discovery of my
Key of Freedom has
Opened the door
For me to experience more
Which then led “Me” to the
Key of Forgiveness!
To move forward on the path of my
Intended life experience
Once I embraced the Key of Forgiveness!
I experienced the
Key of Gratefulness!
Are the Keys to all spiritual passion,
And where I discovered my purpose,
The reason I was born!
The joy of being whole
Now living a large life
No longer being small
The memories of the “smallness,”
I achieved can be released
I know the path I traveled
Whether silent or not,
fueled my desires
My soul needed to feel nourished
and to be nurtured
So that I could spiritually divorce myself
from an unhealthy
Still, I continued to struggle
With who I now was
To believe I could
Grow “Me” to be a better “Me,”
Filled with insight and a new reality!
It seems my belief of going within
For answers to my pain
Ignited a “Love of Self,”
I cherish, which erased
The belief I was insane…
Although I question if this has always been
“The Me of Me…”
Just silently waiting to claim “Me.”
As one who knows that everyone
Has the right to be free!
It is the core of my essence
I’ve connected with
Allowing my truth to unfold
My soul is aware it is
nourished beyond and above
More than I could have ever imagined
Through the practice of
I am flying high on the spirit of the season. My mind travels to the days of my childhood and the excitement and wonder of this time of year. I love the simplicity that allows me to give gifts as a way of expressing my appreciation to those in my life. To me, the energy of money is to share it, if you can! The abundance in my life allows me to be thankful and filled with gratitude daily.
“Had I known that I planned my challenges, I would have seen them rich with purpose …” – Robert Schwartz from Your Soul’s Plan
Unfortunately, many fill with despair and grief because of the sad and sorrowful circumstances that they have travelled during their life journey. It is the season to take the time to love all that any of us has experienced, including ourselves. After all, we are surrounded by lights, music and colorful decorations everywhere we go. An added bonus is a snowfall! What delight as a child to know with glee the anticipation of opening gifts. Maybe we need as adults to return to that childhood wonder during this season.
“On Earth and throughout the Universe, Divine Order is created and Divine Will expressed through Service…” – Robert Schwartz from Your Soul’s Gift
We celebrate as Christians that this is the time of Christ’s birth. What did Christ teach but to love one another, to be kind, and to give of ourselves! Yet, many of us stumble and fall this time of year to a past grief, anger, fear, depression, or hatred even. I always wondered about the need to simply be mean to anyone you claim to love. Grief is a belief that we have lost someone who we loved and that we can no longer see or touch them. We remain stuck in the memory of the end of their life here and forget the joyful loving memories of yesterday. We are a society that stay with a loved one who has transitioned on at the moment we buried them. Why do we forget their life? How they loved? When they cared and supported us? Why do we not tell their stories and share how they reached us while they lived with laughter, joy, happiness even at times sadness?
” Every death is brought about by the culmination of the vibration of the Being. There is not an exception to that. No one, beast or human, makes their transition into the Non-Physical without it being the vibrational consensus that is within them-so every death is a suicide because every death is self-imposed…” – Ask and It is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks
However, I believe there is no death but more a transition, there is no end and there is no need to cling to this grief. As eternal spiritual beings our loved ones are right next to us on the other side of the veil. We can dream of them, we can talk to them but most of all we can remember the lives they lived, the joy and laughter they shared with us. They are at peace and they try to reach us by many different means; coins, electricity, lights, music, even license plates. Just believe they are with you and you will feel them yourself. Let them rest in peace and pray for them.
“To find the source of any darkness you may be fighting, and then release it, is one of the most powerful things you can do to move into greater light and joy…” – Deborah King from Entangled in Darkness
Depression knocks us off our feet into the depths of our mind and we cannot function. Yet, we all have a choice every day how we want to feel and how we want to live our lives. Not easy, but we do have the choice to make a decision ourselves and what emotion we want to experience. A good test upon awakening or throughout the day is to ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?” “Why do I feel this way?” “How would I like to feel?” Three very simple sentences will bring you to an awareness of yourself and your feelings.
There are many different circumstances for anger, fear and hatred but there is a key to release these emotions that no longer serves us. The key is to forgive ourselves and then to forgive those who have harmed us in some way and filled us with hatred towards them. We can do this by writing down our feelings and then releasing them by burning the paper. Forgiveness will heal you and allow you personally to benefit on your life experience, as well as, them.
Years ago, I read that we pick our parents to learn lessons from them or maybe to help them learn a lesson. Recently, I read that we pick everyone that walks our journey with us. In doing so, we make a plan on what we need to learn and what we need to experience this lifetime. Can you imagine how wonderful it is to know that nothing is as it seems. That you actually planned the life you are living.
I have been down the road of depression, grief, anger, and hatred, as well as, suicide. In 1994, I learned that I personally cannot control who lives and who dies. The depths of sorrow at the end of a physical life whether adult, child or even a pet is a wave that sits openly in the depths of our hearts forever. We ache for them! We cry, become depressed and grief takes us over until we cannot breathe or function in life! The pain is unbearable because death is the unknown and the greatest of fears in our society.
“All of the survival patterns arise out of feeling unsafe and all are attempts to create some sense of safety for ourselves. …” – Steven Kessler from The 5 Personality Patterns
I imagine at times that the childhood many of us have lived and experienced has created within us a means of protecting ourselves. As adults today we get triggered to react by simply filling with fear or anxiety, becoming passive, have feelings of being defeated, developing tension or we simply refuse to express our feelings, because of a situation that brings us back to the original moment in time of thinking we were not safe.
“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year…” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
These survival/defense patterns we created under the age of seven fill us with a belief; that we need to escape mentally, to remember our abandonment issues, because we had been betrayed, or maybe at one time we had no control and were betrayed by someone we loved. Because of these beliefs today as an adult we do not live our truth. We escape at the blink of an eye into a survival/defense pattern. Maybe we just need to finally strengthen our boundaries, own our needs and stand on our own two feet, begin to trust, be assertive or just connect to our heart. Now is the time to finally begin to shift out of these survival/defense patterns and live our truth by becoming aware of our triggers and how we react in all our relationships with others.
Here’s a gift from me to you: The following books are insightful, and filled with information that will make you think about your own life experience and those you share it with.
Your Soul’s Plan:Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born by Robert Schwartz
Your Soul’s Gift:The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born by Robert Schwartz
Entangled in Darkness:Seeking the Light by Deborah King
The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturityby Steven Kessler
Ask and It is Givenby Esther and Jerry Kicks (The Teachings of Abraham)
“Violence of the tongues very real-sharper than any knife…” – Mother Teresa
When reading books, blogs or written material of any kind please use your discernment. My above suggestions are just a few of the books that have enlightened me on my path. We are all on this beautiful journey to awaken to the divine love within. To grow our Souls! When we awaken we become seekers to heal by incorporating meditation, prayer and journaling into our daily lives. Now is the most magical time of year, and I hope this blog in some way triggered you to take a peak into my world.
Earlier this week we had a snowfall which magical turned our world white and glistening. I filled with the hope of peace and love for this world and all who I share my life with. The wonder of my childhood surfaced with joy and happiness as I listened to holiday music. My prayer for all is that we learn to open our hearts and fill with love for each other as the spiritual beings we are!