LIFE AS AN EXPERIENCE … Fear vs. Love

IMG_4034Our path is a journey of discovery for each of us. We all awaken at a time in our lives when we cannot take the pain any longer. There are many kinds of abuse, but mental abuse is the most difficult because the words spin around in our minds. An ego is a beautiful tool that can repeat words over and over again in our head. However, the words that scream within usually are negative and filled with anger from another.

“Life is a spell so exquisite that everything conspires to break it.” -Emily Dickinson

Fear stems from the root of our ego. We are blessed with this ego to guide us to awaken to the love of self and love of another. The battle within is that the fear believes it is better and knows what is right for another. Love is the opposite, for it is pure and breathes into all the essence of our truth. Once we embrace love as the belief of who we are no one can ever abuse us.

Each of our experiences is different, but if there is pain, tears, fear, and sorrow, then there is a form of abuse from another inflicted onto you. Why does another feel they have such a right to be mean, condescending, even angry at your actions and choices? Can it be they are mad at their choices in life today which have nothing to do with you!

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” -Henry David Thoreau

In the past, I searched for something more… I did not know at the time what I needed, but the universe stepped forward and showed me a different life that was possible. As an avid reader, I always believed I was in search of something, and that was why I read so much. My best friend has always been my journal. Writing helped me to survive through the years growing up and then as a wife and mother.

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I never understood mean people or controlling people who wanted me to be other than who I was. What was wrong with me? My path would take me on this incredible journey of books and teachers that would lead me to an understanding of people and their fears.

“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” -Soren Kierkegaard

If I have learned anything, it is that people show you who they are. We as a society try to change one another because it is how we have been raised to believe. Our daily world is changing all around us, and yet we refuse to stop and take inventory of how we are living our lives. Instead, we are concerned with how others are choosing to live.

Abuse of any kind from another is not acceptable ever! Our planet, our home, our mother is feeling the abuse as well. It is our anger towards each other, hate and fear that is spinning her to rebel as well. Love is the essence of our life. Love is the tool to change who we are and to heal ourselves and our world.

I set myself free of those who hurt me by forgiving them and in doing so, I set them free too with love in my heart. I learned the greatest of lessons is that we cannot change anybody else. We can only improve ourselves. I aimed to become a better me. Opening my heart filled with love and acceptance for all is the journey I travel today.

“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.” -Marcus Aurelius

Changing oneself opens the door to embrace that which is possible. The reality of this is that we can only change ourselves, it is impossible to change another. As we are one, genuinely connected by all that is others will change and as they do, will see us differently.

Even if others do not understand how we are different, they will know something is not the same. The most significant gift we can offer on those who abuse us is to accept them as they are because that is what we want them to do for us.

Words are the key to many angry outbursts that are not necessarily your truth but as how your abuser sees things. Thank them for their opinion and tell them you will think about their words. Fill your heart with love and move on.

“Be yourself. Everyone else is taken!” -Oscar Wilde

When we as women/men stay true to who we are and drop the defense patterns that no longer serve us, it is at that moment that our world will change for the better. It comes down to trusting God and that there is a process to live. Let go today and Let God do His work!

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When we choose to be kind, loving and accepting of them, knowing they are living in fear and praying for them, allowing them to be as they need to be, we are offering them, love. We must first start with loving whow we are.  It is not the truth of who others are that they show us. They show us their fear.

Some parents believe it is their right to control their children; that their children MUST listen to them even when they are adults. They fear that they are not needed anymore. But, mostly it is a belief that they as the parents, know what is best for their children. It matters not to them that their children are grown and with children of their own. There is never respect in a relationship that travels this path from the parent to the adult child.

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

There was a time where I chose to accept all people as they are because I saw their fears. Look, and you will also see their fears in how they talk to you. It is almost as if they regress to being a child again and in doing so, act like a child today. A sort of temper tantrum. Listen to them, and you will not need to defend yourself. You never need to defend yourself once you are an adult, mother/father as a wife/husband to another if you are loving and kind to all.

Unfortunately, you will never be able to reach who is abusing you. All you can do is change who you are and how you perceive others. When we all choose to love and not fear we drop our patterns of defense because we know love is all there is. Be the being of love you were born as no matter what.

Pray. Meditate. Journal.

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I LOVE YOU… DO YOU BELIEVE ME?

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” -Lao Tzu

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I love you! I swear I do! Yes, I do. Love is how I feel about you, I swear… I also love puppies, chocolate, apple pie, sunrises, sunsets and snow. I love the smell of fresh clothes. I love the aroma of a home cooked meal. I love candles and incense. I love the moon when it shines brightly in the sky.

Years ago, I loved ironing my children’s clothes and doing the wash. Believe it or not, I love cleaning my house. I love my life and the freedom these days to blog, read and write.

I love the way my grandchildren call me “LaLa” and how they hug and kiss me. I love watching my children as adults and now as parents. I love the sound of my grandchildren laughing. I love their voice as they tell me “I love you!”

“Where there is love there is life.” -Mahatma Gandhi

I will tell you what love feels like now. My heart swells with pride for the things I love and treasure, especially books. I can sit in my kitchen and feel part of the world as I look out upon the water. Grateful and thankful for the home I live in. I love the memories of days gone by.

IMG_2542The love I feel within thumps in my heart at the memory of my home when I am away. I crave to be back in my home. I feel safe and comforted by the surroundings of my home. I enjoy the beauty that surrounds my home daily just looking outside my kitchen.

Love is the essence one feels for another; a place, an object or simply a good book. Love is respect. Love is joy. Love is happiness. Love is all there is to attach oneself to daily.

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” -Stephen Chbosky

We as a society throw the word, love around on a daily basis towards those we claim to love! However, actions speak louder than words. Love is an emotion that fills our hearts and entire being at the birth of a baby, at a young couple on their wedding day, at special occasions and at the end of a loved ones life.

Love is the warmth that takes our breath away when we see the beauty of Mother Nature in a flower. The first snowfall can be a memory of love from one’s childhood. A walk in the woods is the essence of true love. Love waits for us to become aware of all that can be reflected as love back to us in the simplicity of life. Life is meant to be enjoyed, to actually love your life and all that you share it with.IMG_3195

“I have decided to stick to love… Hate is too great a burden to bear.” -Martin Luther King, Jr.

In between birth and death, how many times have we spoken the words, “I love you?”

  • How many times afterward have we then gossiped, abused or hated the same person we claimed to love?
  • How many mothers smother their children by controlling them constantly, verbally abuse their daughters or simply treat grown children as if they were their property?
  • How many husbands mentally mistreat their wives disrespectfully but say they love them?
  • What about the mother who tries to constantly correct her daughter and how she chooses to dress, wear her hair or even raise her children?
  • How about the dad that is short tempered and drunk who scares his child with his outbursts?
  • Where is the love?
  • How is abuse of any kind love?

IMG_3125I have become aware of this simple word that we use but which at times means nothing to another. We as a society have abused ourselves and those we claim to love! We abuse our planet daily and yet all Mother Earth offers us is love.

Many are unacceptable of their adult children and their choices in life? Many are disrespectful of their parents as grown children because they believe they now know better! Do we actually believe we know better than our parents? How could we ever know what they have known? Think about that!

There seems to be in our society a need for love. There is an emptiness to our words which we claim without emotion when we say; “I Love You!” Would you believe me if I claimed that I loved you and then when I saw you I was unkind, mean, and actually a bit nasty?

“And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” -Paul McCartney

There comes a moment in time when the word love actually means nothing to someone who is abused by another who claims to love them. Many women today believe that they are unworthy of love. Why? To receive love one must give love! Love stems from our essence. We are born love.

Life distinguishes love right before our eyes in some cases by the despair we experience. And yet we allow love to disappear and ask not why? If there is any kind of abuse in your life, that is because another’s ego is roaring fear, not love! Ask yourself, why this person has the right to abuse you? Why do you allow abuse to be part of your life? Love yourself first and only then will the abuse stop!

Pray! Mediate! Journal!

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Life is Constantly Changing

“The magic of water has been in my life for years now as I wake up every day to  behold the beautiful sight of Mother Nature…”-Linda Amato

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My Backyard View

As I sit here in my library and fill with a heart full of gratitude for the days that are moving me forward. I am blessed. My life is wondrous. I am connected to Spirit. This belief of mine although alternative and difficult for many to comprehend has been rooted out of the depth of my soul from many lifetimes, I believe. I can remember the day even at this moment when I wondered if there was ‘more?’ I felt there had to be more to this experience we all call life. It was then that I begged for guidance in 2003 which led me to today.

“If you can’t be in awe of Mother Nature, there’s something wrong with you.” -Alex Trebek

It seems I was never truly aware but I did know I was not alone so I just moved one step in front of the other being a good girl. Quiet and silent was my belief, after all “Silence is golden!” As a child I was stronger then my brother and mother. I could handle more at a young age. There was an essence within that told me to be kind, loving and helpful. Never ever was I to be confrontational. Why? I wonder today why I could not have the power of speech until I was fifty. My answer this day is because it served me well to be silent and allowed me to be awakened to my truth. I know this because I believe there is a reason for everything.

“The most important this is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.” -Audrey Hepburn

IMG_0749Raised in a time of change I never chose to be a rebel or  hippie yet, I felt I was never in the box. I obeyed my parents, elders and everyone. I questioned if they were right in my head but I never questioned them. There was always that inner essence that guided me daily. Human behavior is something I delight in and since I began studying with Deborah King in 2012 I have learned the many reasons we as humans do what we do.

At my age today: as a daughter, wife, mother, and grandmother I realize today the importance of women in my life. I have collected a tribe of my own that I have fallen in love with and I believe it is my way of being of service to them by sharing all that I can that is of alternative belief.  To begin with there is no right and no wrong way of living YOUR life experience. How can there be such a belief. We are here because we choose to be here on this planet at this time. We are a combination of soul and human. Our soul part is love and our human part is ego. That is where the battle within begins.

“We do not remember days, we remember moments.” -Cesare Pavese

We choose which one we are going to nourish daily by our thoughts, words and actions. What do you believe today that is different from what you believed yesterday? Change is constant because there is no way we can stay exactly the same in our thoughts, words and actions unless we fuel a life dedicated to negativity, unhappiness, regret and anger as our path because of something that happened a long time ago to us. As beings of love and light it is very difficult to choose the path of the ego/human belief daily. It is frustrating to realize that being angry or unhappy is not our nature. Especially since love seeps in when we bask in the beauty of Mother Nature, see or hold a baby, a sunset, smell a rose, fall in love, make love, celebrate a wedding, or birthday or just receive a compliment.

My question to you then is why not choose to nurture your soul/love part more often. When we choose to love we choose to transition and grow higher on the path of our journey. To choose love we must forgive ourselves and anything that happened by another to us in our past. We all have a choice to live as we choose to live so go for it! Just let go of anything that no longer serves you today.

“It is as grandmothers that our mothers come into the fullness of their grace. – Christopher Morley

I have chosen love and I believe that I have been able to nourish and nurture my soul daily. Is it easy, you ask? I can honestly say it is getting easier! The wonder of my life is the children that I share my life with from the ages of 8, 6, 4, 3, 2, and 1 month. It is magical to hold a baby in your arms and know she is heaven sent as an angel to share her love and light in the world. To talk to a child and listen, really listen to what scares him or what fills him with joy. To wrap your arms around a sleeping child and carry him into his home to rest all toasty and really heavy. To bathe a child and laugh as he laughs at the wonderment of water that fills him with delight. To watch the ballerina from within surface in her as she spins around or sings a song. Then there is the child that fills your heart to bursting for the simplicity of his outlook on life. Yes, I am truly blessed.

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I remember my children growing up and I always took time to listen to their stories and imagine today if you can, because they still reach out to me to tell me their stories. As a mother I learned the greatest of lessons from my mom to love unconditionally all, especially the children. As I sit here and type I wonder what will be because my grand babies are coming over to go in the pool and I am ready to play and swim with them because they are pure beings of love and light still and I know it. Yet, I also notice the changes that are screaming to be let free by them to be able to just be. Many children today are new souls and are clueless as to how to live in our world They need us as old souls to teach them. What better way to teach them then to love them unconditionally, hear them and explain life to them.

“A house needs a grandma in it.” -Louise May Alcott

I’m amazed at the love that fills my heart for these grand babies that are being raised by my children. I reflect back on my days of being their mom and truly can write I don’t know how I did it, except for the one fact that I loved every moment. I enjoyed being a mom and all it entailed! I live in a very large home that most days now is quiet. There is no more laughter, crying, yelling or playing. Yet in my minds eyes I can almost see them all at the dinner table. Having dinner when they were older was my favorite time as we sat for hours discussing their day. Today I believe I raised four amazing children because I simply took the time to really hear what they had to say. Now the voices of six grand babies fills my home when they visit and sadly, I know the silence will return when they leave. The beauty of my life is that I enjoy everyday just looking outside my kitchen to the love of Mother Nature that has comforted me all these years.

Meditate. Pray. Journal.

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Being A Conscious Woman

“Love is life. All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.”-Leo Tolstoy

As we approach the yearly day set aside to celebrate all the moms in the world, let’s extend love to all the women of the world! As we are born from our mom it is that aspect that we honor. We as women are sacred because we give life, we nurture and nourish. Our bodies are the temple to the children who choose us.  How have we forgotten our greatness? How have we forgotten our truth? How did  we become victims of a society that we as the temples of life gave birth to?

“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” –    Nora Ephron

Being an avid reader and student of life I find it extremely upsetting to be reading the stories of abuse, fear, guilt, shame and women that feel they are victims today because of their relationship with their mother. We are more than that when we accept our truth, live our truth and gather together as community.  When we share our stories, we heal. When we forgive ourselves, we heal. When we choose to forgive our moms, we heal. When we honor our moms because within we know they did the best they could, we heal. As a society of healed women our daughters will become the goddesses they are born to be.

“Go ahead unleash your INNER GODDESS today. Embrace all that FABULOSITY that is amazing you…”

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Recently, I attended a gathering of women with my youngest daughter that allowed me to heal from that which no longer served me. The simple pain of a mom who did the best she could because of her own mothers fears, allowed me to do even better. I chose to be a conscious mother raising my children. There was an intuitive guidance that I received! A knowing to love unconditionally because I was setting an example. I knew I was being watched. There was this inner belief of mine that I did not own my children and all that was required of me was to listen, support, guide, be present and there for whatever needs were required of me. Even today I have learned that they still need me to be there for them, to simply listen when they need to vent. Being blessed to also be a stay at home mom I loved every aspect of being a mom.

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I have been given the greatest of gifts by my children to know I did them well. I gave to them something that I did not receive from my mom but which I am aware today she never received  from her mom! I forgive myself for at one time judging her. Today, I forgive her for not being able to do as I needed her to do. I thank her for teaching me to be the mom I am today.

“A Goddess is a Woman Who Breaks The Mold. She’s Who She Wants To Be … And She Offers No Apologies.” -Lisa Marie Rosati

Life seems to be like a Ferris wheel that we all get on as women because of how we were raised. We need to know we can get off the Ferris wheel and remember who we are, not who we have been told to be. As a society we need to love our children especially our daughters unconditionally because they are also the mothers of our grandchildren! As a mother of two sons as well, I am aware of their love for me, and the tenderness and love they possess for the women in their lives. They will be fathers of my granddaughters that will be a goddess of tomorrow! I am witness to the fact that I have done well by them.

“It takes someone really brave to be a mother, Someone strong to raise a child, And someone special to Love someone more than herself. -Lilly

Ask yourself what example of love have you provided to your daughters? Has it been a conditional love of punishment and abuse or an unconditional love of joy, acceptance, support and encouragement! Release that which no longer serves you because it is not your truth. Share your inner being of love with your daughter no matter what it takes from you to release your fears. Be honest when you reflect on what type of mom you are when it comes to your daughter. Maybe it is time to forgive yourself for the choices you made in the past to connect with your daughter again.

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“Our daughters are the most precious of our treasures, the dearest possessions of our homes, and the objects of our most watchful love. -Margaret E. Sangster

Born in 1951 I am of the first generation that was not breast-fed due to the invention of formula. Could that have been the beginning of daughters separating from their moms. The relinquishing of truly being nourished at the breast of our mothers because society deemed it healthier to buy formula! I chose to breast feed my children and I am happy to see the young women of today returning to this simple true connection to their babies.

I believe we as women need to return to the belief that we are goddesses. We are perfect in the bodies we have. We truly possess a beauty because we are the temples for life. We must love our temples for we are setting an example for our daughters. There is no women’s body that is too skinny or too fat. Our bodies are beautiful no matter what shape they are in. My motto is to find that which creates freedom of thought.

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“Calm and still is the water, no birds are in the air, the sun rises slowly to its peak. Trees stand tall, ever so strong, love is never wrong.” -Linda Amato (1994)

I wish all the women of the world a very happy and loving Goddess Day!

Meditate! Pray! Journal!

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LA BELIEVES IN LOVE

 

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My days are filled with a thought that there is a reason for everything. Growing up as a child of an alcoholic father and a detached fearful mother,  I have simply did as I have been told for most of my life. Silence was a means of my survival. Today I have discovered a connection to the Spirit world that embraces my silence as a grown woman. I do wonder how I survived in a world that filled me with delight at a young age, as well as, fear.

Why else would I escape into the books of my youth but to dream. How did I never quarrel with my parents or brother, only because I knew there was no need to. There seems to be so much chaos in life today that I am happy I grew up when I did. Alcohol and Fear made me who I am today. I embrace my life that I have lived with lessons learned and peace in my heart. My path has taken me on one amazing journey that I could never have imagined myself. But here I am living a life that is filled with believable alternatives that come from the universe and fills me with belief in a world that I know is truly great. I am safe and all is well.

I have learned of perception recently and how others perceive even me. I find it intriguing and interesting. There are so many emotions I can claim as my own from anger to disgust but why would I today. I have a question that I pull up from the depths of my soul in situations. Simply, “what would God do?” A small but powerful question that places me in the right frame of mind. God would do nothing but love is the answer. I pray to Him to help me to love as He does. To guide me on this journey that is left, free of the ego/personality that no longer serves me.

I would like to add that my love of the written word led me to be an avid reader but the most benefit I ever received was in writing the written word through the act of taking pen to paper for my entire life. Whether it was a journal, story or poetry I wrote. Even this  blog releases the doubts in my mind that struggle to fill me with fear or worry but which I have no use for in my world today. I came across some poetry from my past and would like to share the following poem that I wrote in the year 1993. I believe it is appropriate at this time in my life once again.

The Change

The pattern of life has been set before our time was ever a question

Can we somehow believe to make a difference with a suggestion

Adults we become, the change we will make.

In the end, all we will feel, is the pain of heartache.

Around and around, year after year, we create an existence.

Only to always believe the world as we know it, needs some assistance.

Kindness and love, can be a special part of this family.

Unfortunately, there is no time to listen to the cries we hear steadily.

There is always tomorrow, but it simply will leave.

Then its too late, the change has not come, so we begin to grieve…

Meditate. Pray. Journal.

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LA Believes in Love,

My role as wife and mom filled me with joy. I imagine as women that stay at home we experience the unique balancing of the stages of our children’s growth process. School, homework, tests, sports, music, dance and the many ways we need to beat the clock daily. Yet we survive it all. Dating today has amazed me raising four children as I never dated but have been with my husband since the 7th grade. Definitely different times. I have one rule and that is who they love I love.

As I witness the expansion of my family with marriage and babies I realize that generationally we are all raised in different surroundings. As such, no one can comprehend another’s childhood and acceptance is needed. Acceptance and love allows us to not be critical or judgmental. This I strive for in my life. I believe the soul aches to be nourished as we enter into all relationships. it matters not who we are in relationship with we are all given the choice of how we react to them. Love needs to be the foundation in all relationships not just for babies or our pets. When we strive for excellence others will also.

When my youngest daughter at seventeen and she left for college my life shifted.  It was a time of  deep reflection for me as motherhood responsibilities were eliminated. Three of my children moved out of the home at this time and the tears began to fall. I questioned why I had not prepared for this moment. With a deep ache in my heart I prayed to know where I was headed. The word “share” became part of my vocabulary.  As a mom for twenty-four years at this point in time, I had shared my love, time, and wisdom with my children. Now what? It is in these times of emotional sadness where we are rewarded with our purpose. An avid book person and a daily woman who took pen to paper,  I discovered God definitely had a plan for me.

Visiting my daughter in Arizona at ASU I began to read the book, You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay. The date was October 10, 2003! The definition of transformation is the act or process of transforming; the state of being transformed..

LA BELIEVES IN LOVE

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The purpose of my existence has been to love and be loved. I never questioned any other way of being. I simply knew to love. It mattered not the situation or how I was treated my choice was to love. At times when fear crept into my world I wrote poetry or took to my journal to make sense of others in my life being unkind. When I became a mother thirty-eight years ago the meaning of my being here was confirmed. To nurture and nourish with unconditional love was the key that unlocked the despair from yesterday.

There was a part of me that understood the natural essence of life and how to provide with my body through natural childbirth and breast feeding a cord that would sustain us both. This wonder in my first son was a miracle with my husband that we would create a total of four times. The memories I have stored away that I treasure from the very moment I met these babies has sustained me to know my purpose. I believe that they set the stage for what I do today in more ways than one can imagine. As a single mom my children kept me sane. I realized early that I never owned them and that I was simply the means of their existence and foundation.

I deeply loved the responsibilities that came with this new title I proudly wore that I was chosen to be the mother of Tory, Tina, Nicholas and Jessica. Dinner time was family time where we gathered together to share our day and to laugh. You may wonder if there was conflict, rebellion and disagreement between these siblings and society. I fool you not and share that we existed as a family bonded by a mother that saw no wrong in her children. Boundaries were a key ingredient in their world as they grew up. Do not think that they did not call to my attention the judgmental and critical attitude of their teachers. Still, I stood firm in my belief in my children no matter what.

Children learn by love and support which they received abundantly. Who they have grown to be in essence as husband, father, wife and mother is critical to how they were raised. The two youngest ones who are not married yet still have time to choose how they will approach the world of being a spouse or parent.

What they have accomplished today is their freedom to live in a world where many have fallen victim to drugs. Is this the reality of a society that has fallen victim to substances, due to the fact of pain, choice or a prearranged contract? Why does one choose to be addicted and another not? Only God knows the answer to that.

In reality, I am a child of an alcoholic but I chose not to be one. Is there a lesson here that I simply learned that I grasped at a young age? Can it be that what I was witness to was part of the plan? As we are all children at one time raised by our parents very early on, I wonder who is the teacher and who is the student?

Today as I blog my baby has turned thirty years old. I am amazed at how time is the one thing we can not stop or change or return to in our reality of life. Time does not wait for anyone. Children will grow up with or without love I imagine. Although I do believe as a mom that my greatest and only reason for being is to love these children under all circumstances.

Who I am today on this path that I travel is because of them, my husband and my parents. Many have travelled along with me and some have stayed while others ventured away. Know that we are all here to light the way for another with love.

Transformation is next…

Pray. Meditate. Journal.
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LA BELIEVES IN LOVE

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The innocence of my life was that I loved. The path of my life has led me on a journey that I never questioned or wondered about. Placing one step in front of the other I walked forward trusting and believing in my destiny. I imagine at times that fear gripped me and tried to delay that which I needed to learn by the power of  my ego to fill my head because of the situation of my home life. The journey has a way of allowing us to stumble at times and pick ourselves up and move forward on this path we call life.

Raised in to believe in God, I went to Catholic school where real nuns in black dresses and huge rosary beads put fear and belief in sin in everyone. That I loved was simply my foundation of being taught to be a good girl. The rituals of my religion I embraced with open arms. Prayer, church and confession were weekly if not sometimes daily. Somehow when I was younger the air on Sunday was different to me. The sounds and people on a Sunday were different, as well.  I cannot explain it but Sunday was a holy day and a family day. The silence in the air I imagine today was because no one worked and all the stores were closed. It was peaceful to go to the Avenue and find that every store was closed. This was a time when there were no malls imagine that! My dad would go to the bakery and after church we had cheese Danishes and apple turnovers. When I was older and no longer in Catholic school I skipped church and walked the Avenue. Once in high school there was no one to answer to and the taste of freedom too great. Needless to say, I held fast to my prayers but the rituals of my childhood slipped away. I was too busy now.

What does the word love really mean? Love in the dictionary states a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child or friend. Such innocence of affection led me to marry my childhood boyfriend and begin one amazing ride. We grew up during these past forty-four years together in our marriage. We truly lived an existence that was separate at times and filled with emotion at others. I was taught by my parents as he was taught by his about how to be in a relationship. I cannot speak for his childhood because I was not living in his home. Mine although briefly described prior to this page, I saw a father who cherished his wife although he scared her to death because of his addictions. It was this witnessing of separation between them as my brother and I went with my dad everywhere and during the last thirty years of his life it was I who spent time with him and cherished him. My mom’s detachment due to fear of him and me allowed her to favor my brother so the lesson I learned was to favor no one.  My husband and I had created a separate existence through the years while raising four children. I find this interesting to realize today because our roles somehow reflected a part of our own upbringing.

Blessed to be a stay at home mom it was my husband who has provided everything for our family. His drive and desires enabled us to live a life filled with abundance. A man of many talents he is a builder of homes today because he started his journey in construction but at one time he owned and ran two restaurants, a resale automobile business and a record label, as well as, being a manager for our daughter’s singing career.

Still I wonder always when did the innocence leave. Is it simply part of living at this time on planet earth that somehow, somewhere more became a requirement to exist. Why did we choose to go further than our parents in every way? Was it offered to us because of our education, beliefs or simply the fact that change and growth is part of the plan for everyone. An example I think of was that I grew up without a car. At one time we had seven cars in our home. Another would be; I grew up with a telephone only in the kitchen. Our house had one in every bedroom and there were five, living room and even in our master bathroom which brought it to a total of eight. Is this all considered progress, want or necessity.

Now that we are alone in our large house we have only one television in the living room and we have downsized to five telephones and three cars. My life is abundant and yes I am grateful beyond words for the ride i have been allowed to experience. My yesterdays have taken me to a place of deep understanding that there is a reason for everything and there are no mistakes ever in life.

To come … the children!

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LA BELIEVES in LOVING LIFE

I am amazed and grateful for the powers of the Universe. Truly we all need to connect to the light within. I have travelled a journey that is filled with change, love, light and happiness. As a daughter, wife, mother and grandmother the choices I make affect those around me. I have always been aware that I am an example for others, especially my children. As I reflect on my childhood and the foods I consumed they seem to me today to be very basic. Milk, Cereal,Meat, Chicken, Lamb, Shrimp, Potatoes, Rice, Corn, Cold cuts, Applesauce, Ice cream, potato chips and chocolate chip cookies. Not a wide variety of foods. Almost forgot Nathan’s hot dogs were a favorite of my dad which we all ate.

When I met my husband, I fell in love with italian food. A change in my diet led me to become a carb eater. Now I did not become a brave woman who tried everything and ate everything but I did eat differently. I had an inner knowing of not drinking when I ate, not choosing to eat sauces on my food, which drives my husband crazy. I actually eat dry pancakes, french toast and most foods without additional butter, syrup or gravy. Mostly stayed away from fast foods except for the occasional hit back in the day. Never was a soda drinker which I find amusing since my dad worked for American Beverage!

Somewhere along this amazing journey I found out I was lactose intolerant and intolerant to other foods as well that I consumed regularly. Late in life, I introduced green vegetables and salad into my diet, began juicing and educated myself about organics and learned that we are what we eat. I became a vegetarian then I tried to be vegan. Well, my body was rebelling and I chose to listen and learn.

The following ingredients are in our foods that we eat and that we feed our children. As I am an avid reader and realize many do not choose to read because they don’t have the time I do or the desire I do! Please just read this and begin to read food labels and pay attention to what you are eating. If  you feel the need to educate yourself in anyway about the foods we consume, then please buy the book, The Food Babe Way by Vani Hari. Begin to eat Organic foods and drink Organic Milk today. If you want to know why these ingredients are unhealthy for your body and what foods your are eating that they are in, then you have to read the book, The Food Babe Way.

– High Fructose Corn Syrup
– Natural and Artificial Flavors
– Food dyes
– Caramel Color (class IV)
– MSG (MONOSODIUM GLUTAMATE)
– Potassium Sorbate
– Sulfites
– Monsanto Milk = GMO (genetically modified organisms)
– Carrageenan
– Canola Oil
– Peanut Oil with TBXQ
– Cottonseed oil
– Trans fats (partially hydrogenated oils)
– Artificial Sweetners

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In honor of Father’s Day …

The men in our lives begin their journey as little boys, grow up, fall in love and become fathers and then grandfathers one day. We love them and at times get very upset with them! How do we accept them as they are with their little quirks and ways that drive us crazy? This is the roller coaster ride of one of the main relationships in the lives of all women and men. Well, we did fall in love with them so they had something that caught our hearts. I imagine at times that my own sons would one day love their wives as they love me, and their sons and daughters, as the treasure they are because of the cycle of life. Women and Men on a journey of discovery stumbling and yet so filled with love that we think we know what is best for each other. Why do we get this idea in our heads that we need to change one another? We develop this constant complaining about one another but what are we really fearful of? I believe Father’s day is a day to fill our hearts with love for all the men in our lives because as women the first man we fell in love with was our dad and then our sons. Know there is a reason for everything and never forget you chose your dad and all that he could teach you. You might have chosen him maybe to teach him something.

I have always believed that men had the hardest path because of the responsibility of their lives; loving their woman and providing for their family is a constant. Women on the other hand just do what they do naturally, and nourish and nurture everyone with love. I marvel at the man who cooks and supports his wife. The man who takes the time to know his children. The man who communicates with love in his eyes. May the fathers in our lives and the boys and men that will grow to be fathers in the future take the time to nurture and nourish themselves so they can shower the women and chidren in their lives with love. Men please learn to open your hearts for we truly do love you even when you make us crazy! Women stop nagging your man and just do what you do best – love him!

Happy Father’s Day to the Men in our lives and may the memories of all our dads this year fill us with pride! Forgiveness is key to experiencing love so like the song says … “LET IT GO!”

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In honor of Mother’s Day… IAM filled with the emotion of love for all children and mothers. Mothers as well as children come with all different beliefs. As we are all brought up by a mother who was brought up by her mother who was brought up by her mother and so it goes. Fears and demons of the journey are gifted from mom to mom as they say. We develop a pattern in life to survive the issues as if we were blinded in discovering that which would set us free. Abandonment, Abuse, Despair filled with guilt, shame, grief and lies leads us to develop attachment and illusion on the journey. Know that God is Love and Love is God. God is within waiting for you to call Him and ask for help. We are given “free will” on the journey to know our truth, to discover we are gifted with a purpose and passion. We are born to learn from each other to forgive, love and know there is a reason for everything. Forgiveness is that which we release and which sets us free. On this Mother’s Day let us release that which no longer serves us as we pray to God to enlighten our journey with our passions, purpose and freedom. Know that your mom has done the best she knew how to do only because each of us are taught by another. If you were raised in a loving home, supported and encouraged to spread your wings and fly, then share the love! PRAY.  MEDITATE. JOURNAL. www.LindaAmato.com

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The Power of Belief

Today, IAM 62 years old and I no longer believe as I was raised to believe because I journeyed a path to find my truth. In dong so, I found that God rests within me, actually in my heart. An avid reader I devoured books on other teachings when it came to individual beliefs. In my travels I discovered prayers that comforted me as well as nourished a part of me which I call my soul. My belief in God as my truth led me to study that which opened me to a main religion which I call LOVE!

Through the act of journaling IAM able to discover a life I chose, to be a beacon of light for others. There was a time I was not aware of this light that shined from within. Today, I know it is my purpose – my passion! IAM led by Spirit! This inner voice is clearly heard by me. I follow its guidance. It is my belief that IAM never alone. I smile as I write this because I deeply know there is a comforting world waiting to be embraced by all. I trust with my heart that all is exactly as it is meant to be for me. In reflection just in this past year I notice I listened to the guidance I received and became a way shower for others. I thank you God for that!

The past year, 2013, was a year of love; celebrating birthdays, anniversaries and marriages. We all turned a year older and my two youngest grand babies completed their first year.  The months were filled with parties as we came together with family and friends as one filled with laughter and joy. I have been always looking for my place and I feel I have found my way now. 2013 was the year I began my weekly blog and gave birth to a Monthly Healing Circle of Love which has brought women together in a safe haven to share their stories. The discovery of one’s passion and purpose as I have accomplished is through many different avenues but the main sign is that which excites you and when performing it time flies by.

Meditating, praying and journaling are my rituals to start my day. The routines of  daily life are the same for many I imagine because we exist solely on what we know and how we were raised. Personally, i was never taught to meditate before I opened the door to alternative belief. However, the depth of my meditating did not escalate until I studied with Deborah King and was taught by her. I believe today that I can be the person that is calm, worry-free and accepting because of the simplicity of meditating 20 minutes a day. Praying and journaling have been part of my journey as long as I can remember but now it is consistently a daily part of my life.

Today, the fifteenth day of the New Year I look forward to the surprises that await in this coming year. The books I will be led to read. The men and women’s stories I will hear. Those people the Universe will send to me to share all that I know as a Holistic Counselor. The times we shall come together with love in our hearts as family and friends. The wonder and excitement in the eyes of my children as they are amazed by the wonder of their children. The miracles that will set us free and that will open our hearts towards one another. The joy that fills my soul when I speak to my children all in the same day. The happiness I receive when I spend time with my grandbabies. I believe I live a wondrous life experience and I do look forward to not knowing the future but opening my heart to all.

I have discovered that I have reached inner peace that comforts my daily journey through my beliefs in a universe that guides me forward in this world. Meditating, prayer and journaling have become a passion and nourishment every day. Through these actions IAM nurtured. These tools are my primary food in life, as well as, a few others I have in my tool box while living a human experience as a Spiritual being.

The following is excerpted from my book: Making Believers: Connect to the Light within…

Nourishment

I need to do this for myself

I need to find solace

I need to feel silence

Within me runs a current of energy

That desires to be ignited

And burn brighter for all eternity

God will accomplish this dream to nourish me

As I spread His Love through my creativity!

 

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Happy Holidays to All…

As I personally prepare for the holidays; shopping and wrapping presents, decorating my house and tree I look around at the beauty that fills my soul at this time of year. This past Saturday the snow covered the world as if I were living in a winter wonderland and filled me with delight. I trust and believe that there is a Divine Intelligence creating this beauty to behold. I reflect back on past holiday seasons when I was a child. The snow, music, wonder, and excitement filled with anticipation of the gifts on Christmas morning I can still remember. IAM very grateful for my parents who always made the holidays special. I try in my way to take what they taught me with my own children and now my grandchildren.

Christmas is all about the wonder in the eyes of a child. My oldest grandchild who is 5 told me that he received a letter from Santa and he was put on the nice list. He was thrilled! I have created in these past few weeks a date night with my two oldest grandsons and they fill my heart with joy. My husband and I pick them up at early in the evening and spend about 3 hours with them. It is a time that for me is planting memories for tomorrow. I told my husband that I hope that even 10 years down the road we are still meeting them for dinner and our special time together. Why not? 

For many I am aware of the grief they are feeling during this time of the year, whether it is a recent loss or a past loss in their lives. It is part of our life journey to love and move one. To grieve and feel sad, even depressed. Personally, I have grieved, I have lost but I trust that there is a process to life and that sometimes we must remember to give an open love unconditionally with those we share our life experience with so we have no regrets afterwards. Love is the Power we all possess to be given with an open heart.

There comes a time to forgive those we think that have created fear and pain in our lives and remember the good times. There had to be good times, I believe! We forget the fun times, the laughter and wonder of life and choose to get stuck in the end part of life. That those we loved are gone, but how did you get along with them when they were here is the question to be answered. What better time of year then this time when there is music, lights, gifts to be bought and food to be shared to reflect on happy memories.

We as a society take the fears, guilt, shame, lies and grief forward with us by choice when they need no longer be part of today. We need not forget but we can forgive only because what has happened cannot be changed. We are here to love one another unconditional. Sit in silence today and close your eyes for a few minutes checking in with your emotions and how you love who you are, then fill your heart with this love and send it to those you are missing. Breathe in saying “God!” Breathe out saying “Is!” You will be amazed at how wonderful you will feel!

Meditating, taking pen to paper, praying and reading spiritual books can calm the soul and relax the mind. Yes, it is a hectic time in general but it is also a time to give, forgive and be of service in some way. It matters most of all the love in your heart that you share with another.

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IAM GRATEFUL …

Being thankful and filled with gratitude at this time of year also comes with a bit of sadness for many. This past week I found myself a bit emotional while driving in my car. A song on the radio reminded me of my dad who has been gone since 1998. Thoughts filled my head that Thanksgiving day was my brother’s favorite holiday but he’s been gone since 1988. I think of my mom who stopped making his favorite stuffing that year and has dementia now and has drifted away from me as well. I allow the emotions to fill me up as tears fall knowing that there is nothing I can do about their choices in life. I write the word ‘choices’ because I read once that all deaths are considered a form of suicide because we manifest and create our lives by our thoughts, words and actions. I breathe in, take a moment to send them all my love. Yes, I miss them. Yes, I do wish they were here. Still I take the memories stored deep in my heart and smile at the ride I have been on.

My life is full with unbelievable abundance as I will share my home with those who are my family and friends. I have an amazing group of characters in my life and they bless me because I laugh with them, cry and fill with love for each one. I have been led down this path of acceptance and it comforts me to know that IAM not responsible for another’s actions. We all have free will and allowed to choose for ourselves how we want to be portrayed to others. I bless everyone with a small thought today to be a being of love during this time of being thankful and gathering with family and friends.

My oldest son has given me the gift of another daughter to love and three beautiful grandchildren. My mind fills with the memory of my life as a mom all those years ago and I wonder how did I do it all. Being a mom is a great gift but also emotional and at times filled with struggle.

My oldest daughter has blessed me with another son to love as well and a beautiful grandson. I watch her and see myself. My God, she has become me. It’s true! She is calmer and enjoying her son, husband and home which is all I can ask for. We as daughters either fight to be different then our mom or just like her. I see through the eyes of a deep well of love that there is a tiny part of my heart in all my children.

At this time my younger son who has never left home is following his heart to move out and expand his soul. I gather my thoughts around this and fill with an emotion that I shall now be where I started 42 years ago … just me and my husband. We have come full circle! The silence in the home is welcomed but at the same time the echo of their laughter and voices will always fill me up. A mother never forgets the simplicity of their child while they nursed them, held and hugged them. Those are life long moments that I shall always treasure.

My youngest daughter is the bravest of all my children as she has chosen a path of being of service and traveling far from all of us and now lives in California. Sometimes as a mom all I had to do was listen, support and say ‘yes’ to them. Of course I mixed in love to let them know how perfect they all are in their own way. My little girl amazes me the most because she is living a life connected to her soul’s passion and purpose. I wonder if I had anything to do with that?

IAM grateful that they all chose me as their mom. I know I have my memories to carry on my path forward and I pray somehow they too remember the fun, laughter, joy and love I embraced them with all those years ago and still do.

I marvel at these amazing people that surround me and help me to live my truth and expand my soul by the lessons I learn from them still. I know they have literally been gifts and on loan for me but every night I smile when I remember the joy that I have spoken to each of my four that day.

Rituals, traditions, gathering together with people who have been there through the years is my greatest reason for being filled with gratitude.  IAM abundant! I have been blessed with an amazing mother-in-law, father-in-law, sister-in-laws, brother-in-law and nieces and nephews, as well as, friends. I would like to take this time to thank them for all the years we shared  the holidays through the happy and sad times. I love you all. 

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Image“IAM possessive of myself and extremely protective of my passion…”

On this day Halloween 2013 I find myself reflecting on my children that will bring their children later to my house for me to see their costumes. Their excitement, laughter and joy will nourish me! Ages 5, 4, 1 and 1; I remember my own as they delighted in this day.

It is with respect and by choice that I have always treated my children. IAM still at  this age able to learn from them. It is our honest view of the life we live today that allows information between us to be shared. IAM their mother but IAM also a person they can talk to about anything. I do not judge them at all for I look at them at times as knowing more than I do. It is this trust I have in them that makes me realize their own strengths. When they cry – I cry! When they laugh – I laugh! When they love – I love! It is this sharing of life I have accomplished. I always believed I was a very possessive person but in reality I was led in life to be protective of those I loved. Only I knew them, I believed, and as I reflected deep down I knew they would be mine for just a short time. Now that they are able to protect themselves I see less of them but IAM called if an answer is needed.

It is the hardest part of being a parent when suddenly it is time to allow them to live their life which you brought them into the world to fulfill. I compare it always to when I taught them to ride a bicycle. As I ran by their side holding on to the back of the seat, I tried to judge the right moment to let go. If they fell, they jumped right back up to try again. As in life it is that moment a parent needs to let go, so that their children can try it on their own.

One must live their own existence and to do so, one has to make their own choices. My children have been guided by me to learn to choose. Life and living has a way of allowing this lesson to be born at an early age. It is the parent that respects and listens to their child that will see the choices a child is capable of even at an early age. 

I look at them today with love that fills my entire body. They do not see what I do for I have the memories of their youth forever implanted in my mind’s eye. It is with wonder when they appear at my door that I fill with delight. Is it not every mother’s dream that their child be productive in their life and happy? I have raised four exceptional children that are gifted and capable to know their passion early in life for I have let them always be true to the child of yesterday. It is this that puts a smile of love in my eyes for them as my heart skips a beat at the mere mention of their names.

Today I enjoy yesterday even more only because of the benefits offered by my dedication to being a mom and housewife. IAM forever thankful that I was allowed to accomplish this. This is the beauty of being able to do what one loves doing with passion and creativity. I can attest to the miracles I have been given and the dreams I dreamed of shall now be fulfilled all because IAM accepting and grateful for all IAM blessed with.

B O O ! ! ! and HAPPY HALLOWEEN …

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Simplify Your Life… Choose Love!

There seems to me that the process of life is laid out and one can be accepting of its needs or not. I strive through intention to surround those in need with the Dove of Love. I believe only the Dove of Love can be shared and passed on for love is all that is needed to wipe away one’s tears in the night or day. It is the strength of all to find a means to survive with love as the main ingredient that is most likely missing. It is foolish for anyone to believe that love is not necessary for them to feel happy or complete. Love is definitely a source of light to live by. Let me explain what I mean by the Dove of Love which to me seems a way for me to just do a visualization that is a means of sending love out to those in need by having a white dove deliver love, peace and calmness to all who need love in their life for whatever reason because they have popped into my mind. A simple intention of love being sent from me to you.

As we are joined one and all to each other by the bond that we share life on this planet. It is the air we breathe, the sun that warms us, the sea that calms us and the earth that grounds us and fills us with beauty. It is this unity of life which is the fact that we are all one. It is not hard to remember this but easy to ignore that love connects us all. Take a look at your own thoughts to find balance and beauty in life daily.

As children we are amazed by the wonder, excitement and joy of life. Unfortunately, we grow to mistrust the freedoms of yesterday and follow instead a society type of belief. The ugliness, competition, pettiness and monetary values tend to create our new belief. Are we foolish to believe otherwise? Can it be that the lessons of life are simply just the choices we create to learn from? It is those of us who refuse to learn from our own choices that require one to stop and pay attention to the pattern of their own creations. We are the only ones who can choose to stop and learn from our thoughts, words and actions.

If there is illness of any kind, sadness, grief or depression then please take a look at your emotions and reactions on a daily basis. Pay attention to how you feel; are you angry, nasty, or abusive in any way.? Have you developed a pattern that can now be considered confrontational? Are you addictive? Do you in someway believe that you must control life in general? Do you believe you are unworthy or a victim. Are you having difficulty forgiving others from your past? STOP! Release that which no longer serves you today.

Life is to live!  Life is to grow!  Life is to love! When we choose to differ and refuse love then we are betraying only ourselves. When we know we are not honest and create a life that destroys the love for ourselves or another we are willingly denying love into our lives. If it is your choice to be dishonest, deceitful, a liar or simply just unkind to those you claim to love then the pain that is greatest lies within. This dishonesty, betraying and lying to others begins to affect us in ways that are painful as it contradicts our inner beliefs. The innocence of life is gone and one fills with pain and illness that one has simply created. It is the process of life to trust that there is a process created by God called; love, honesty and the strength of kindness which creates beauty into ones life. Where there is beauty and light there is expansion of oneself that fills one with abundance to breathe in the love of life. As we unfold into finding love we become receptive to our own awareness and insight. Further benefit can be obtained through prayer and meditation.

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Today I Embrace My Path…

 

As I sit at the table on my deck in the backyard on this beautiful sunny morning I feel connected to a Divine Intelligence. Birds are singing in the tress and the water is flowing by ever so silently. There seems to be a stillness in the air that is comforting. I understand that I need to be part of life to live life. In reality I am more comfortable being alone because I enjoy the company of the universe. I am neither bored nor feel as if I am missing something. It is this beauty and wonder I feel for life that surrounds me and fulfills me. It simply is the need for nothing. I have everything I can think of. This simplicity and beauty of life fills me with joy. I am abundantly fulfilled.

I feel protected and satisfied on this path I am following as I am aligning my life’s goals and purpose. There is a time for all things in one’s life if one is patient, honest, truthful and noble. The part I am learning today is that I must join the human race. This is not easy for me because I have comforted myself in the silence of a lifetime by being a spiritual loving and giving woman. I believe that I have grown beyond a need or reason to teach my children any more. They have learned all they can from me. Now they make choices as adults in their life that they are offered by the universe. Sometimes they just need that connection to me as a means of verification.

I am a child myself learning about all that I can be. I need at this time to play and fill with joy at all that is waiting for me to embrace; to see life through the eyes of children again. My dreams are joyfully filled with wonder by my grand babies as well as the flow of water that I am witness to every day. I am offered an emotional energy that fills me with intuition by the waters of my dreams and daily existence. Water nourishes my soul as it offers me a spiritual alignment with the powers of the universe. I find this to be a connection to the depths of my soul. I am overwhelmed with the emotions of my life at times because they are not what I had expected from myself. It is the ability of feeling connected with all and not separate from but whole that is harmonious.

My strength has always been my children. My greatness is them. I miss the joy and love I surrounded our days with as a mom in the past. Yes, there are telephone calls and questions daily but the time to move on past the walls of just being a mom is now. This change of being a creative, productive woman is upon me in its fullest capacity. I believe I have completed being the woman I was yesterday only because of the strength my children possess today to fulfill their own paths. I have nurtured and nourished them with unconditional love and I am aware that I have to let them fly out into the world and do their own work now.

I notice that my soul/personality is screaming extremely loudly to be heard. My soul is satisfied by my choices and is brightly lit. It is my personality my heart that is bruised and wounded but the comfort of my soul is stronger than the discomfort my personality is going through. The wonder of my whole existence is now the knowledge within which is the truth of how I am and all that I am capable of. If my emotions are bruised it is because as a human being it is part of the journey of life to feel and experience that which we need to learn from. It is fine for me to acknowledge the pain within caused by a life I chose to exist in. For now I believe I need to cleanse myself of that which I no longer need in my life. I will then be nourished by the spirit of my soul.

All in all I am accepting of the changes I have made and realize how the strength and belief in oneself brings one power to be. At times I move slowly and seem to revert  back of my own free will to old thoughts. There are endings and beginnings in life and a new beginning can only start with an end of the old, a sort of completion is required as I accept what is today.

I myself look for reasons and excuses when I know the truth yet cannot acknowledge it is so. I am in a state of suspension, a limbo as I wait for my true purification of yesterday. As a balanced, enlightened soul I am dwelling on the change of my lifetime and emotionally I worry of its effect on those I love.

I am not a different me. I am a true me. My choices are for me and the universe. To be joined in unity with love. I see we are all one, all connected. The pain caused to one hurts all. To believe otherwise or that there is separateness is to deceive oneself. There can only be love in life to belong to each other. With no love, no kindness, and no joy one’s light deems.

I believe that the greatest lesson is that change is healthy and required to find one’s way. To love with pain and knowledge of despair is true love. The pain is the emotional aspect of rejection because the blood of love pumps through our veins. My soul requires no answers or reasons why, for a new life is possible once the old one no longer works.

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My Inner Child …

Not all memories from growing up fill me with despair.

There was joy, I know there was. There had to be!

I smile as I sit here in a very small cottage on an island called Fire Island, New York. Paradise is the only word that comes to my mind! To get here you have to take a Ferry or come by boat. There are deer walking around  as the ocean roars for all to hear.  Most people ride bicycles to get from town to town and transport their stuff with wagons once they arrive. Owners with their dogs are everywhere. Hurricane Sandy did much damage and many ocean front homes have been washed away or destroyed by her fury.  Still, Fire Island is bursting with people who own homes, renters and day people who come for a day to bask in the sun.

In the past we came here by boat when our children were small and I dreamed of a house of my own one day in this magical land.  The Universe answered my pray and nine years ago my husband found what I named Heart Beat Haven! This small cottage is attached to a 5 bedroom house with two full baths, kitchen, living room, deck and an outdoor shower. This is the first summer the big house has not been rented. In the past we shared our ‘little cottage’ with our children, family and friends.  ‘Little cottage’ is little,  a room with a futon, sink, refrigerator and small back deck. A spiral staircase placed in the corner takes you upstairs to a bedroom and bathroom. Simply, Paradise!

I marvel at the memory of my childhood. A stoop to sit on or a walk around the block during the summer. On weekends maybe Coney Island beach or Rockaway beach by train.  The truth is I was happy with very little. There was a freedom in no school and a few chores to help my mom. Life was family, friends and simplicity. I was maybe 5 years old when we lived in Greenpoint, NY and watched fireworks on the roof top over Manhattan. We struggled with episodes of my dad drunk and my mother terrified of him but there were good times.  We had very little, not even a car but I never wanted for anything. Both my parents worked and today I know they did the best they could because look who I have become.

As a mom of 4 grown children and 4 grand babies I marvel the time we spend together from boating with my children every summer when they were small and now enjoying my grand babies as they jump for joy when a deer passes by them or comes by the deck to eat. My life has grown tremendously from taking care of a drunken dad, a fearful mom and a beaten brother. My husband has provided us with a life that is abundant by the grace of God.  We have shared our homes and our hearts as best we could.

IAM positive that if you asked my 4 grown children of their childhood you would get 4 totally different stories.  In my heart I know they were loved and given a life that I myself could never have imagined. May they take their childhood memories and treasure how we as their parents tried to give them all that we had never had! We love them as we were taught how to love. My husband has shared with our sons all that he loved; hunting, fishing, boating and building of homes. He has shared our daughters dreams and supported their choices.

We are such a different generation compared to today’s because they have so much more. Yet, I wonder about the lack of respect, the influence of society taking its toll on them. I pray their inner child is able to one day embrace the love, the joy, the laughter and take the lessons learned with an open heart. I believe the hardest lessons  in life is being true to oneself and to  release negativity and look for the positive in all situations. We are a society that have created this need to expect too much because we want so much more than our parents  ever had. There comes a time when we need to be grateful for the life we have, those we love and the air we breathe.

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LA BELIEVES …

Death ...

A destiny or is it fate that we all create in some way by our thoughts, words and actions when our soul will exit our body?

Does DNA play a role?

Do we come into this world programmed with an illness that will manifest and end our time here?

Is exiting this life experience part of a  bigger plan to teach those we love and those who love us a lesson?

Do we in somehow make a sacred contract to die in a mass murder, terrorist attack, suicide or act of weather; tsunami, earthquake, hurricane  or tornado?

Is not life eternal and the truth is that we are reincarnated anyway to begin again?

Kabbalah teaches us that we come back to make a correction because somehow we did mess up in our last life and exited before we made the correction?

Is life such a mystery or an enormous plan to teach us all to be loving, kind and respectful to one another no matter what?

Will we have no regrets if we are loving, kind and respectful to all?

Are we born gifted and preprogrammed to share our inner wisdom and passion when we discover it with all?

Why is it so difficult to discover who we are and why we are here?

Are we not here to be of service?

Can this fear of death which creates within us a fear to live as loving spiritual beings be because we create a belief that we are in control of our lives?

Can it be that in doing so, we live life by taking everything that happens to others that we love personal?

Although we are all one, are we not here on a unique individual journey walking our path to discover our truth, to expand and hear the voice of our soul?

Can this path be as simple as to love ourselves so that we can love another unconditionally? 

Is it true that we pick our parents to either learn from them or to teach them something, yet some of us become disappointed in them, abandoned by them, hateful of them, abused by them and spend our lives trying to make some kind of sense out of our relationship with them?

Why is life completely difficult for many because a loved one has died in whatever manner was their destiny/fate while another knows there is no death but that life, the soul is eternal?

Why? Why? Why? These questions fill my mind about an aspect of life called death, when the truth is it affects every living species on our planet. We cry, we become depressed, we grieve for days, months, years or even our entire lifetime because a grandparent, husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, child or friend has died! 

Could there not be a better word to describe when the body is no longer but the soul continues to exist?

Is it the word death itself that creates this belief in someone simply ending and being no more that terrifies us?

Personally, my grandparents, brother, nephew, father and some friends have exited life. I grieved the hardest when my brother suddenly died by a drunk driver twenty-five years ago. It was sudden and painful but the doors of my soul flew open and within me my inner wisdom manifested a way of thinking in my mind that IAM not responsible for who dies or lives. I questioned even back then God;  “why did he not make the choice to stay, why did he die leaving a wife and three young children while breaking my mom’s heart wide open?”

There had to be a plan, a time allotted, either through that which we co-create with God, whether it be illness, murder or even when another takes their life willingly. There had to be an inner knowing which I imagine today is the essence of who we are that we ignore and end up following a path towards our own end. Babies get ill and die suddenly, children are abused and children are murdered by others and sometimes by their own parents, did they have that sacred contract and volunteer for these lives to teach the living a lesson?

Through the years I have learned that we manifest and co-create our lives with God by the given act of free will that we all possess. Being loving, kind and joyful is all we need to be and yet we create lives that we fear, and we hate because of our belief in guilt, shame, grief, lies, illusion and attachment. Life gets filled up with fear, nonsense, suffering and pain because someone we loved has exited their body by their choice, could this be, I wonder, the plan for us to learn to not take things personally? I believe we are more powerful then we can imagine and that power is our own word and emotional belief that we project outward. There must be a reason for everything and I believe this is the mystery of life and our existence here on planet Earth. We have made life the vehicle for our suffering only because things are not happening as we feel they must but if we let go and let God our lives will be empty of pain and suffering.

I honestly don’t believe there is anyone living who has not experienced the death of a loved one. But think about that grief you hold on to in your heart daily as your personal life preserver. Somehow we have attached ourselves to death by this process we call grieving. We must grieve we are all told and we all know how to deeply grieve our losses. What if we decided to celebrate the time we shared with our loved  ones, remember their smile, laugh, how they hugged us and delighted in life no matter how old they were when they died? I would like you to imagine that maybe just maybe you can be hurting the one you love because you do not let them rest in peace when all along it was their plan to exit when they did because of their own thoughts, words and actions. Is not the teachings in life to love and let go those we love to discover their reason for being no matter what we may desire to control. Do we not all have the ability and gift to fly on our own no matter how old we are, living or dead?

Can it simply be karma?

Please feel free to answer these questions and share your own beliefs on this subject that touches us all.

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