What Right Have You Discarded Because of Abuse​?

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Abuse is prevalent in our society and many of our hearts are broken, dis-eased (breast, lung, thymus disorders plus asthma and immune system deficiency)  because we are in pain by a person who claims to love us. We choose especially, as women to give our POWER and OUR RIGHTS away in the name of love?

We have a chakra system within. Which are the blueprint for our soul! Our heart is the fourth chakra and ‘Our right to love and be loved.’ As well as being the bridge between the lower and upper chakras.

  • Chakra One – ‘Our right to be here’
  • Chakra Two – ‘Our right to feel’
  • Chakra Three – ‘Our right to act’
  • Above the heart Chakra Five – ‘Our right to be heard’
  • Chakra Six ‘Our right to see’
  • Chakra Seven ‘Our right to know.’

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wilde

When our chakras are balanced, it is our right to experience the following:
– Chakra 1 / Our foundation (base of spine), we feel safe, secure and comfortable in our physical body.
– Chakra 2 / Our sensation (sacral), we feel sensual, passionate, emotional and fluid.
– Chakra 3 / Our identity/power (solar plexus), we are action-oriented, self-assured and courageous.
– Chakra 4 / Our relationships (heart) are compassionate, loving and harmonious
– Chakra 5 / Our resonance (throat), is expressive, creative and we are communicative
– Chakra 6 / Our insight (third eye/brow), is intuitive, imaginative and perceptive
– Chakra 7 / Our understanding (crown), is wise, transcendent, visionary, open-minded, intelligent and thoughtful.

Let us journey into the wounded/closed unbalanced heart chakra. It is the beautiful color of emerald-green. There are many different kinds of hearts in our society; some become damaged by fear, guilt, shame, grief, lies, anger, and hate. Some are chipped at daily by the act of mental abuse, betrayal and physical abuse from a loved one. To heal the heart, we first must examine our belief around self-love and self-acceptance. Forgiveness begins with ourselves and where appropriate towards others.

“All abuses traumatize the heart chakra as they betray love.”  – Anodea Judith

Our hearts suffer even from movies, the radio, and newspapers when we hear of killings and violence toward our fellow humanity. The abuse towards our planet bruises our hearts, as well as tornadoes, hurricanes, and forest fires. Our hearts are sensitive to what we are connected to daily whether it be by sight, sound, touch, emotional or spiritual. Sometimes in conversation one can become triggered by another. A flashback to a time when words by a loved one hurt.

If any chakra is out of balance, it is due to the act of neglect, abuse, grief and not feeling loved which affects our heart. We as a society, as parents, siblings, friends, lovers are strong. We are powerful! Our power stems from our thoughts, words, and actions. We are unaware of the damage that is done by the apparent abuse of our words towards someone we claim to love which if unkind, is a form of abuse.

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Parents are influential. They can heal or harm a child that grows into an adult. Words are like swords in our heart! Painful memories in our soul! Sometimes this hurt and pain travel lifetimes with many of us. A wounded, closed heart stems from becoming detached, and refusing to change or grow towards a joyful destination in life as a human.

“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.”  – William Shakespeare

Everyone is aware of that feeling while lying in bed when we feel an inner ache in our chest. Deep in our heart area because a loved one of ours is experiencing abuse of some kind, has a dis-ease, or has transitioned over. There is no reason for such pain in our lives, which can be healed by beginning to choose love. Peace can arrive, even if someone is no longer here through prayer and meditation. A loss is a deep pain that fills our heart with sorrow but when we choose to love we will be healed.

I believe those with deep wounds that have closed their hearts carry fear, profound grief, and criticism because they feel unaccepted and are afraid of involvement and commitment. They need to achieve some power over others to feel deserving, right and that they are in control. They may long for tenderness but due to their prior abuse from a loved one have difficulty admitting it. They are looking for approval because they believe that approval means love. What type of disapproval did they experience is the question?

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“Thus children … are confronted by a tormentor they love, not one they hate and this tragic complication will have a devastating influence on their entire subsequent life. ”  – Alice Miller

Another form of abuse is abandonment that does damage to the heart. Not feeling worthy of love, no rules, and no boundaries set the child forward on a path of not believing they are essential. Something happened to these adults in the past that has been buried deep within that they refuse to release. They cling to a form of escape with a wounded, closed heart when it comes to love by not letting in any emotions or feelings to surface. It is their grief, anger, hate, and fear that they feed and nourish daily.

We will never know why but they have never felt loved or worthy of love. They live a life of pain and keep a barrier up to protect themselves. Within their essence is this belief that they are alone, separated and need to defend who they are from others through abuse. It comes down to them choosing a defensive, negative pattern.

When all our chakras are balanced, and we have a healthy heart, there is no dis-ease in the body. There is no addiction, no fear, no guilt, no shame, no grief, no lies, attachment or illusion. As these are the demons of all the chakras starting with Chakra One.

Please ask yourself at this time what demon are you feeding? What is it within you that you are nourishing daily as that demon that you cling to because of something that happened to you yesterday by a loved one. What right have you discarded because of another’s abuse toward you?

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There are lessons in life, and sometimes we are not aware of the teaching until it is too late. Hurting another’s heart willingly, and consciously hurts our heart as well. Kindness, love, and support are the tools we as humans need to strive for in our relationships. If we can open our hearts to know we are worthy of love today because we are born of love our lives will manifest greatness.

After years of having our heart chipped away by abusive words, damage to our psyche and exhaustion to our mind, we hold on tightly to our innocence of self. A discovery of self-opens the door for our freedom to arrive. Sooner or later a wounded, closed heart affects all those around them. No one has the right to take away even one of the seven rights that we are born with as a spiritual being having a human experience. Know you are worthy of love today.

PRAY! MEDITATE! JOURNAL!
BE KIND = BE WELL = CHOOSE LOVE!
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What Do You Believe? IS HUMANITY’S SADNESS ANCIENT?

“Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back…” – Arthur Rubinstein

What does this mean?
Do we all carry buried grief from lifetimes lived?
Is the sadness within that fills our heart and daily thoughts from ancient times?
How do we survive in today’s world with sadness that is of grief from another lifetime?
Is this what the word ancient means to you? To me?
How old is your sadness?
How old is my sadness?
How old is the grief we carry in our hearts?
Is this sadness born of our emotions?

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Our arms are one with our hearts, and it is this place that is our fourth chakra within our bodies. As well as our circulatory system, lungs, ribs, breasts, and shoulders. Sadness and grief stem from our heart as the demon of the fourth chakra is grief. Lifetime after lifetime it is our chakras that are the blueprint to our souls.

Babies cry at a very early age – why? Is the sadness they carry from their past lifetimes unable to be released today? Are we born over and over again to finally be beings of love? To release the fears and anguish we hold towards others today? Do you believe in reincarnation?

“You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty…” – Mohandas K. Gandhi

Questions? There are always questions to be answered!

As we struggle through difficult times can it be that the soul has a memory of the grief we lived through in all our lifetimes? Is it even possible that the emotions that we feel today as sadness is from another lifetime and triggered today in this life experience? When we have an illness of any kind in these areas of our heart, we must go within and reflect on why? Is any of the sadness we carry today our truth? Is it in any way necessary?

Breast cancer, lung cancer, are all part of the fourth chakra, our heart. Hand pain, carpal tunnel syndrome all part of this chakra. Do you believe that you are not loved? Are you grieving? Are you sad? Ask yourself why? Journal on how you think, speak and feel daily. If after three days you wake up miserable, and very unhappy, you need to make a change in your life.

“All human beings are interconnected, one with all other elements in creation…” – Henry Reed

Grief is our sadness because of the pain we felt at any given moment in time.

Why do we choose to carry sadness forward in all lifetimes!
How does one release the grief?
How does one release the sadness?
How does one release the pain?

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Let’s think about this ancient grief that stirs within us at any given moment. This grief is sadness that eats at our core which most likely is not even ours. Grief creates pain within our hearts that we cling to. Why? What has been done cannot be undone!

Can it be that our ancestors have gifted us with what we call today fear, pain, and sadness? Where does it come from that we still are affected by it today? Will we do the same to our children and grandchildren? Why do we not release it now? How do we release it?

Is it time for us as parents to look at life differently when it comes to our children? Can we wonder of their sadness and why they cry and act as they do? What is bothering them that we are unaware of? What are their fears? What is their pain?

Sadness for me is the memory of unjust, prejudiced, judgmental, mean, unkind and an unloving humanity towards each other. Is it possible for us as a society of humans to release the hate, anger, and fighting amongst ourselves? And if we do, say one day wake up to being the beings of love we are, will that erase the sadness and grief that we carry? That I also carry! That my children and grandchildren carry? As we are one, how can I heal to help you heal?

“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity…” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Have I after lifetimes of suffering as a human by hate or love attached myself to this pain and sorrow forever? If I heal myself will that heal you also? Since we are all one all it would take is for us to offer kindness and forgiveness towards those we share our lives with daily. Maybe even towards strangers would help heal us all.

In today’s world, there are many acts of violence and deaths of loved ones that stir the mind and heart to deep sadness and pain. We have no answers to the many acts of violence, terrorism, and killings that happen in the moment. Even our weather is stirring up fear, sadness, and pain. We have become troubled by the thought that fills our minds of, what is going to happen next?

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AFFIRM: I am choosing now, this day to release the sadness within and eliminate the grief that connects me to free myself and to free all of the humans that suffer from the nastiness of life. The nastiness of life is the unjust, unkind, hateful, mean words and actions any of us project onto another. May I forgive those who harm me, as well as, those I have harmed. May we all celebrate the lives lived that have been taken too soon. May I know in my heart that there is a reason for everything that happens in this world. Today, I release that which no longer serves me.

“Life is a process. We are a process. The universe is a process.” – Anne Wilson Schaef

Let us choose not to be sad but to embrace that we are born as beings of love, and it is now the time to open our hearts to one another. We must stop the negativity, unkind words, ugly remarks, criticism, and anger towards each other. It is now the time and age in life where it must be a choice within our hearts that life is a place of living, learning and loving one another. To move forward away from sadness, fear and pain we must embrace love and offer love towards all. Awareness and forgiveness are essential to moving forward and not getting stuck in our past or centered on our future.

As we come together in times of attack and hateful situations that harm those we love, may we open our hearts always in all situations! Why must we wait for an act of violence to join as loving humans helping one another? We are beings of love first. Choose today to offer prayers and forgiveness, as you open your heart with love for all of life.

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Why not choose to think before we speak, react with love in all situations, stop trying to control one another and let others live their life as they want as long as they are not choosing to hurt themselves or anyone else. Now is the moment to stop being critical and judgmental of one another no matter what the circumstance.

The sadness I carry within, and you carry as well, is the essence of all that we are witness to in life that is not of love. Let us choose love!

Pray. Meditate. Journal.
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The Ultimate Guide to Processing Loss

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There is sadness, and an ache for all that will never be. The loss is part of life as change is the process. Nothing ever stays the same. We live, and we die. We discover, and we make choices. Sometimes they are excellent choices and sometimes they are not. My thought is about processing the loss we experience. The only thing that is constant in all our lives is change.

“Mostly it is the loss which teaches us about the worth of things.” – Arthur Schopenhauer

The loss of our loved ones, the loss of our relationships, our jobs and even the loss of our pets. Terrorism is a loss, as well as drastic changes in our weather, fire, and hurricanes. There is a loss where a person you love cannot find their place in life and ends up as a loss to themselves and others. They only are fighting a battle that they cannot win unless they incorporate change into their existence.

Life can be dark. Life can be scary and feel unsafe for some. The loss is that which we cannot release as the pain seeps deep into our mind and body. We get that lump in our throats when triggered by another’s loss. We know our loss, and we feel their loss. How do we deal with these nightmares in our lives? The loss we feel is simply the horror that we experience or one we anticipate.

Tears need to fall. Tears are required to stream down our face and wet our lips as we process the pain of loss. Does it matter what type of damage there is? No! What is important is that we handle the loss and deal with the pain through meditation, prayer, journaling, and by embracing Mother Nature.

“Grief is NOT a disorder, a disease or sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.” – Earl Grollman

To embrace Mother Nature, we stroll through the streets of our neighborhood, walk through a park, sit in the sand at the beach. We need to breathe in the essence of her beauty to heal the heart that is wounded. Her vision will allow us to taste the salt air on our lips as the sun warms our face! To be grounded in the presence of Mother Nature will heal us. As we heal others will heal as well.

Many years ago when I was struggling with a loss of self actually, it was a daily walk outside and at the beach that comforted me. I felt connected to something that was bigger than me. I felt loved by the beauty of nature. It took me some time to heal and find that I could love me as I am. There was no loss anymore sitting within. I grew from the experience of this as we all can grow from any loss that we allow to shut us down.

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Death is a significant loss of life for everyone. I have decided to stop counting the deaths in my life experience. I cannot imagine how much more will come. As I cannot choose who lives or dies, it is my freedom to accept that change, loss and death are part of the game. I believe that we are eternal beings, so there is no death just a transition from this life to the other side of the veil.

“No one ever really dies as long as they took the time to leave us with fond memories.” – Chris Sorensen

The process of life and death which equals loss is to grieve as long as is necessary. To cry, go to bed but for no longer than 48 hours with the covers over our head. Disconnect from life for a few days and feel the pain. Journal. Meditate. Pray. It will help us and those we are grieving if we pray for them. There is no set time to grieve. We must grieve those we lose to their transition. I always imagine that life and death is a tremendous plan we incorporate in the spirit world before we arrive as part of the game of life.

I recall, years ago when my brother died my mom wore black for two years. In looking back, my grandmother wore black all of her life because of the deaths of her many children. Was it a way of showing the world, ‘I am in pain.’ ‘I am grieving a loss.’ ‘I am sad.’ Today we seem to jump right back into our lives and forget to stop and mourn. To breathe in the death and loss of someone we loved is extremely necessary. Eventually, illness will surface if we do not take the time to grieve our loss.

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Life has a blanket around each of us that is comforting at times, but at other moments it seems not to be able to keep us warm. It can be itchy or too thin! The drama in our lives that surround a loss is the sadness of the heart for that which will never be. Can we scream and beat ourselves up for something that we have no control over. No! Can we blame ourselves for something we have no control over when something or someone comes to its end? No!

The loss we all experience is part of life as we change and grow into our awareness. It matters not the type of loss but that we take the time to feel the pain. We need to reflect on our lives and our loves. We will heal from that which has changed because our lives are all eternal.

Loss of self is the hardest for the person and those around them. To not understand because of confusion, to change ever so slowly on a daily basis because the mind is confused. The onset of dementia creeps into an entire families world not only the victim of said illness. Dementia changes the mind as well as the way the person acts because the memory begins to fade. It is almost as if they do not even know if they spoke or not. The sadness that surfaces are coupled with anger because they do not know if they spoke out loud, inside their heads or did not speak at all. It must feel as if they are going insane to them.

“It all goes away. Eventually, everything goes away.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

Years can pass by and still there is something different, but no one can grasp the significance of dementia that is creeping into their lives. We as a society expect those we love, as they age to have loss of memory. However, loss of memory and dementia are different because of the confusion that sets in as well. It is not a matter of where I put the keys but more about what are the keys for with dementia.

All loss fills us with pain. All loss is sad. All loss at one time or another will touch all of our lives. The loss of our lives is part of the game of life. We simply need to become aware and prepare ourselves that loss is possible. The loss we get to experience is part of life!

Pray! Meditate! Juornal!

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THE ESSENTIALS OF GRIEF, LOSS & FEAR

“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live…” – Norman Cousins

I’m wondering if there are tools to help one process the death of a loved one. I believe it does not matter as much as who died, when or where but that they are no longer here. We cannot see them, talk to them or touch them. What do we grieve most then; the touch of them, not ever seeing them again, or the absence of their voice.

  • What are we grieving?
  • Why are we grieving?
  • Who are we grieving?

My mom lived in Puerto Rico for the last 26 years while I lived in New York. She had dementia and did not know me or anyone else for the last few years. Then she was gone. I was motherless! I became fatherless in 1998! I cried for that which will never be and for that which had not been. Yes, I cried tears that filled up my heart to bursting. For me, because she was simply no longer here on the planet with me. Sharing the air, I breathe daily. Looking up at the moon and stars that I loved. All these years I just knew that she was here, only far away which comforted me in some way.

Then one day I was filled with a deep calmness when I realized she was finally at peace, resting and smiling down at me. It was her life, not mine that she lived. It was her life to live as she chose because God gives us all ‘free will. Slowly it dawned on me one day, how we accomplished a perfect teaching as mother and daughter together this lifetime.

Finally, I looked back at our relationship and all that I had learned from her. I felt blessed that she was an amazing teacher. I felt happy that I had chosen her to learn from all that I could. To be the wife and mother, I am today because of her. I remembered her and how she laughed, how I felt laughing with her. The little gifts she always needed to purchase for me when I was visiting her. She had a talent of nourishing me with food and love when it was just the two of us, many yesterdays ago.

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on…” -Robert Frost

I honored and respected her always even when I felt abandoned by her. Today, I understand it was her grief that she became stuck in when my brother died in a head-on collision by a drunk driver in 1988. It wasn’t me! It was her loss, fear, and sorrow. Fear was the foundation always of her existence, in that she chose dementia to escape into, to survive as long as she did. I recently went and bought her favorite perfume from when I was young, and every morning I spray my space with her and say, “Mom, let’s start the day together!” And off I go knowing she is by my side.

I imagine you are like me struggling with a loss of some kind. It doesn’t always have to be a death. It can be a divorce, a job, a friendship that ended or just that we cannot find where we belong in life. Maybe what we are grieving is not about another but our grief at this time. The simple end to something or someone!

Can it be that we are grieving our loss, our fears, and our sorrow? It has nothing to do with the deceased. Our heart aches and tears run down our face as we try to understand how we will exist without them. The deceased are at peace. But, I can’t imagine even if that is possible the way we carry on about them leaving us. They must feel guilty and sad!

“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time …” – Mark Twain

Whenever I pass a funeral procession, I say a prayer for the living family and friends of the deceased. As well as, a prayer that the living let the dead rest in peace. I have read that everyone handles grief differently. Some have regrets. Others have a fear of death. Some of us get stuck deep in our minds and cannot comprehend the loss, as my mom did. We cannot handle our grief! Maybe it is time to look at the reasons why we struggle with grief in such a heartbreaking manner.

For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one. – Khalil Gibran

  • What can we do, when our hearts break apart violently because of the death of a loved one?
  • How can we survive the loss of friendship, job, or even a divorce?
  • Are there any tools that we can grasp onto which will help us to heal?

Fear of our death is the first tool that needs to be accepted. Life will always end in death for every living person, animal, insect, plant and fish. Death is the only process there is to life. We have all chosen a life experience that must begin and end. We will never have the answers for why a baby dies, or why another life lives to old age crippled with disease.

What we all must comprehend is that we chose a plan and that there is a purpose to each life. The reality is that there is a reason for everything that happens in life. Especially, today when there are so many killings across our world by terrorists, suicides, and death to drug-related deaths. I have read that we choose our life experience to either heal our karma or heal another’s karma! We agree to die at a given moment to help heal ourselves or another member of our family group because life is eternal. There is no death. There is a transition period. We need to express love.

No regrets are the second tool that many will find hard to process. Usually what we regret is an action we did not accomplish. We didn’t visit our parents, offer support to our friend, we were always abusive, negative, confrontational or we just could not be bothered with their drama. Our actions will always speak louder than our words. We all deserve a second chance, a third chance, maybe even a fourth chance!

Even when a baby or child dies suddenly or due to an illness, there can be no regrets. We must remember there is a plan. All we can do is take their death and make something good out of it. Remember you chose this life and everyone in it that travels the path along your side.

There is no loss, brings us to our third tool. Our souls are eternal. Our bodies are our vehicle. How we take care of our vehicle is a clue to how long it will last. Everyone knows how to eat and what to eat to remain healthy – yet we choose consciously to eat what will harm us. Like putting soda instead of gas in a car. We are witness to many celebrities dying of drug overdoses or obesity in some cases. Why are we shocked suddenly, as we say; “What a sin, he/she died so young?” It is not a sin. They did not take care of themselves! Their vehicle was misused and mistreated.

“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive…” – John Green

We must believe that our loved ones visit us in dreams, with signs, symbols, music, smell and coins. Know that the best process to help a loved one who has transitioned is to pray for them. Thank them for the time you shared, the happy and joyful memories you now possess. To continue to send them love. To forgive them if they had any additive behavior. As well as forgiving yourself! Know it was all part of the plan.

I have read that when one door closes another door will open. Divorce, jobs, relationships run a course. One knows when the reason for divorce or leaving a job or relationship is necessary if there is any form of abuse. No one has permission to verbally, mentally or physically abuse us through their addictive behaviors. It is not allowed! Many of us survive abuse to be part of our existence because we feel we are worthy of said abuse. Or, maybe we do not know how to make a change to better ourselves. The addiction in life that dulls our souls is the drama we become addicted to daily.

“Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75 …” – Benjamin Franklin

When we cry, scream, ache deep within with pain it is not for them. It is for us! We hurt! The question is why? Look at it this way, you traveled a life journey with a loved one together laughing, dancing, raising children, maybe working together, or you were a child, friend, sibling, spouse or even a parent. The memories are bountiful. There are pictures, gifts received and given. Likes and dislikes shared. You cried together or wept over a sad movie or event. This life experience may have ended in a fight or not. Either one of you could have become too busy for the other. One of you may have been critical of the others choices. Life moved forward on its own, and you lost touch. It is all normal human behavior.

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself…” – George Bernard Shaw

When we forgive ourselves, we can then forgive others. There is a process to loving the self so that we can then love another. There is no reason to not pray for those we can no longer see, touch or hear. We can ask them to visit us in our dreams. To send us a sign; whether a symbol, coin, smell or memory. Trust me they are still by your side. Believe it, and they will be there for you. Fill the ache within your heart with love for them.

Our journey here is to grow our soul for our soul is the part of us that is eternal. Love, kindness, acceptance, and forgiveness are essential to offer every single one of us a chance to live a life of our dreams.

  • What do you dream for you?
  • How can you manifest this dream!
  • What do you need to change in your life to live your dream?

PRAY! MEDITATE! JOURNAL!

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TIS THE SEASON…

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I am flying high on the spirit of the season. My mind travels to the days of my childhood and the excitement and wonder of this time of year. I love the simplicity that allows me to give gifts as a way of expressing my appreciation to those in my life. To me, the energy of money is to share it, if you can! The abundance in my life allows me to be thankful and filled with gratitude daily.

“Had I known that I planned my challenges, I would have seen them rich with purpose …”  – Robert Schwartz from Your Soul’s Plan

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Unfortunately, many fill with despair and grief because of the sad and sorrowful circumstances that they have travelled during their life journey. It is the season to take the time to love all that any of us has experienced, including ourselves. After all, we are surrounded by lights, music and colorful decorations everywhere we go. An added bonus is a snowfall! What delight as a child to know with glee the anticipation of opening gifts. Maybe we need as adults to return to that childhood wonder during this season.

“On Earth and throughout the Universe, Divine Order is created and Divine Will expressed through Service…” – Robert Schwartz from Your Soul’s Gift

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We celebrate as Christians that this is the time of Christ’s birth. What did Christ teach but to love one another, to be kind, and to give of ourselves! Yet, many of us stumble and fall this time of year to a past grief, anger, fear, depression, or hatred even.  I always wondered about the need to simply be mean to anyone you claim to love. Grief is a belief that we have lost someone who we loved and that we can no longer see or touch them. We remain stuck in the memory of the end of their life here and forget the joyful loving memories of yesterday. We are a society that stay with a loved one who has transitioned on at the moment we buried them. Why do we forget their life? How they loved? When they cared and supported us? Why do we not tell their stories and share how they reached us while they lived with laughter, joy, happiness even at times sadness?

” Every death is brought about by the culmination of the vibration of the Being. There is not an exception to that. No one, beast or human, makes their transition into the Non-Physical without it being the vibrational consensus that is within them-so every death is a suicide because every death is self-imposed…” – Ask and It is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks

However, I believe there is no death but more a transition, there is no end and there is no need to cling to this grief. As eternal spiritual beings our loved ones are right next to us on the other side of the veil. We can dream of them, we can talk to them but most of all we can remember the lives they lived, the joy and laughter they shared with us. They are at peace and they try to reach us by many different means; coins, electricity, lights, music, even license plates. Just believe they are with you and you will feel them yourself. Let them rest in peace and pray for them.

“To find the source of any darkness you may be fighting, and then release it, is one of the most powerful things you can do to move into greater light and joy…” – Deborah King from Entangled in Darkness

Depression knocks us off our feet into the depths of our mind and we cannot function. Yet, we all have a choice every day how we want to feel and how we want to live our lives. Not easy, but we do have the choice to make a decision ourselves and what emotion we want to experience. A good test upon awakening or throughout the day is to ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?” “Why do I feel this way?” “How would I like to feel?”  Three very simple sentences will bring you to an awareness of yourself and your feelings.

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There are many different circumstances for anger, fear and hatred but there is a key to release these emotions that no longer serves us. The key is to forgive ourselves and then to forgive those who have harmed us in some way and filled us with hatred towards them. We can do this by writing down our feelings and then releasing them by burning the paper. Forgiveness will heal you and allow you personally to benefit on your life experience, as well as, them.

Years ago, I read that we pick our parents to learn lessons from them or maybe to help them learn a lesson. Recently, I read that we pick everyone that walks our journey with us. In doing so, we make a plan on what we need to learn and what we need to experience this lifetime. Can you imagine how wonderful it is to know that nothing is as it seems. That you actually planned the life you are living.

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I have been down the road of depression, grief, anger, and hatred, as well as, suicide. In 1994, I learned that I personally cannot control who lives and who dies. The depths of sorrow at the end of a physical life whether adult, child or even a pet is a wave that sits openly in the depths of our hearts forever. We ache for them!  We cry, become depressed and grief takes us over until we cannot breathe or function in life! The pain is unbearable because death is the unknown and the greatest of fears in our society.

“All of the survival patterns arise out of feeling unsafe and all are attempts to create some sense of safety for ourselves. …” – Steven Kessler from The 5 Personality Patterns

I imagine at times that the childhood many of us have lived and experienced has created within us a means of protecting ourselves. As adults today we get triggered to react by simply filling with fear or anxiety, becoming passive, have feelings of being defeated, developing tension or we simply  refuse to express our feelings, because of a situation that brings us back to the original moment in time of thinking we were not safe.

“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year…” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

These survival/defense patterns we created under the age of seven fill us with a belief; that we need to escape mentally, to remember our abandonment issues, because we had been betrayed, or maybe at one time we had no control and were betrayed by someone we loved. Because of these beliefs today as an adult we do not live our truth. We escape at the blink of an eye into a survival/defense pattern. Maybe we just need to finally strengthen our boundaries, own our needs and stand on our own two feet, begin to trust, be assertive or just connect to our heart. Now is the time to finally begin to shift out of these survival/defense patterns and live our truth by becoming aware of our triggers and how we react in all our relationships with others.

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Here’s a gift from me to you: The following books are insightful, and filled with information that will make you think about your own life experience and those you share it with.

  • Your Soul’s Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born by Robert Schwartz 
  • Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born by Robert Schwartz
  • Entangled in Darkness: Seeking the Light by Deborah King
  • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity by Steven Kessler
  • Ask and It is Given by Esther and Jerry Kicks (The Teachings of Abraham)

“Violence of the tongues very real-sharper than any knife…” – Mother Teresa

When reading books, blogs or written material of any kind please use your discernment. My above suggestions are just a few of the books that have enlightened me on my path. We are all on this beautiful journey to awaken to the divine love within. To grow our Souls! When we awaken we become seekers to heal by incorporating meditation, prayer and journaling into our daily lives. Now is the most magical time of year, and I hope this blog in some way triggered you to take a peak into my world.

Earlier this week we had a snowfall which magical turned our world white and glistening. I filled with the hope of peace and love for this world and all who I share my life with. The wonder of my childhood surfaced with joy and happiness as I listened to holiday music. My prayer for all is that we learn to open our hearts and fill with love for each other as the spiritual beings we are!

PRAY! MEDITATE! JOURNAL!

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As I continue writing on the shift of transformation that I was led to I feel blessed to share my journey. After traveling a life experience of loving unconditionally I found that I needed more in life. It was a time when my soul cried out to me. I was led to what I call Part “B” of my journey. A book opened my heart to experience a path that is believable but alternative for many. Yet, in my heart I ached to return to this part of myself.

I did not tread lightly on this new adventure as I flew forward anxious at times and fearful but within I knew I had to move forward. I ask myself always can one book simply allow me to believe as I do today and I must answer it was this one step that led  me to walk many steps.

This book that I speak of is by Louis L. Hay and I discovered it in a little quaint bookstore in Woodstock New York. In reading You Can Heal Your Life, I discovered her Philosophy which I embraced with open arms as well as the ability of affirmations to inspire me daily.

Louise L. Hay writes:

We are responsible for all of our experiences. Every thought we think is creating our future. The point of power is always in the present moment. Everyone suffers from self-hatred and guilt. The bottom line for everyone is, “I’m not good enough.” It’s only a thought and a thought can be changed. We create every so-called illness in our body. Resentment, criticism and guilt are the most damaging patterns. Releasing resentment will dissolve even cancer. We must release the past and forgive everyone. We must be willing to begin to learn to love ourselves. Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the keys to positive change. When we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.

I discovered my inner child hanging tightly on to the lids of my eyes when I looked within. I felt her sadness and despair to survive. Clueless to how my childhood, marriage and life experiences had filled a part of me with sorrow I fell in love with her and in doing so, I began to love me just as I was.

After reading this book I wrote affirmations for twenty-one days for twenty-one times until my thought process changed. I still say the same affirmations today that I began with in 2003 daily.

I trust the process of life to bring only good to me. I am safe. All is well. I am as God created me, a spiritual being of love and light. I only create peaceful experiences because I love myself. I am healthy, happy and whole body, mind and soul. There is time and space for everything.

This 246 page book is what enlightened me to open my heart and believe in me. I had many years of despair, depression and doubt in who I was due to the journey. Death has the way of manifesting a desire to know and understand reasons why everything happens. Abuse makes us look within to wonder why we are treated unkindly. Abandonment makes us wonder why we are not loved. Life has this way of allowing us to experience different emotions and fear no matter who we are. I credit this book to open wide the window of my soul to finally be nourished.

There are many books, classes and workshops I have enjoyed and I look forward to sharing with you the power and process of positive thought, word and action. My teachers have been many and I hope you enjoy the ride with me.

Pray. Meditate. Journal

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Death ...

A destiny or is it fate that we all create in some way by our thoughts, words and actions when our soul will exit our body?

Does DNA play a role?

Do we come into this world programmed with an illness that will manifest and end our time here?

Is exiting this life experience part of a  bigger plan to teach those we love and those who love us a lesson?

Do we in somehow make a sacred contract to die in a mass murder, terrorist attack, suicide or act of weather; tsunami, earthquake, hurricane  or tornado?

Is not life eternal and the truth is that we are reincarnated anyway to begin again?

Kabbalah teaches us that we come back to make a correction because somehow we did mess up in our last life and exited before we made the correction?

Is life such a mystery or an enormous plan to teach us all to be loving, kind and respectful to one another no matter what?

Will we have no regrets if we are loving, kind and respectful to all?

Are we born gifted and preprogrammed to share our inner wisdom and passion when we discover it with all?

Why is it so difficult to discover who we are and why we are here?

Are we not here to be of service?

Can this fear of death which creates within us a fear to live as loving spiritual beings be because we create a belief that we are in control of our lives?

Can it be that in doing so, we live life by taking everything that happens to others that we love personal?

Although we are all one, are we not here on a unique individual journey walking our path to discover our truth, to expand and hear the voice of our soul?

Can this path be as simple as to love ourselves so that we can love another unconditionally? 

Is it true that we pick our parents to either learn from them or to teach them something, yet some of us become disappointed in them, abandoned by them, hateful of them, abused by them and spend our lives trying to make some kind of sense out of our relationship with them?

Why is life completely difficult for many because a loved one has died in whatever manner was their destiny/fate while another knows there is no death but that life, the soul is eternal?

Why? Why? Why? These questions fill my mind about an aspect of life called death, when the truth is it affects every living species on our planet. We cry, we become depressed, we grieve for days, months, years or even our entire lifetime because a grandparent, husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, child or friend has died! 

Could there not be a better word to describe when the body is no longer but the soul continues to exist?

Is it the word death itself that creates this belief in someone simply ending and being no more that terrifies us?

Personally, my grandparents, brother, nephew, father and some friends have exited life. I grieved the hardest when my brother suddenly died by a drunk driver twenty-five years ago. It was sudden and painful but the doors of my soul flew open and within me my inner wisdom manifested a way of thinking in my mind that IAM not responsible for who dies or lives. I questioned even back then God;  “why did he not make the choice to stay, why did he die leaving a wife and three young children while breaking my mom’s heart wide open?”

There had to be a plan, a time allotted, either through that which we co-create with God, whether it be illness, murder or even when another takes their life willingly. There had to be an inner knowing which I imagine today is the essence of who we are that we ignore and end up following a path towards our own end. Babies get ill and die suddenly, children are abused and children are murdered by others and sometimes by their own parents, did they have that sacred contract and volunteer for these lives to teach the living a lesson?

Through the years I have learned that we manifest and co-create our lives with God by the given act of free will that we all possess. Being loving, kind and joyful is all we need to be and yet we create lives that we fear, and we hate because of our belief in guilt, shame, grief, lies, illusion and attachment. Life gets filled up with fear, nonsense, suffering and pain because someone we loved has exited their body by their choice, could this be, I wonder, the plan for us to learn to not take things personally? I believe we are more powerful then we can imagine and that power is our own word and emotional belief that we project outward. There must be a reason for everything and I believe this is the mystery of life and our existence here on planet Earth. We have made life the vehicle for our suffering only because things are not happening as we feel they must but if we let go and let God our lives will be empty of pain and suffering.

I honestly don’t believe there is anyone living who has not experienced the death of a loved one. But think about that grief you hold on to in your heart daily as your personal life preserver. Somehow we have attached ourselves to death by this process we call grieving. We must grieve we are all told and we all know how to deeply grieve our losses. What if we decided to celebrate the time we shared with our loved  ones, remember their smile, laugh, how they hugged us and delighted in life no matter how old they were when they died? I would like you to imagine that maybe just maybe you can be hurting the one you love because you do not let them rest in peace when all along it was their plan to exit when they did because of their own thoughts, words and actions. Is not the teachings in life to love and let go those we love to discover their reason for being no matter what we may desire to control. Do we not all have the ability and gift to fly on our own no matter how old we are, living or dead?

Can it simply be karma?

Please feel free to answer these questions and share your own beliefs on this subject that touches us all.

Pray, Meditate, Journal.

 

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America’s Heart is broken as we are witness to those we love dying through the act of violence. Unexpectedly, we are taken down to our knees and while there we must pray. We must connect to the light within and forgive. Love is the only essence in life that can heal. God loves us all and when we are connected to His love we too can love like Him. It is a sadness that will terrorize the moment and fill all with fear, anger, hate, and disbelief for years to come. Momentous is this time, never to be forgotten, especially when a child is taken from his family.

I believe that the ultimate mystery in life is not knowing why there is suffering, sorrow and death! We are clueless to the reason such things as; terrorist bombings, killings of any kind, murder, rape and even why war is in our lives. Death is this ultimate mystery in life because we can never make sense of it, especially when death is through violence of any kind. 

I believe somehow there are many in life today who have forgotten that they MUST connect to God daily. Death creates this emotion of love that is taken beyond the boundaries of those we know, to those we do not know that suddenly creates change in our world because of violence. Where there is fear there can be no love. Where there is no love there is no belief in God. May God who loves us all forgive those who have fallen off their path to a dark world of fear and for their unkind choices.

Pray, Meditate and Journal your fears away…

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Today is my mom’s 82nd birthday! She has dementia! I have been wondering how is it possible to erase ones mind?

I believe that the fear, guilt, shame, grief and lies experienced on the journey of life begins slowly to erase that which is too painful to endure. Death which many fear simply because of the loss of a loved one’s touch, the grief of never seeing them or just the emptiness that comes with their physical body disappearing from our sight creates an ache that is inconsolable.

In my mom’s life experience as one of nine children growing up, at a very young age she was witness to death and grief as her siblings died one by one. Her mother wore her grief for everyone to see by wearing black clothes for her entire life, empty now and filled with pain because she was in mourning for her children. Laughter was not allowed because there was sorrow to endure. The ache that grew in my grandmothers heart would detach her from the living. Truly we are taught many lessons from one another as I have been able to learn.

My mom was taught well by her mom and never deviated from the lessons. Fear was her greatest class and she feared life to an extreme that devoured her own existence. First the incomprehension of a husband that was alcoholic and manic-depressant which terrified her and whom she finally ran away from, then her son and first born dying unexpectedly at 38 years of age by a drunk driver, her first grandson being murdered at the age of 23 and then her healthy husband dying of colon cancer 8 years ago. Today, I thank God that she has found a path of her own to continue to live without her fears. She is childlike now as she is cared for and plays dominoes daily! Clueless to who she is, where she is or what she has lived through.

Yesterday, though I was emotionally angry and feeling abandoned by her. I felt deep disappointment that she does not know me, my four children or my four grandchildren. She has missed so much and we have missed so much of her wisdom. I have dug deep within to make sense of this world she now lives in and delighted in the memories of moments from the past. I had laughed, cried, shopped, and walking holding hands with her. I had listened to her childhood stories over and over again, as well as the nightmares she carried from those years married to my father. I had journeyed with a woman I called mom and whom I loved unconditionally and still do. I am grateful to her and all I have learned from her.

Yes, I would love to share with her my becoming a grandmother but when I think back on my own childhood I never knew my grandparents but yet I know of them through her own stories. Mom, I promise you that I shall share your stories, your fears, your innocence with your grandchildren and great grandchildren. 

We are all here to love one another no matter what we assume another has done to us in any way or that which has created any form of pain. However, we all have free will to choose how we want to live and who we want to be. I choose to forgive, forget that which cannot be changed and love my mom as she was and how she is today.

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There comes a single moment in time when the whispers of the soul starts to scream. One can no longer handle the fear, guilt and shame because grief fills the heart for that which is no longer and can never be. There are these days in life where we fear the past, as well as the future. Our hearts begin to ache for what, we wonder? Something is missing; a hug, a tender word, or maybe just to sit in silence. What is this despair that fills the heart daily? It is at that moment that the dawn of change is created and transformation begins. Many of us look outside ourselves for the answers but the truth of who we are rests within. The truth of life is that everyone must love who they are as they are and then the heart will fill with this joy and love for all will be manifested.

To grow forward in life one must ignite the fire, burn the past, walk through the flames and start  to breathe fresh air again. The act of fire releases the past symbolically when performed with intention, love and an open heart!

Many of us carry proudly the unkind words we have heard over and over again in our heads, different forms of abuse, along with this inner sorrow of fear, guilt and shame  that is not our own but that which is given to us by those we love and trust. Through radio, television, newspapers, and movies our society has been given fear on a daily basis.

I believe in ritual, candles, incense and cleansing ourselves, and our homes by creating sacred space with intention, prayer and meditation. These simple acts that are ignited with flame can allow a journey of transformation to begin. Start your day with meditation, light incense as a ritual of cleansing yesterday! Today is a new day, begin again.

Find time to write to those who have hurt you and thank them for the strength they endowed you with to get to this stage in your life, then burn the past once and for all with a small ritual and begin again as the unique, beautiful, gifted spiritual person you are. Many of us fear the act of sitting with a journal and pouring our hearts out, I say pour your heart out and then release it all by the act of burning it. Another ritual is to walk outside surrounded by Mother Nature and see the beauty, hear the birds, wind and trees speak to you of the magic of life, or just step outside and thank Mother Earth for this new glorious day, to begin again!

Releasing that which no longer serves you today is the key to unlock the door of tomorrow with an open heart filled with love. Today is a new day, begin again!