BEING GRATEFUL … I AM THANKFUL!

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I am filled with awe for the life we as humans are experiencing. It’s a very exciting/emotional time. With the holidays approaching, I look forward to the decorations, music, brisk fresh air and snow. My heart skips a beat when I see the first snowfall each year. There is such a joy in the memories from my childhood and my children growing up. Now I am blessed to have grandchildren to play in the snow with.

What are the main reasons one is thankful for anything at this time of year? I always wonder at the happiness but yet sadness that travels this path during the season. Like many, I too have lost people who have transitioned home. Today, I recall the memories I shared with them and I feel grateful that we shared years and for those times we laughed together. All of our minds are filled with pictures of what was and how happy or sad we have been with certain people.

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A disease is the hardest to bear. A sudden death, so unexpected knocks one to the floor. A suicide makes us question and ask why of the universe? We cry, scream and suffer from the moment of death because of what will not be. I like to imagine and celebrate the life that was! Knowing that there is a reason that everything happens in the world, I am grateful for all those who I have travelled this path and journey with whether for years or for a short time. It is the memories which I am thankful for this Thanksgiving!

The holidays are for the children, family, gift giving and generosity. It is a joyous time for all as we fill our hearts with love for mankind and those we share our lives with. Forgiveness is key to what was but is not now possible for many. Go into your photo book in your mind and fill with glee at those happy times of yesterday. The silly times where you were excited, joyful and laughing. We all have them…

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This year I would like to bless all that have lost a loved one through the act of a hurricane, earthquake, terrorists attack, suicide, natural causes, cancer or any other disease or mass killing of any kind. Let us join together in prayer for them and for us. Set a candle in celebration for their life this year during the holidays and forgive those who are now free by their own hands. May they all rest in peace as we pray for them.

We are one in life and in death. We are one through the years. We are one in every country on this planet. We are capable of love towards each other if we just look at all that we have to be grateful for and thankful for at this moment in time. Peace of mind, love in our hearts, kindness on our lips, and forgiveness of ourselves and others will bring joy to each one of us.

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There was a time years ago, when the crack in my heart opened wider and wider. Death, depression, fear, and abuse dragged me to the ground. Now as I look back, I see that we as a society are here to be the best we can be. To take the lessons learned and thrive.To be of service, to become our truth. To live our dream and to let others live theirs.

Meditation is the tool that can rescue everyone from their cracked heart. Simple to just sit but difficult to incorporate into ones life daily. I tell many to meditate and they say they do not know how. I cannot imagine starting my day without this amazing comfort of silence in my mind connected to spirit. During this time of year, if there is sadness in your life, despair of any kind, even fear go to www.DeborahKing.com  and learn how to meditate with your own personal mantra. Trust me you will be thankful that you did.

I struggle no more! I fear no more! I despair no more! I am peace! I am love! I am joy! That is the beauty of meditation and I am thankful for being guided to have known, I needed to sit in silence yesterday, today and tomorrow. Being grateful. Being thankful. One needs to go through their mind at the end of the day and reflect on those they were with, those they spoke to, their actions and words. Then take a breath and rejoice in the life experience they have manifested. I am grateful! I am thankful! Three words that make a difference as you go to sleep.

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It matters not the news, radio, television or what others say that fill you with fear. There is nothing to fear, there is only love to be embraced, to be thankful for. We are connected by the earth we all walk, the water that flows for all to use, the fire in the sky that beams down on us when the sun warms us, and the air that we breathe. Be thankful for these elements that join us as a family of one no matter what is going on in our lives. Try desperately to remember and use as a mantra, Love is all there is!

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WHAT IF …

“To love the creations of the Earth is to worship the Being who created them.” -Seth Adam Smith

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I sit here imagining a world that is safe and filled with kindness. I dream of the time where we as a society are living as one in love and joy. Can it be possible that we are on this planet we call Earth, as well as, Mother or Gaia as a place to learn kindness, love, and joy towards one another?
What if, that is the only reason we are born?

If you believe in reincarnation then is it possible that we die to a form of self to be reborn just to try again. Many of us may have lessons to learn, karma to release or just because we want to become a better person. Are we so stubborn that we do not want to change? Can the answer be that it is time to go within and not look outside ourselves?
What if, we are a society that has gotten it all wrong?

“Listen closely. Even the trees exhale sweet love songs that roll off their boughs and echo out to all of creation. Love is always in the air.” – Cristen Rodgers

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Could we have chosen to ignore the intuition that we are all born with, merely to go with the teachings of this society and in doing so have stumbled unto the wrong path? Is the fear and anger that we succumb to part of the plan created as a generational belief lifetime after lifetime?
What if, the fear and anger that we attach ourselves to, is the wrong path?

Are all the hate, terrorist attacks, and killings a wake-up call for every one of us. The weather alone is a sign from our Mother to pay attention to how we are treating one another. Could at this very moment in time be the exact reason we are born finally to learn to live our truth. To go within in prayer, and silence through meditation for the joy that is missing in our lives. To connect to our heart and know our truth.
What if, the place to start is in Mother Nature?

“Put your ears to the ground, to the sky, to the sun and the moon… tune in to Mother Earth’s sweet song. She has messages to say, knowledge to relay, inspiration to convey… there is much for you to learn. Your journey has just begun.” – Melody Lee

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To pay attention to the beauty and bounty that is offered to us daily. To smell our Mother’s fragrance, feel her breath on our cheeks, hear the trees and birds as we sit with her. To be part of her flow at the beach or in a park under the stars at night. Mother Nature has been here way longer than any of us. We abuse her, destroy her, kill parts of her and spit on her face. Why?
What if, now is the time to be ready to live in a world where we feel safe?

I believe the answers lie within each one of us to connect to that inner part we need to be in the arms of Mother Nature daily. We need to walk, sit, lay down and listen to her cries for help. Now we must respect our Mother, and she will respect us back. We have broken away from her and ourselves by filling with fear, guilt, shame, and anger towards each other. We are killing one another! Why?
What if, love towards Mother Nature is the answer to all that is happening in our lives daily?

“Every life matters. Be like Mother Nature and love everyone without judging.” – Debasish Mridha

What if, loving her, we will begin to love one another!
What if, we are capable of such a change and belief in our lifetime to make a difference. If we just try!
What if, today is the day to begin a look within by the act of going outside and spending some time with the only Mother that matters!

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What a Great Ride it Has Been

             “In youth we learn; in age we understand.” – Marie Ebner-Eschenbach

This morning I opened my eyes and thought of the amazing ride I have been on. I sat up in bed and fell into my morning ritual; I meditated, prayed and contemplated on being sixty-five years old. I’m amazed by this lifetime I have journeyed. My personal ride began with what I labeled as a child of this inner feeling I called, “the blues!” Today I imagine it was just fear as a child that confused me. Being scared, afraid or terrified at a young age was the norm such a long time ago. Still the feelings sit deep within my heart even today. Tears can overflow at the inner conflict for my inner child of yesterday. There was a time I buried her deeply only to discover I could not breathe without her. I realize today that fifteen years ago I embraced her holding on to my eyelids and offered her love. It was time for her to resurface and know her truth. We began a new ride. The memories of my youth are filled with drinking fighting and abusive behavior between my dad and mom. Fear filled our home only because Friday nights dad came home drunk. Mom became embarrassed and totally afraid of him!


“You must learn to make your whole world your school.” -Martin H. Fischer

I know that I am not the only woman to have grown up in a house with an alcoholic/manic-depressant or fearful/critical parent. In fact, I realize as a child I had no understanding of these types of labels. I did not know the ride would take me through abandonment, abuse, fear, pain, tears, death and lies over and over again. Death is a part of life but sudden unexpected deaths are terrifying at any age. My only brother to die by a drunk driver, my oldest nephew to be murdered then my beloved dad to  die of lung cancer. I know that at times there was great laughter and love going up but coming down that roller coaster  could almost make me topple over and crash when the fears arose.

 “Why be anything other than good? Why do anything other than love!” –Johnathan Dahl

 However, here I sit as a whole woman, loved, fulfilled, happy and amazed with gratitude for the experiences of my lifetime. I live a good life! I admit I struggle still today when those I love are unkind, critical or judgmental of one another. It is those times that my inner child comforts me with a memory of me climbing a tree at McCarren Park, swimming at Coney Island or just drinking Mountain Dew and eating pretzels on the stoop. It was the simplicity of yesterday that encourages me to love unconditional. I’m thrilled with the joyous memories of my childhood today because those were the moments that pushed me forward. The fearful dark memories are drifting further and further away from my inner sight.

            “If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” – Jim Rohn

I blame no one for the ride I chose to take because at this time in my life I believe I am an amazing  wife, mother and grandmother. How did I get to this time in my life believing that my life is wonderful? It always comes back to the simple parts of the ride I believe. When my dad was dying he looked at me and said, “I had a wonderful life so don’t cry for me because you are gong to die one day too!” That was in 1998 and finally I get it!

At forty years old he attempted suicide and lived the next thirty years in and out of mental institutions supported and loved by me and my husband for anything he needed. Weekly visits were the norm when he was not hospitalized but living in an adult home facility and happy no matter what. A true loved of Mother Nature he taught me to respect her as well. With forgiveness, acceptance, kindness, unconditional love, and not taking anything personal I made these beliefs my tools. Meditation, prayer and writing in my journal are my supplements to the ride. Knowing I am connected and blessed are my gifts today.


  “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage.” – Anais Nin

There will always be ups and downs because there is so much to learn in the greatest of classes in life called relationships. To love, hate, fear, and anger are the cornerstones of all relationships until we end any form of confrontation, control, and criticism. There came a time on my journey when the abandonment issues of my mom settled deep within to thug at my heart. After repeated abandonment episodes like her moving to Puerto Rico because her son had died and there was no reason for her to stay in New York I would cringe at her words for a very long time. It was my dad who told me she was not a smart woman and to forgive her. Today I know I am the person I am because of her and that I would not have been able to know my gifts and talents if she remained by my side. Could this have been a contract we agreed on prior to birth?

When I discovered what an amazing ride I have experienced because of the choices and changes I made, I filled with a deep sense of gratitude. At this age I know when I sit and color with gel pens for an hour or so my inner child is happy. If I choose to take a walk, read a good book or practice some yoga poses I have reconnected with the simplicity of life that fills me with joy. When I share my wisdom with others through counseling, workshops, blogging and talking I am being of service. The wisdom we all possess rests deep within and needs to be connected to so that peace can be part of the ride. The time will come when everyone gets the chance to get off their amazing roller coaster ride and live a loving, peaceful existence. Know it is possible as I do! When you exit you will breathe a feeling of contentment and smile as you remark, “what a great ride it has been!”

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LA BELIEVES …

 

Image“IAM possessive of myself and extremely protective of my passion…”

On this day Halloween 2013 I find myself reflecting on my children that will bring their children later to my house for me to see their costumes. Their excitement, laughter and joy will nourish me! Ages 5, 4, 1 and 1; I remember my own as they delighted in this day.

It is with respect and by choice that I have always treated my children. IAM still at  this age able to learn from them. It is our honest view of the life we live today that allows information between us to be shared. IAM their mother but IAM also a person they can talk to about anything. I do not judge them at all for I look at them at times as knowing more than I do. It is this trust I have in them that makes me realize their own strengths. When they cry – I cry! When they laugh – I laugh! When they love – I love! It is this sharing of life I have accomplished. I always believed I was a very possessive person but in reality I was led in life to be protective of those I loved. Only I knew them, I believed, and as I reflected deep down I knew they would be mine for just a short time. Now that they are able to protect themselves I see less of them but IAM called if an answer is needed.

It is the hardest part of being a parent when suddenly it is time to allow them to live their life which you brought them into the world to fulfill. I compare it always to when I taught them to ride a bicycle. As I ran by their side holding on to the back of the seat, I tried to judge the right moment to let go. If they fell, they jumped right back up to try again. As in life it is that moment a parent needs to let go, so that their children can try it on their own.

One must live their own existence and to do so, one has to make their own choices. My children have been guided by me to learn to choose. Life and living has a way of allowing this lesson to be born at an early age. It is the parent that respects and listens to their child that will see the choices a child is capable of even at an early age. 

I look at them today with love that fills my entire body. They do not see what I do for I have the memories of their youth forever implanted in my mind’s eye. It is with wonder when they appear at my door that I fill with delight. Is it not every mother’s dream that their child be productive in their life and happy? I have raised four exceptional children that are gifted and capable to know their passion early in life for I have let them always be true to the child of yesterday. It is this that puts a smile of love in my eyes for them as my heart skips a beat at the mere mention of their names.

Today I enjoy yesterday even more only because of the benefits offered by my dedication to being a mom and housewife. IAM forever thankful that I was allowed to accomplish this. This is the beauty of being able to do what one loves doing with passion and creativity. I can attest to the miracles I have been given and the dreams I dreamed of shall now be fulfilled all because IAM accepting and grateful for all IAM blessed with.

B O O ! ! ! and HAPPY HALLOWEEN …

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LA BELIEVES …

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Simplify Your Life… Choose Love!

There seems to me that the process of life is laid out and one can be accepting of its needs or not. I strive through intention to surround those in need with the Dove of Love. I believe only the Dove of Love can be shared and passed on for love is all that is needed to wipe away one’s tears in the night or day. It is the strength of all to find a means to survive with love as the main ingredient that is most likely missing. It is foolish for anyone to believe that love is not necessary for them to feel happy or complete. Love is definitely a source of light to live by. Let me explain what I mean by the Dove of Love which to me seems a way for me to just do a visualization that is a means of sending love out to those in need by having a white dove deliver love, peace and calmness to all who need love in their life for whatever reason because they have popped into my mind. A simple intention of love being sent from me to you.

As we are joined one and all to each other by the bond that we share life on this planet. It is the air we breathe, the sun that warms us, the sea that calms us and the earth that grounds us and fills us with beauty. It is this unity of life which is the fact that we are all one. It is not hard to remember this but easy to ignore that love connects us all. Take a look at your own thoughts to find balance and beauty in life daily.

As children we are amazed by the wonder, excitement and joy of life. Unfortunately, we grow to mistrust the freedoms of yesterday and follow instead a society type of belief. The ugliness, competition, pettiness and monetary values tend to create our new belief. Are we foolish to believe otherwise? Can it be that the lessons of life are simply just the choices we create to learn from? It is those of us who refuse to learn from our own choices that require one to stop and pay attention to the pattern of their own creations. We are the only ones who can choose to stop and learn from our thoughts, words and actions.

If there is illness of any kind, sadness, grief or depression then please take a look at your emotions and reactions on a daily basis. Pay attention to how you feel; are you angry, nasty, or abusive in any way.? Have you developed a pattern that can now be considered confrontational? Are you addictive? Do you in someway believe that you must control life in general? Do you believe you are unworthy or a victim. Are you having difficulty forgiving others from your past? STOP! Release that which no longer serves you today.

Life is to live!  Life is to grow!  Life is to love! When we choose to differ and refuse love then we are betraying only ourselves. When we know we are not honest and create a life that destroys the love for ourselves or another we are willingly denying love into our lives. If it is your choice to be dishonest, deceitful, a liar or simply just unkind to those you claim to love then the pain that is greatest lies within. This dishonesty, betraying and lying to others begins to affect us in ways that are painful as it contradicts our inner beliefs. The innocence of life is gone and one fills with pain and illness that one has simply created. It is the process of life to trust that there is a process created by God called; love, honesty and the strength of kindness which creates beauty into ones life. Where there is beauty and light there is expansion of oneself that fills one with abundance to breathe in the love of life. As we unfold into finding love we become receptive to our own awareness and insight. Further benefit can be obtained through prayer and meditation.

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LA BELIEVES …

Relationships …

This word has been going around my mind all week. How is it that relationships are the hardest for so many? I meditated on this and I believe that the first relationship we need to manifest is the one with ourselves. I have asked myself the following and in doing so, I learned that I am capable of saying “YES!” The clue here is to say, “YES” to life.

Questions I asked myself are …

Do you like who you are? Do you know who you are? Can you sit and just be? Is silence easy for you? Are you joyful? Are you happy? Do you know your passion and purpose? Are you living your best life?

I believe that once I found  that I loved myself my perspective in life totally changed. I suddenly felt connected to a wider essence, something bigger than me. There was an inner intelligence I discovered that was calling to me. When this calling began I was in despair, filled with doubt and empty of my own belief system. I seemed to be brain washed by the society I grew up in and lived in. Today, I have learned from many teachers, mentors, and by going to workshops and reading lots of books that there is an alternative belief in life that I named believable. I actually named my counseling business Believable Alternatives in 2004. At that time I was clueless as to the meaning but today I know that there is so much out there to learn about by the simple act of meditating, sitting in silence and being aware of the beauty in every day.

The greatest of lessons for me is that I know that I cannot change another but I can change myself and in doing so, others will change around me. Acceptance of everyone as they are by seeing the light within them allows for unconditional love for everybody. No one is more special than another. We are all children of God and we have come here to live life with all its ups and downs. Its about our reaction to life and our emotions that we need to process and release. 

I discovered that when I choose to not take anything personal I am at my best. I am positive in thought, word and action. Growing up in a society that broadcasts how a woman is to be a wife and mother, and in today’s world work outside the home as well, how we should look, what we should wear, what is good to eat and bad to eat, as well as, how we need to be heard because we know what is best for another. Ha-Ha! No one knows what God’s plan is for another and no one knows the depth of another’s fears and pain. We all have our triggers that were handed down to us as if our parents were giving us a unique gift. I say, throw that gift away now.

When you get to that place in your life that you know that you do not know anything you are free. All your relationships will be blessed with love. It all comes down to all we choose to be. Going to bed happy with a smile on your lips and trust me you will wake up happy. There is never nothing to worry about when you let go and let God! To travel this life living life and enjoying life by never taking anything personal because you are love, you are kind and you are joyful is the greatest of achievements to manifest. We all are given free will to choose how we want to live our lives. Go for it and see for yourself.

As we approach the day to honor our fathers. I must say that I loved my dad unconditionally from the moment I met him. He was the wisest of men for me. I miss him since he left in 1998 but I know I was a loving daughter to him and my husband was also amazing son-in-law. We talk of him even today as someone who was wise, interesting, loved mother nature and life. A positive being in the world. Yet, he was alcoholic, manic-depressant and attempted suicide at 40 years old but to me he was the best. He was unable to throw away the gift of abandonment that his mother bestowed on him and searched to be loved his entire life. I was told once by a psychic that I was the exclamation point in his life! How cool is that? He knew I loved him as he was, no questions asked. What a ride it has been.

Happy Fathers Day daddy, I will always love you.

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LA Believes

I have to smile as I think of these last few weeks and the amazing journey of life I am experiencing. While driving, I heard the following thought in my head; “you are allowed to be You!” Even at the time I imagined what a silly thought, haven’t I always been me, I asked as I laughed out loud!

Is this the time in my life where I take a look at myself and what I imagine can only be the lies of my life and  illusions of my mind? My path has unfolded to this point by the will of God. I know this to be true. I stumbled many times yesterday on this path that I know I created to learn from. However, as a daughter, wife, mother and grandmother today I have chosen my way of being as one of love, kindness, and joy. The stumbling days were filled with the fears of not knowing that I had a right to speak, know the truth and why another is unkind, abusive, detached or mentally ill.

Today I am filled with the gift of belief and faith that God is love and that is all that I need to sustain myself. The mysteries of life are the journey that settles us all on our path. I fill with an acceptance today that I have a story to share as well as everyone else. Our stories do not define us though I am learning. Our stories are that which we were given to learn from and grow. Our stories are our strength and courage to be the men and women our ancestors were not able to be.

Many of us travel daily with the memories of our past manifesting a deep sadness for what could have been or that which we believe is missing in our lives. I believe that the path of our journeying is the love, joy, happiness and creativity that was present yesterday which needs to be honored today. I have chosen to be grateful for everyone who has travelled along side me all these years. With love and thankfulness in my heart I look forward to those I shall meet in the future as they too will be a chapter in my story that I know I will benefit from.

LA Believes

There comes a single moment in time when the whispers of the soul starts to scream. One can no longer handle the fear, guilt and shame because grief fills the heart for that which is no longer and can never be. There are these days in life where we fear the past, as well as the future. Our hearts begin to ache for what, we wonder? Something is missing; a hug, a tender word, or maybe just to sit in silence. What is this despair that fills the heart daily? It is at that moment that the dawn of change is created and transformation begins. Many of us look outside ourselves for the answers but the truth of who we are rests within. The truth of life is that everyone must love who they are as they are and then the heart will fill with this joy and love for all will be manifested.

To grow forward in life one must ignite the fire, burn the past, walk through the flames and start  to breathe fresh air again. The act of fire releases the past symbolically when performed with intention, love and an open heart!

Many of us carry proudly the unkind words we have heard over and over again in our heads, different forms of abuse, along with this inner sorrow of fear, guilt and shame  that is not our own but that which is given to us by those we love and trust. Through radio, television, newspapers, and movies our society has been given fear on a daily basis.

I believe in ritual, candles, incense and cleansing ourselves, and our homes by creating sacred space with intention, prayer and meditation. These simple acts that are ignited with flame can allow a journey of transformation to begin. Start your day with meditation, light incense as a ritual of cleansing yesterday! Today is a new day, begin again.

Find time to write to those who have hurt you and thank them for the strength they endowed you with to get to this stage in your life, then burn the past once and for all with a small ritual and begin again as the unique, beautiful, gifted spiritual person you are. Many of us fear the act of sitting with a journal and pouring our hearts out, I say pour your heart out and then release it all by the act of burning it. Another ritual is to walk outside surrounded by Mother Nature and see the beauty, hear the birds, wind and trees speak to you of the magic of life, or just step outside and thank Mother Earth for this new glorious day, to begin again!

Releasing that which no longer serves you today is the key to unlock the door of tomorrow with an open heart filled with love. Today is a new day, begin again!