LIFE AS AN EXPERIENCE … Fear vs. Love

IMG_4034Our path is a journey of discovery for each of us. We all awaken at a time in our lives when we cannot take the pain any longer. There are many kinds of abuse, but mental abuse is the most difficult because the words spin around in our minds. An ego is a beautiful tool that can repeat words over and over again in our head. However, the words that scream within usually are negative and filled with anger from another.

“Life is a spell so exquisite that everything conspires to break it.” -Emily Dickinson

Fear stems from the root of our ego. We are blessed with this ego to guide us to awaken to the love of self and love of another. The battle within is that the fear believes it is better and knows what is right for another. Love is the opposite, for it is pure and breathes into all the essence of our truth. Once we embrace love as the belief of who we are no one can ever abuse us.

Each of our experiences is different, but if there is pain, tears, fear, and sorrow, then there is a form of abuse from another inflicted onto you. Why does another feel they have such a right to be mean, condescending, even angry at your actions and choices? Can it be they are mad at their choices in life today which have nothing to do with you!

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” -Henry David Thoreau

In the past, I searched for something more… I did not know at the time what I needed, but the universe stepped forward and showed me a different life that was possible. As an avid reader, I always believed I was in search of something, and that was why I read so much. My best friend has always been my journal. Writing helped me to survive through the years growing up and then as a wife and mother.

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I never understood mean people or controlling people who wanted me to be other than who I was. What was wrong with me? My path would take me on this incredible journey of books and teachers that would lead me to an understanding of people and their fears.

“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” -Soren Kierkegaard

If I have learned anything, it is that people show you who they are. We as a society try to change one another because it is how we have been raised to believe. Our daily world is changing all around us, and yet we refuse to stop and take inventory of how we are living our lives. Instead, we are concerned with how others are choosing to live.

Abuse of any kind from another is not acceptable ever! Our planet, our home, our mother is feeling the abuse as well. It is our anger towards each other, hate and fear that is spinning her to rebel as well. Love is the essence of our life. Love is the tool to change who we are and to heal ourselves and our world.

I set myself free of those who hurt me by forgiving them and in doing so, I set them free too with love in my heart. I learned the greatest of lessons is that we cannot change anybody else. We can only improve ourselves. I aimed to become a better me. Opening my heart filled with love and acceptance for all is the journey I travel today.

“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.” -Marcus Aurelius

Changing oneself opens the door to embrace that which is possible. The reality of this is that we can only change ourselves, it is impossible to change another. As we are one, genuinely connected by all that is others will change and as they do, will see us differently.

Even if others do not understand how we are different, they will know something is not the same. The most significant gift we can offer on those who abuse us is to accept them as they are because that is what we want them to do for us.

Words are the key to many angry outbursts that are not necessarily your truth but as how your abuser sees things. Thank them for their opinion and tell them you will think about their words. Fill your heart with love and move on.

“Be yourself. Everyone else is taken!” -Oscar Wilde

When we as women/men stay true to who we are and drop the defense patterns that no longer serve us, it is at that moment that our world will change for the better. It comes down to trusting God and that there is a process to live. Let go today and Let God do His work!

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When we choose to be kind, loving and accepting of them, knowing they are living in fear and praying for them, allowing them to be as they need to be, we are offering them, love. We must first start with loving whow we are.  It is not the truth of who others are that they show us. They show us their fear.

Some parents believe it is their right to control their children; that their children MUST listen to them even when they are adults. They fear that they are not needed anymore. But, mostly it is a belief that they as the parents, know what is best for their children. It matters not to them that their children are grown and with children of their own. There is never respect in a relationship that travels this path from the parent to the adult child.

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

There was a time where I chose to accept all people as they are because I saw their fears. Look, and you will also see their fears in how they talk to you. It is almost as if they regress to being a child again and in doing so, act like a child today. A sort of temper tantrum. Listen to them, and you will not need to defend yourself. You never need to defend yourself once you are an adult, mother/father as a wife/husband to another if you are loving and kind to all.

Unfortunately, you will never be able to reach who is abusing you. All you can do is change who you are and how you perceive others. When we all choose to love and not fear we drop our patterns of defense because we know love is all there is. Be the being of love you were born as no matter what.

Pray. Meditate. Journal.

www.LindaAmato.com

I LOVE YOU… DO YOU BELIEVE ME?

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” -Lao Tzu

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I love you! I swear I do! Yes, I do. Love is how I feel about you, I swear… I also love puppies, chocolate, apple pie, sunrises, sunsets and snow. I love the smell of fresh clothes. I love the aroma of a home cooked meal. I love candles and incense. I love the moon when it shines brightly in the sky.

Years ago, I loved ironing my children’s clothes and doing the wash. Believe it or not, I love cleaning my house. I love my life and the freedom these days to blog, read and write.

I love the way my grandchildren call me “LaLa” and how they hug and kiss me. I love watching my children as adults and now as parents. I love the sound of my grandchildren laughing. I love their voice as they tell me “I love you!”

“Where there is love there is life.” -Mahatma Gandhi

I will tell you what love feels like now. My heart swells with pride for the things I love and treasure, especially books. I can sit in my kitchen and feel part of the world as I look out upon the water. Grateful and thankful for the home I live in. I love the memories of days gone by.

IMG_2542The love I feel within thumps in my heart at the memory of my home when I am away. I crave to be back in my home. I feel safe and comforted by the surroundings of my home. I enjoy the beauty that surrounds my home daily just looking outside my kitchen.

Love is the essence one feels for another; a place, an object or simply a good book. Love is respect. Love is joy. Love is happiness. Love is all there is to attach oneself to daily.

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” -Stephen Chbosky

We as a society throw the word, love around on a daily basis towards those we claim to love! However, actions speak louder than words. Love is an emotion that fills our hearts and entire being at the birth of a baby, at a young couple on their wedding day, at special occasions and at the end of a loved ones life.

Love is the warmth that takes our breath away when we see the beauty of Mother Nature in a flower. The first snowfall can be a memory of love from one’s childhood. A walk in the woods is the essence of true love. Love waits for us to become aware of all that can be reflected as love back to us in the simplicity of life. Life is meant to be enjoyed, to actually love your life and all that you share it with.IMG_3195

“I have decided to stick to love… Hate is too great a burden to bear.” -Martin Luther King, Jr.

In between birth and death, how many times have we spoken the words, “I love you?”

  • How many times afterward have we then gossiped, abused or hated the same person we claimed to love?
  • How many mothers smother their children by controlling them constantly, verbally abuse their daughters or simply treat grown children as if they were their property?
  • How many husbands mentally mistreat their wives disrespectfully but say they love them?
  • What about the mother who tries to constantly correct her daughter and how she chooses to dress, wear her hair or even raise her children?
  • How about the dad that is short tempered and drunk who scares his child with his outbursts?
  • Where is the love?
  • How is abuse of any kind love?

IMG_3125I have become aware of this simple word that we use but which at times means nothing to another. We as a society have abused ourselves and those we claim to love! We abuse our planet daily and yet all Mother Earth offers us is love.

Many are unacceptable of their adult children and their choices in life? Many are disrespectful of their parents as grown children because they believe they now know better! Do we actually believe we know better than our parents? How could we ever know what they have known? Think about that!

There seems to be in our society a need for love. There is an emptiness to our words which we claim without emotion when we say; “I Love You!” Would you believe me if I claimed that I loved you and then when I saw you I was unkind, mean, and actually a bit nasty?

“And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” -Paul McCartney

There comes a moment in time when the word love actually means nothing to someone who is abused by another who claims to love them. Many women today believe that they are unworthy of love. Why? To receive love one must give love! Love stems from our essence. We are born love.

Life distinguishes love right before our eyes in some cases by the despair we experience. And yet we allow love to disappear and ask not why? If there is any kind of abuse in your life, that is because another’s ego is roaring fear, not love! Ask yourself, why this person has the right to abuse you? Why do you allow abuse to be part of your life? Love yourself first and only then will the abuse stop!

Pray! Mediate! Journal!

www.LindaAmato.com

www.makingbelievers.wodpress.com

The Sorrow of Loss

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Can it be that we struggle daily to find ourselves? Is it our truth and essence that sits deep within but which we cannot grasp that calls to us? We know of a place that is not here but still there is a loss that stirs our soul to all that we believe in. What is the essence of this loss? Why do we fill with sorrow? Is it of this lifetime or a past lifetime?

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha

Many of us have experienced some form of abuse in our lives but what if this so called abuse is generational? How can we eliminate further emotional, physical or mental abuse from our daughters/sons and their daughter/sons. Abuse is not solely characterized as an issue that only women experience. Yet, we the women of the world carry the cross squarely on our hearts filled with this ache of sorrow and loss. Can this loss that we desire to find be that of emotionally feeling and witnessing unconditional love. Generationally, everyone has done the best they knew how to do but the energy today screams for us to forgive and to love unconditionally. This is the sorrow I write of. This is the loss we all have experienced.

“Poisonous relationships can alter our perception. You can spend many years thinking you’re worthless. But you’re not worthless, you’re unappreciated.” -Steve Maraboli

We as a people, community, society, neighborhood and family are ripe to feel loved. Finally, the past does not fit into the present no longer. Anger, fear, hate, prejudice, criticism and judgment has no place in today’s world because there is too deep a sorrow felt for the loss of yesterday that has been experienced. Love is the present solution for all to release our karma and that which no longer serves us.

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” -Louise L. Hay”

img_4234With love as a foundation at this time we will finally know the meaning and truth to the words, “Love your neighbor as you Love yourself!” The sorrow of loss is that many do not know how to love themself because of the pain they have been witness to by abuse in their lives. Abuse fills the heart and mind with the simple thought that, I am not worthy of being loved!” The different forms of abuse a child, young adult, teenager, wife, husband or parent experiences wears the personality down to a deep emptiness that something is missing in life. We try to fill this emptiness with addictions of many kinds and material possessions. However, the soul knows nothing is missing because we are all born as beings of love and light. The love we do not receive because of the generational aspect that pushes forward on its own must be stopped today.

img_4231“Our entire life … Consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.” – Jean Anouih

Abuse has been rampant in many of our lives but no longer is acceptable today. The main tool to release the sorrow of loss at this time is to begin to meditate daily. This simple but profound tool of healing carries the benefit of connecting you to your soul and releasing what no longer serves you. Be aware that your children and their children shall benefit from you consciously ending the sorrow of loss due to abuse of any kind. There is truth in the fact that when you love yourself just as you are, no matter what you have been told by another, you will experience a connection to that part of you that is called your God-self! We are here to like God and to be of service.

Meditate. Pray. Journal.

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www.deborahking.com (to learn how to meditate)

LA Believes in Love

As I continue writing on the shift of transformation that I was led to I feel blessed to share my journey. After traveling a life experience of loving unconditionally I found that I needed more in life. It was a time when my soul cried out to me. I was led to what I call Part “B” of my journey. A book opened my heart to experience a path that is believable but alternative for many. Yet, in my heart I ached to return to this part of myself.

I did not tread lightly on this new adventure as I flew forward anxious at times and fearful but within I knew I had to move forward. I ask myself always can one book simply allow me to believe as I do today and I must answer it was this one step that led  me to walk many steps.

This book that I speak of is by Louis L. Hay and I discovered it in a little quaint bookstore in Woodstock New York. In reading You Can Heal Your Life, I discovered her Philosophy which I embraced with open arms as well as the ability of affirmations to inspire me daily.

Louise L. Hay writes:

We are responsible for all of our experiences. Every thought we think is creating our future. The point of power is always in the present moment. Everyone suffers from self-hatred and guilt. The bottom line for everyone is, “I’m not good enough.” It’s only a thought and a thought can be changed. We create every so-called illness in our body. Resentment, criticism and guilt are the most damaging patterns. Releasing resentment will dissolve even cancer. We must release the past and forgive everyone. We must be willing to begin to learn to love ourselves. Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the keys to positive change. When we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.

I discovered my inner child hanging tightly on to the lids of my eyes when I looked within. I felt her sadness and despair to survive. Clueless to how my childhood, marriage and life experiences had filled a part of me with sorrow I fell in love with her and in doing so, I began to love me just as I was.

After reading this book I wrote affirmations for twenty-one days for twenty-one times until my thought process changed. I still say the same affirmations today that I began with in 2003 daily.

I trust the process of life to bring only good to me. I am safe. All is well. I am as God created me, a spiritual being of love and light. I only create peaceful experiences because I love myself. I am healthy, happy and whole body, mind and soul. There is time and space for everything.

This 246 page book is what enlightened me to open my heart and believe in me. I had many years of despair, depression and doubt in who I was due to the journey. Death has the way of manifesting a desire to know and understand reasons why everything happens. Abuse makes us look within to wonder why we are treated unkindly. Abandonment makes us wonder why we are not loved. Life has this way of allowing us to experience different emotions and fear no matter who we are. I credit this book to open wide the window of my soul to finally be nourished.

There are many books, classes and workshops I have enjoyed and I look forward to sharing with you the power and process of positive thought, word and action. My teachers have been many and I hope you enjoy the ride with me.

Pray. Meditate. Journal

www.LindaAmato.com

LA BELIEVES …

Wounds of the Inner Child …

 

The journey of discovery is becoming a Being of Love at some point in life. We become whole with passion and purpose. No fear, no addictions, no pain, no anger … Just love, contentment, health and joy! We are born as Love but life detours us with the lessons we come to learn and grow from. One can never go wrong if they always choose the path of loving oneself first, forgiving the fearful, sharing by being of service, and saying ‘yes’ to another with a heart filled with love. I find that addictions of any kind is key to most fear and pain as a means of self healing but truly all that is accomplished is a temporary escape from the reality of life. One cannot be of right mind if they are not clear of mind. Addictions of any kind fog the mind, affect the body and create depression and distress.

Many of us believe we are victims by another’s projection unto us of their fears. When another is verbally abusive, angry, or hateful towards someone they claim to love they are deeply wounded. We have become a society that accepts pain and fear as the norm. I believe that an abuser’s inner child is screaming to be loved. We all have patterns we have created to help us get through the abuse when we were young. Even if the abuser was not aware of the fear and pain their actions created in the home because it was how they were raised. The child develops a defense, a way of surviving and learns the path of being one who abuses another as well. Unfortunately, we all learn everything that goes on in a relationship from our parents. Whether it is a loving supportive household or an angry, abusive one we find a way as a young child to cope with it all. 

But what about the abused? How do they survive the mental exhaustion, the tearing open of their heart and the draining of their tears? They seem to accept they did something wrong, they are not loved, they are bad. Simply that they are to blame period. The confusion fills their mind until they either accept this is their destiny or they walk away just to survive.

Sadly, where there is love there is a way. Alternative belief is there for all to discover their strength. Look within by the act of prayer, meditation or taking a pen to paper and release the demons through the written word. If you have any kind of addiction get detoxed, get to a meeting, get to a group. Communication is key in all relationships with honesty and the desire to truly hear another. The man or woman that was raised in an abusive home must realize that they do not have to be like their parent. If they felt abused as a child then let it go through finding that which works for them. There are many avenues to take to become a better person than how you were raised to be. Acceptance and acknowledgement of being abused is first.

I believe we have an inner spark that ignites when it is triggered by a similar moment from our past. Abuse of any kind becomes a pattern deep within and gets handed down from generation to generation. Here are two words to help you heal … STOP IT!

When we share our life with someone we love deeply and children enter the relationship why would we want to create a fearful, unhappy, suffering life for them to witness is a question that needs to be answered by the abuser as well as the abused. The truth is that many of our relationships have been chosen prior to our birth and we are here to be teachers for one another. If there is an inner ache of any kind that fills you and leads you to any kind of addiction know that you are first and foremost abusing yourself. STOP IT!

Pray, Meditate, Journal

www.LindaAmato.com

LA BELIEVES …

Death ...

A destiny or is it fate that we all create in some way by our thoughts, words and actions when our soul will exit our body?

Does DNA play a role?

Do we come into this world programmed with an illness that will manifest and end our time here?

Is exiting this life experience part of a  bigger plan to teach those we love and those who love us a lesson?

Do we in somehow make a sacred contract to die in a mass murder, terrorist attack, suicide or act of weather; tsunami, earthquake, hurricane  or tornado?

Is not life eternal and the truth is that we are reincarnated anyway to begin again?

Kabbalah teaches us that we come back to make a correction because somehow we did mess up in our last life and exited before we made the correction?

Is life such a mystery or an enormous plan to teach us all to be loving, kind and respectful to one another no matter what?

Will we have no regrets if we are loving, kind and respectful to all?

Are we born gifted and preprogrammed to share our inner wisdom and passion when we discover it with all?

Why is it so difficult to discover who we are and why we are here?

Are we not here to be of service?

Can this fear of death which creates within us a fear to live as loving spiritual beings be because we create a belief that we are in control of our lives?

Can it be that in doing so, we live life by taking everything that happens to others that we love personal?

Although we are all one, are we not here on a unique individual journey walking our path to discover our truth, to expand and hear the voice of our soul?

Can this path be as simple as to love ourselves so that we can love another unconditionally? 

Is it true that we pick our parents to either learn from them or to teach them something, yet some of us become disappointed in them, abandoned by them, hateful of them, abused by them and spend our lives trying to make some kind of sense out of our relationship with them?

Why is life completely difficult for many because a loved one has died in whatever manner was their destiny/fate while another knows there is no death but that life, the soul is eternal?

Why? Why? Why? These questions fill my mind about an aspect of life called death, when the truth is it affects every living species on our planet. We cry, we become depressed, we grieve for days, months, years or even our entire lifetime because a grandparent, husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, child or friend has died! 

Could there not be a better word to describe when the body is no longer but the soul continues to exist?

Is it the word death itself that creates this belief in someone simply ending and being no more that terrifies us?

Personally, my grandparents, brother, nephew, father and some friends have exited life. I grieved the hardest when my brother suddenly died by a drunk driver twenty-five years ago. It was sudden and painful but the doors of my soul flew open and within me my inner wisdom manifested a way of thinking in my mind that IAM not responsible for who dies or lives. I questioned even back then God;  “why did he not make the choice to stay, why did he die leaving a wife and three young children while breaking my mom’s heart wide open?”

There had to be a plan, a time allotted, either through that which we co-create with God, whether it be illness, murder or even when another takes their life willingly. There had to be an inner knowing which I imagine today is the essence of who we are that we ignore and end up following a path towards our own end. Babies get ill and die suddenly, children are abused and children are murdered by others and sometimes by their own parents, did they have that sacred contract and volunteer for these lives to teach the living a lesson?

Through the years I have learned that we manifest and co-create our lives with God by the given act of free will that we all possess. Being loving, kind and joyful is all we need to be and yet we create lives that we fear, and we hate because of our belief in guilt, shame, grief, lies, illusion and attachment. Life gets filled up with fear, nonsense, suffering and pain because someone we loved has exited their body by their choice, could this be, I wonder, the plan for us to learn to not take things personally? I believe we are more powerful then we can imagine and that power is our own word and emotional belief that we project outward. There must be a reason for everything and I believe this is the mystery of life and our existence here on planet Earth. We have made life the vehicle for our suffering only because things are not happening as we feel they must but if we let go and let God our lives will be empty of pain and suffering.

I honestly don’t believe there is anyone living who has not experienced the death of a loved one. But think about that grief you hold on to in your heart daily as your personal life preserver. Somehow we have attached ourselves to death by this process we call grieving. We must grieve we are all told and we all know how to deeply grieve our losses. What if we decided to celebrate the time we shared with our loved  ones, remember their smile, laugh, how they hugged us and delighted in life no matter how old they were when they died? I would like you to imagine that maybe just maybe you can be hurting the one you love because you do not let them rest in peace when all along it was their plan to exit when they did because of their own thoughts, words and actions. Is not the teachings in life to love and let go those we love to discover their reason for being no matter what we may desire to control. Do we not all have the ability and gift to fly on our own no matter how old we are, living or dead?

Can it simply be karma?

Please feel free to answer these questions and share your own beliefs on this subject that touches us all.

Pray, Meditate, Journal.

 

www.LindaAmato.com 

LA BELIEVES …

Forgiveness … but, why, when, how …

That small voice of our inner child is terrified and needs a hug, a kind word, acknowledgement and to know she is loved. What has scared her into being fearful is the screams, the anger, the shame and the dysfunctional pain of yesterday. Can she release the nightmares, the ache in her chest that fills her to hate another – a mother, father, brother, sister, uncle or friend. She carries the words, the punches, the screams and abuse today because she is trying to make sense of yesterday. Did she do something wrong? Was it her fault? Is she not allowed to feel loved? The answers to these questions haunt her mind and fill her dreams with a need to know. She is terrified of the answers as well because in her heart she believes she is not worthy of love today.

I love you as you are and I know you did nothing wrong. As a child how could you have done anything wrong. To release the fears of yesterday, the pain, and abuse forgiveness is key. Forgive yourself for you are an innocent. Forgive those who have harmed you for they had to be taught how to harm. We are all doing the best we can by those who have raised us as children yesterday. A child needs to know they are safe, are loved and that they have boundaries to adhere to. No one is allowed to hurt another with words, an object or their hands. Yet, we are a society filled with fear and pain by hateful words, flying objects and hands that abuse another by hitting or touching inappropriately.

Neglect to a child is no  boundaries to know what is allowed and what is not.

Neglect to a child is yelling, screaming and a parent who does not listen to them.

Neglect to a child is fighting between the parents.

Neglect to a child is not feeling safe in their own home.

Parents are powerful and the first law is respect for this child you have brought into the world. Children are born with unconditional love for their parents and when this love is not returned the inner child closes down and suffers a deep pain that they carry through life. How can a child forgive those who have created this inner fear, this feeling of being unloved, unwanted, not safe or just filled with guilt and shame. Pray, Meditate, Journal …

God is Love. Love is God. When we turn our belief to Him and trust that He has a plan for us we forgive the past, we forgive ourselves. There are only two aspects of life, the first is love which is God and the second is fear which is not God.

It takes more energy to  be angry then to laugh.

It takes more energy to hate then to love.

It takes more energy to stay mad then to forgive.

Pay attention to your emotions and shift them to be filled with love for yourself and others. The past can no longer hurt you because it is done. The present is your choice to live a life filled with joy by moving past the moment of pain which cannot be changed. We all have our stories but we are all given ‘free will’ by God so change the story to one of love for all no matter what has happened yesterday. You are responsible for your thoughts and once you change them to positive, loving, kind thoughts you will change yourself and those around you. May God bless you with inner peace, joy, happiness and love because you are a child of God and you are here to be like Him. Don’t let another dim your light even a little.

www.LindaAmato.com

LA Believes

It has come to my attention that we need to embrace the inner child, hold her/him gently in our arms and hug her/him close. Fears of a child haunt most of us daily and we become fearful and filled with guilt and shame that we did something wrong. Why would someone we love and trust treat us abusively in any way or form? It has to be something we did to be treated badly a child believes. We grow up not able to like who we are because we believe we are not worthy of being loved. We struggle with the words in our mind that were screamed at us yesterday. We feel fearful that another will attack us. We are ashamed of who we are because we know we are not worthy of being loved or happy because of how someone has touched us inappropriately.

My advice to you today, as an adult is to look at yourself in the mirror and say “I LOVE  YOU!” Look deeply within to your inner child and even if you cry let her know she is not alone and you are here for her. If you can love you as you are and forgive yesterday’s pain you will be one step closer to healing. Forgiveness of self is first and with that comes love of self. 

I imagine how scared a small child of any age must feel if they believe they are unloved. Parents, Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents, and Teachers have this ability to take a child’s innocence away from them by their words and actions. But no matter what you were told or what was done to you … You have done nothing wrong! Abuse leaves its scars on your soul and fills your head with fear and pain. In dong so, we grow up fearful, unforgiving and filled with anxiety.

I believe personally that my mom was terrified of my dad when he was drunk or even sober because she never knew when the attack would begin at her. She knew he would never attack me and at nine years old she would wake me up to take care of him while she hid with my brother. She would cook him eggs and  somehow the frying pan, dishes and glasses would be thrown against the kitchen wall and she would run. She was clueless to how I felt or even if I was afraid. In its way her behavior made me stronger, this little girl knowing she could help her daddy and her mom could not. Today I can imagine that little girl at times depressed, filled with fear but knowing in my heart my dad loved me. However, I have struggled most of my life with knowing if my mom loved me. Just as she was afraid of my dad she was afraid of me, I believe.

Praying, my belief in God and the Angels, Journaling and meditating among my other rituals has offered me a safe haven for the little girl within to travel to. I have healed simply by the fact that I have looked into my eyes and I have seen the fingertips of my inner child holding on for her life about 25 years ago. I gathered her in my arms and gently I have told her how very special she is and that as a child of God’s she is unique and worthy of her life. This may seem unbelievable to many but all that inner child needs to know is that she is not alone, she is loved and she can be anything she wants to be no matter what another has done to her. In forgiveness of self we forgive another only because the past cannot be changed. I personally look back on my life growing up and savor the good times, the memories of going to Coney Island, a park, and walking around New York City with my dad. The difficult painful yesterday can no longer touch me because I have learned from the pain and fear. I have learned I am worthy of being a woman who is capable of being loved. I am happy, I am blessed. I am grateful for my mom today because I accept her with her fears and know they are hers and not mine.

It is difficult to live with our past at times but when we delve into knowing who we are today and release that which no longer serves us we can find love and joy daily by taking pen to paper and writing how we feel today and how we felt yesterday. No one can love you as much as you can love yourself. So go for it!

 

www.LindaAmato.com

GOD DOES NOT BLINK

… Why do we react (blink) to every word that we do not agree with?

Is it possible to not blink as God does?

How do we stop, look and listen without getting into a confrontation?

God does not blink is my mantra now when someone believes they have all the answers and know everything. It allows me to smile at myself and realize only God knows what is going on in any situation at any time.

Kabbalah teaches that we react to others in situations and create chaos and pain to enter the relationship by getting into a conversation that can only be deemed confrontational. The battle begins and the words that are spoken and painful in some form or way once said cannot be taken back The tears well up, the anger is ignited and fight begins. Everyone believes they are right. What if what one is arguing about is truly of no importance but actually a waste of time, energy and words. In reality it all comes down to someone being right and someone being proven wrong.

In the past I prayed when I felt a confrontation was upon me. I felt the attack and the words of abuse but I centered myself and in my head I prayed a Hail Mary. It calmed me and took me out of the moment so that I could not react and release the other person from what they wanted, which  was a fight to prove they were right and I was wrong. It is very easy to forget though and sometimes before I knew it I was talking too much and getting too heated. Talking too much and feeling the heat rise is another lesson to learn to be silent and not confrontational. Sometimes we all need to let go and let God …

GOD DOES NOT BLINK

Negative language stems from a belief in negative thoughts and behavior. Negativity is fed and nourished to exist by abuse that was part of your life experiences which led you to be controlling because you feared what happened to you could happen to another. However, the controlling then leads you to be condescending and critical as well as judgmental towards those you travel through this life experience with.

This negativity leads you to be opinionated because fear is your religion and love is not possible in any way or form because your life is not what you expected it to be. How do you believe you have the right to harm another in any way or form? You may believe you know but only God knows who we are, who we can be, why we are here and what lessons we need to remember and incorporate into our lives. God loves us unconditionally and that is why He does not blink …

God Does Not Blink

…I ask you…

What if the only reason we are born to this planet, to these parents and into this family is to learn the lesson of love for those we communicate with daily so that we can then share the inner peace that love brings to all? When we love unconditionally, which means no abuse in any form, controlling behavior, condescending attitudes, critical remarks, judgmental know it all words, negative beliefs about life and opinionated behavior that says we know everything then and then are we learning the lesson of love.

Abuse is any form of words or actions that upset another person you claim to love or even towards a total stranger. You are upset how your life is going and you lash out at another because you feel that you have the right to project onto another pain because you yourself feel fear and pain in your reason for being. Tears only make you angrier because you are not connected to the nourishment of your soul to soften the blows in life. You have denied yourself for so long that you have become this person that lives daily in fear of life. You are abusive to yourself by the thoughts in your mind, the words that come out of you mouth and your actions stem on cruelty because you are a time bomb waiting to blow up. In the end, you forget that you love this person, that this stranger is innocent and doing the best he or she can and that you have no right to treat anyone the way you treat yourself with fear, pain and a total negative outlook…

God Does Not Blink

During moments of negativity the thought that comes into my consciousness is that God does not blink! Over and over again these are the words I hear. So, I imagined this must be something I need to write about. Why does God not blink is the answer to not being abusive, controlling, condescending, critical, judgmental, negative and opinionated. That is why God is God

God Does Not Blink

Being abusive towards someone by the words we speak is just as abusive as being able to hit someone. What constitutes Abusive language? What constitutes Controlling language? What constitutes Condescending language? What constitute Critical language? What constitutes Judgemental langugae? What constitutes Negative language? What constitutes Opinionated language? The answer is a single word that coves all of the above – ignorance.