What Emotions Are No Longer Serving You Today?

The language of the times has changed drastically. Yesterday no longer serves this day. As a society that is separate in our belief, we now desire to unite. There is emotional pain, fear, anger, and dis-ease of our bodies, and mind. Our souls are offering clues that there is a better way to exist.

  • We all want peace!
  • We all crave to be whole!
  • We all need self-love!

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The questions arise daily for many of us that we are unhappy, and being harmed by another’s, thoughts, words, and actions. At times, even our own thoughts that are negative do harm to us. The seeds of yesterday that were planted and fed by anyone who has ever caused any of us to fear, experience guilt, shame for not letting another control us, and grief at a loss of any kind need to be released.

Becoming aware is becoming awakened to the truth, passion, and purpose of our life existence. Somewhere along the path of believing in what our parents raised us to follow and all that society instills as a way to be, look and perform has created our truth to hide. As all of life is energy, money is the culprit in many relationships that manifest a form of suffering. We choose money over our passion and purpose in life.

  • We desire to be a chef, but the money is in working in our family business.
  • We want to be a teacher but there is no money for college, and we instead marry and raise a family.
  • We crave to experience life by playing music, but the money is in working with our hands.
  • We choose money over our innate gifts.

Life is a process of understanding that free will offers us the choice of how we want to live our lives. Everyone shows us who they are, by their decisions. This very day is the day to sit, close your eyes and reflect on where you are at this time in your life. What is it that you need to release that is no longer serving you. The following affirmations by Sohini Trehan are a way to look within and contemplate your beliefs about yourself daily.

“I am a divine being of light, and I am peaceful, protected and secure.”

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Bring your attention to your legs at the base of the spine down to your feet.
Personal development stems from being grounded in our lives. If you are disconnected from your body and the world it is due to trust issues, not feeling safe, nourished, or healthy, that stem from your family, tribe and home experience.

  • How do you feel at this moment?
  • Are there any aches or pain?
  • Stiffness?
  • Do you fall a lot?
  • What beliefs are yours when it comes to how you were brought up?
  • Who is part of your tribe on a daily basis?
  • Do you communicate with love to one another or fear?
  • Was there any negative birth experiences?
  • Did you ever feel abandoned or felt abused as a child?
  • Any childhood surgeries or severe illness or accidents?
  • Did you move many times when small?
  • Is permanent stress part of your existence now?

Aromatherapy, by using essential oils in a diffuser like cedar or clover is beneficial. Hug a tree, yoga, Pilates, walk barefoot outside, take a hike, dancing, gardening, sun on your body. Meditate. Journal about how you feel. Visualize your roots. Sit against a tree. Close, your eyes, breathe deep belly breaths and imagine your energetic roots sinking deep into the ground beneath you. Picture them connecting you to Mother Nature and know that the foundation is a solid one to build your life on.

I am radiant, beautiful and strong and enjoy a healthy and passionate life…” 

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Move up to sacral, place your hands on your naval area.
What is the sensation you experience at this moment?

It is here where our emotion and pleasure exist, the divine inner child and wounded child. A person who has unhealthy boundaries when it comes to relationships, money, and sex, become a martyr. The major distinction is an addiction to food, drugs, alcohol, sex, pornography, shopping, and exercise that is excessive, and chocolate and on and on. A person who wants to control others is angry and filled with rage. They are very excessive, their belief is ‘life is about me!”

  • Are you creative in your life by enjoying what you do daily?
  • Are you whole in your sexuality or is guilt in your body from past actions?
  • Any tumors, or miscarriages?
  • Prone to negative attitudes daily?
  • Did you sell out for money, power or sex?
  • Are you chronically feeling lonely or abandoned?
  • Do you get angry when you give to others and they are unappreciative?
  • Are you sacrificing your dreams and goals for another’s approval?
  • Do you sense impotence within?
  • Do the opinions of others matter most to you?
  • Does change terrify you?
  • Are you revengeful and unable to let things go?
  • Is there a lack of ethics?
  • Are you an energy vampire?

Your body needs to move; dance, slow and sensuous or wildly abandoned. How do you feel when you dance? Indulge in a treat once a week that comforts you, take a bubble bath, use scented oils, treat yourself to lunch. Keep the sexual energy moving through fantasy, books, romantic movies or sexy clothing.

“I am positively empowered and successful in all my ventures.”

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Take your hands and place them on your solar plexus and imagine the power you possess as a divine being of light and love.

  • Do you feel powerful in your daily interactions with those you love, work with and when it comes to your parents?
  • Has anyone ever made you feel shame?
  • Are you angry?
  • Who do you blame?
  • Jealous?
  • Filled with resentment?

Only you – can do for you! Laughter is the best medicine to heal. Play! Get physically outside in sports, swimming, and connecting to the earth. Get outside every day in the sunshine. Walk by bodies of water, rivers, lakes and the ocean in the moonlight especially.

“Love is the answer to everything in life, and I give and receive love effortlessly and unconditionally.”

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Now you are at your heart the bridge to the rest of your body above.

  • Do you love yourself?
  • Do you feel loved?
  • Are you loving?
  • What does your heart ache for in your romantic relationship?
  • How has grief kept you stuck in a relationship because of fear, guilt, and shame?
  • What have you refused to do with passion and purpose in your life because of grief?
  • Is your heart shut down?
  • Have you felt betrayed, or rejected?
  • Who do you need to forgive?
  • Are you resentful?
  • What feelings don’t you want to feel?

Being loved and loving is why you are here! Get a pet to love with joy! Meditate, journal, then journal, meditate daily! Intend to be open to loving yourself. Do what you love! When balanced with a sense of love of self and love of others a profound sense of peace and fulfillment is evident.

“My thoughts are positive, and I always express  myself truthfully and clearly.”

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The throat is our avenue to communicate in life with all. Now it is time to speak your truth! In the past, did someone lie to you and you were aware of it.  In doing so, you have grown up to also lie as a defense mechanism because you are clueless as to why they lied. A pattern develops in all of us as we copy our parent’s behavior.

  • Are you honestly taking responsibility for your needs?
  • Do you say what you think or do you self-edit?
  • Do you hear and act on inner guidance?
  • Are living creatively?
  • Chronically hoarse?
  • Do you have repeated sore throats?
  • Frequent pain in this area?
  • Talk too loud, too much, stutter, or reluctant to speak?
  • Are you shy?

Purchase a beautiful journal that you will enjoy writing in daily all your thoughts, feelings and insights about you. Scream if you must! Singing lessons, chanting works as well. Pick a form of creative expression like a child; dance, voice, writing, drawing, painting, or whatever appeals to you. If you have relationships issues go to couples therapy to improve communication to connect. Surrender. Open to guidance to a higher power.

“I am tuned into the divine universal wisdom and always understand the true meaning of life situations.”

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Between our eyes is our brow or third eye, which also is called our intuition. That which we see that is unseen. We store our memories and dream experiences. The imagination of the past and future is evident here. We also can go beyond our five senses and the physical plane. Discernment in our daily life of what we want to see or not choose to see.

  • Any health conditions related to the eyes, nose brain or neurological system?
  • Do you remember your dreams?
  • Are you closed-minded?
  • Do you deny or ignore the facts or truth in a situation?
  • Are you shutting off your inner guidance?
  • Do you believe your inner guidance does not exist?
  • Do you believe in a way that it is not of your moral obligations?
  • Are you negative first and project that out onto others in most situations?

You will benefit by sitting in silence through meditation, being in Mother Nature or even the act of prayer or taking pen to paper? These are the tools to awaken the mind of intuition. Believe that you are intuitive! Practice visualizations. Set an intention and commit to listening within for direction. Honor the information with your actions. Create a feeling of inner harmony by surrounding yourself with beauty that you love. Experience life as a child filled with wonder. Explore life more. Set an intention at night to remember your dreams and write down what you do in the morning. What is the message?

“I am complete and one with the divine energy.”

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The crown of our head is our connection to the Divine in thought, consciousness, information, and intelligence. The whole process of knowing. Our search for fulfillment and enlightenment. Spirituality needs to be in the body and our daily lives not in our heads only.

  • Are you always in your head?
  • Do you have a holier-than-thou attitude?
  • Are you spacey?
  • At times are you dissociated from the real world?
  • Do you believe you are narrow-minded?
  • Do you have rigid beliefs?

Meditation, and prayer, as well as a sacred ritual, will strengthen you. Spiritual practices allow us to embrace the universal field of consciousness. Fear, anxiety, and anger tend to close off our connection to the Divine. Prayer, meditation offers a release from difficult emotions so that we live entirely in our unique life journeys.

  • We are all born gifted!
  • We need to discover this gift!
  • We can then live our gift with passion!
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At a convenient time, take a pen and paper, light a candle and answer the above questions one by one. In doing so, you will develop a path of truth for how you want to live your life today. Your inner wisdom will guide you towards all that needs to be released by simply paying attention to how you feel in your body.

Pray. Meditate. Journal.

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What Right Have You Discarded Because of Abuse​?

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Abuse is prevalent in our society and many of our hearts are broken, dis-eased (breast, lung, thymus disorders plus asthma and immune system deficiency)  because we are in pain by a person who claims to love us. We choose especially, as women to give our POWER and OUR RIGHTS away in the name of love?

We have a chakra system within. Which are the blueprint for our soul! Our heart is the fourth chakra and ‘Our right to love and be loved.’ As well as being the bridge between the lower and upper chakras.

  • Chakra One – ‘Our right to be here’
  • Chakra Two – ‘Our right to feel’
  • Chakra Three – ‘Our right to act’
  • Above the heart Chakra Five – ‘Our right to be heard’
  • Chakra Six ‘Our right to see’
  • Chakra Seven ‘Our right to know.’

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wilde

When our chakras are balanced, it is our right to experience the following:
– Chakra 1 / Our foundation (base of spine), we feel safe, secure and comfortable in our physical body.
– Chakra 2 / Our sensation (sacral), we feel sensual, passionate, emotional and fluid.
– Chakra 3 / Our identity/power (solar plexus), we are action-oriented, self-assured and courageous.
– Chakra 4 / Our relationships (heart) are compassionate, loving and harmonious
– Chakra 5 / Our resonance (throat), is expressive, creative and we are communicative
– Chakra 6 / Our insight (third eye/brow), is intuitive, imaginative and perceptive
– Chakra 7 / Our understanding (crown), is wise, transcendent, visionary, open-minded, intelligent and thoughtful.

Let us journey into the wounded/closed unbalanced heart chakra. It is the beautiful color of emerald-green. There are many different kinds of hearts in our society; some become damaged by fear, guilt, shame, grief, lies, anger, and hate. Some are chipped at daily by the act of mental abuse, betrayal and physical abuse from a loved one. To heal the heart, we first must examine our belief around self-love and self-acceptance. Forgiveness begins with ourselves and where appropriate towards others.

“All abuses traumatize the heart chakra as they betray love.”  – Anodea Judith

Our hearts suffer even from movies, the radio, and newspapers when we hear of killings and violence toward our fellow humanity. The abuse towards our planet bruises our hearts, as well as tornadoes, hurricanes, and forest fires. Our hearts are sensitive to what we are connected to daily whether it be by sight, sound, touch, emotional or spiritual. Sometimes in conversation one can become triggered by another. A flashback to a time when words by a loved one hurt.

If any chakra is out of balance, it is due to the act of neglect, abuse, grief and not feeling loved which affects our heart. We as a society, as parents, siblings, friends, lovers are strong. We are powerful! Our power stems from our thoughts, words, and actions. We are unaware of the damage that is done by the apparent abuse of our words towards someone we claim to love which if unkind, is a form of abuse.

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Parents are influential. They can heal or harm a child that grows into an adult. Words are like swords in our heart! Painful memories in our soul! Sometimes this hurt and pain travel lifetimes with many of us. A wounded, closed heart stems from becoming detached, and refusing to change or grow towards a joyful destination in life as a human.

“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.”  – William Shakespeare

Everyone is aware of that feeling while lying in bed when we feel an inner ache in our chest. Deep in our heart area because a loved one of ours is experiencing abuse of some kind, has a dis-ease, or has transitioned over. There is no reason for such pain in our lives, which can be healed by beginning to choose love. Peace can arrive, even if someone is no longer here through prayer and meditation. A loss is a deep pain that fills our heart with sorrow but when we choose to love we will be healed.

I believe those with deep wounds that have closed their hearts carry fear, profound grief, and criticism because they feel unaccepted and are afraid of involvement and commitment. They need to achieve some power over others to feel deserving, right and that they are in control. They may long for tenderness but due to their prior abuse from a loved one have difficulty admitting it. They are looking for approval because they believe that approval means love. What type of disapproval did they experience is the question?

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“Thus children … are confronted by a tormentor they love, not one they hate and this tragic complication will have a devastating influence on their entire subsequent life. ”  – Alice Miller

Another form of abuse is abandonment that does damage to the heart. Not feeling worthy of love, no rules, and no boundaries set the child forward on a path of not believing they are essential. Something happened to these adults in the past that has been buried deep within that they refuse to release. They cling to a form of escape with a wounded, closed heart when it comes to love by not letting in any emotions or feelings to surface. It is their grief, anger, hate, and fear that they feed and nourish daily.

We will never know why but they have never felt loved or worthy of love. They live a life of pain and keep a barrier up to protect themselves. Within their essence is this belief that they are alone, separated and need to defend who they are from others through abuse. It comes down to them choosing a defensive, negative pattern.

When all our chakras are balanced, and we have a healthy heart, there is no dis-ease in the body. There is no addiction, no fear, no guilt, no shame, no grief, no lies, attachment or illusion. As these are the demons of all the chakras starting with Chakra One.

Please ask yourself at this time what demon are you feeding? What is it within you that you are nourishing daily as that demon that you cling to because of something that happened to you yesterday by a loved one. What right have you discarded because of another’s abuse toward you?

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There are lessons in life, and sometimes we are not aware of the teaching until it is too late. Hurting another’s heart willingly, and consciously hurts our heart as well. Kindness, love, and support are the tools we as humans need to strive for in our relationships. If we can open our hearts to know we are worthy of love today because we are born of love our lives will manifest greatness.

After years of having our heart chipped away by abusive words, damage to our psyche and exhaustion to our mind, we hold on tightly to our innocence of self. A discovery of self-opens the door for our freedom to arrive. Sooner or later a wounded, closed heart affects all those around them. No one has the right to take away even one of the seven rights that we are born with as a spiritual being having a human experience. Know you are worthy of love today.

PRAY! MEDITATE! JOURNAL!
BE KIND = BE WELL = CHOOSE LOVE!
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LA BELIEVES …

Forgiveness … but, why, when, how …

That small voice of our inner child is terrified and needs a hug, a kind word, acknowledgement and to know she is loved. What has scared her into being fearful is the screams, the anger, the shame and the dysfunctional pain of yesterday. Can she release the nightmares, the ache in her chest that fills her to hate another – a mother, father, brother, sister, uncle or friend. She carries the words, the punches, the screams and abuse today because she is trying to make sense of yesterday. Did she do something wrong? Was it her fault? Is she not allowed to feel loved? The answers to these questions haunt her mind and fill her dreams with a need to know. She is terrified of the answers as well because in her heart she believes she is not worthy of love today.

I love you as you are and I know you did nothing wrong. As a child how could you have done anything wrong. To release the fears of yesterday, the pain, and abuse forgiveness is key. Forgive yourself for you are an innocent. Forgive those who have harmed you for they had to be taught how to harm. We are all doing the best we can by those who have raised us as children yesterday. A child needs to know they are safe, are loved and that they have boundaries to adhere to. No one is allowed to hurt another with words, an object or their hands. Yet, we are a society filled with fear and pain by hateful words, flying objects and hands that abuse another by hitting or touching inappropriately.

Neglect to a child is no  boundaries to know what is allowed and what is not.

Neglect to a child is yelling, screaming and a parent who does not listen to them.

Neglect to a child is fighting between the parents.

Neglect to a child is not feeling safe in their own home.

Parents are powerful and the first law is respect for this child you have brought into the world. Children are born with unconditional love for their parents and when this love is not returned the inner child closes down and suffers a deep pain that they carry through life. How can a child forgive those who have created this inner fear, this feeling of being unloved, unwanted, not safe or just filled with guilt and shame. Pray, Meditate, Journal …

God is Love. Love is God. When we turn our belief to Him and trust that He has a plan for us we forgive the past, we forgive ourselves. There are only two aspects of life, the first is love which is God and the second is fear which is not God.

It takes more energy to  be angry then to laugh.

It takes more energy to hate then to love.

It takes more energy to stay mad then to forgive.

Pay attention to your emotions and shift them to be filled with love for yourself and others. The past can no longer hurt you because it is done. The present is your choice to live a life filled with joy by moving past the moment of pain which cannot be changed. We all have our stories but we are all given ‘free will’ by God so change the story to one of love for all no matter what has happened yesterday. You are responsible for your thoughts and once you change them to positive, loving, kind thoughts you will change yourself and those around you. May God bless you with inner peace, joy, happiness and love because you are a child of God and you are here to be like Him. Don’t let another dim your light even a little.

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LA Believes

There comes a single moment in time when the whispers of the soul starts to scream. One can no longer handle the fear, guilt and shame because grief fills the heart for that which is no longer and can never be. There are these days in life where we fear the past, as well as the future. Our hearts begin to ache for what, we wonder? Something is missing; a hug, a tender word, or maybe just to sit in silence. What is this despair that fills the heart daily? It is at that moment that the dawn of change is created and transformation begins. Many of us look outside ourselves for the answers but the truth of who we are rests within. The truth of life is that everyone must love who they are as they are and then the heart will fill with this joy and love for all will be manifested.

To grow forward in life one must ignite the fire, burn the past, walk through the flames and start  to breathe fresh air again. The act of fire releases the past symbolically when performed with intention, love and an open heart!

Many of us carry proudly the unkind words we have heard over and over again in our heads, different forms of abuse, along with this inner sorrow of fear, guilt and shame  that is not our own but that which is given to us by those we love and trust. Through radio, television, newspapers, and movies our society has been given fear on a daily basis.

I believe in ritual, candles, incense and cleansing ourselves, and our homes by creating sacred space with intention, prayer and meditation. These simple acts that are ignited with flame can allow a journey of transformation to begin. Start your day with meditation, light incense as a ritual of cleansing yesterday! Today is a new day, begin again.

Find time to write to those who have hurt you and thank them for the strength they endowed you with to get to this stage in your life, then burn the past once and for all with a small ritual and begin again as the unique, beautiful, gifted spiritual person you are. Many of us fear the act of sitting with a journal and pouring our hearts out, I say pour your heart out and then release it all by the act of burning it. Another ritual is to walk outside surrounded by Mother Nature and see the beauty, hear the birds, wind and trees speak to you of the magic of life, or just step outside and thank Mother Earth for this new glorious day, to begin again!

Releasing that which no longer serves you today is the key to unlock the door of tomorrow with an open heart filled with love. Today is a new day, begin again!

 

LA Believes

There is a very thin line I am experiencing between the demons of the first three chakras; fear, guilt and shame when it comes to being held accountable in life to the passions of the soul. I ask are these mine to claim or are they projected upon me? We live in a society where fear, guilt and shame are expected as a part of our life experience. I reject this belief! I AM fearless! I  AM guiltless! I AM shameless! There can be no other avenue in my mind at this time.

Whether one is man or women it matters not what is taught or gifted to us by our parents, friends, family, or society. If any of it fills us with fear, guilt or shame we must ask ourselves is it truly ours or is this a projection of how we have been raised or taught to accept as our life experience. 

The soul knows best of the passions that will nourish each of us daily. Whether it be our foundation and connection to Mother Nature, the need to create through any form of art that fills us with joy as we move with the flow of life forward and to stand in our own power to know who we are and walk the path we have been guided on is the essence within that is sacred to all individually.

Acceptance of our journey allows a belief that we accept and respect another’s journey by offering unconditional love. It seems such a simple belief to say and know in your heart, ” I love you just as you are!” However, few can truly know this feeling within themselves if they never reject their own fear, guilt and shame. I ask of all to look within and find the love for oneself as you are first so that you can begin to love another truly. Let’s project the feeling of LOVE onto one another!

Just let it go … Meditate … Journal … Pray … Walk … Affirm