The Emotional Holiday Season …

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us…” -Joseph Campbell

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As we travel through this month and the holiday season, and any celebrations that we join together as a family there is a silence where death has stumbled into our lives. Stumbled because some are unexpected while others are simply unbelievable.

It is these moments where we have to rise up. Our hearts shatter and we crumble at the moment a loved one is no longer visible. We just cannot fathom life without them. We grieve, cry and mourn that they are gone in sporadic episodes of deep longing. Many have even grieved a loss for years.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart…” – Helen Keller

I always wonder why we do not remember the life they have lived? Some lives can be abusive in many forms, filled with regret and addictions but we loved them – did we not? The memories of yesterday can be filled with a smile at the mention of their name today if we search through to the end result and discover the love we felt for them yesterday. It is in acknowledging our pain with love that lets our loved one rest in peace.

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Losing a child has to be the hardest no matter how old we are; parents, spouses, family members, friends, pets and people who traveled through our lives are gone, and we fill with pain. We are told this is the cycle of life but it hurts unbearably.

I believe there is a reason for everything that happens in life. During challenging times I choose to wonder what the reason could be for this happening in my life? What is the lesson for me? No one can control when life moves on, we can only choose how we react to our loss. The veil is right in front of us; so close but yet so far it seems. Out of sight is the greatest of pain we experience as a society.

“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today…”  – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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I have read about the contracts we create with each other and how with free will we can genuinely make a difference of our time here.

Can it be we choose …

  • dis-ease, suicide, car accidents, terrorist attacks and other forms of despair to learn from?
  • To learn the lessons of forgiveness, endurance, and acceptance.
  • I imagine we all struggle with our choices; how we loved; how we acted as mother or father to our children.
  • What we mean to say and forgot to mention or do for another. The regrets we carry so deep that we grieve them as well.
  • If I could have, would have, or should have said this, done that circles our minds when we live through the death of a loved one.
  • What about our own defensive choices we use to survive in life.
  • It’s always about how we choose to think, speak, and act towards one another on a daily basis that creates memories of love or fear.

Life is the journey we get to travel daily and I, at times, ache for that moment that has slipped away. I try to recapture a word or smile even the essence of a loved one’s voice that has moved on. I believe in eternity and that we shall be together one day. Still, my heart fills with sadness that clings to me to see, hear, and touch the many that are gone.

The holiday season can bring love into our hearts as well as sadness. We can be sprinkled with the essence of an ache that takes our breath away by the experiences of death. Yet, it is said that life is eternal and our loved one lives on.

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light…” -Aristotle

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I have survived these changes in my life by believing in simple rituals that last a lifetime…

  • Power of prayer
  • Journaling
  • Meditating
  • Energy healing
  • Massage
  • Aromatherapy
  • Basking in the beauty of Mother Nature
  • Soaking in a scented bath of essential oils
  • A clean organic super foods and super herbs diet

Please understand and try to connect to the angels, ascended masters, spirit guides, elemental beings and loved ones that are with you daily. We are never alone. Close your eyes and see them. Ask for a visit in the form of a dream from your loved one. The signs can be many; music, license plate numbers, pennies from Heaven, a fragrant smell, flowers, even the smell of cigarettes from a loved one is a visit for you to embrace.

Believe that anything is possible and it is. Treasure the memories that fill you with emotions of the life a loved one lived with you and smile. Learn to celebrate their unique and exquisite life.

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style….” -Maya Angelou

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It is the ego that wants to touch, see and hear a physical person so we grieve our loss as they rest in peace. Sometimes our grief can sweep us away for a very long time.

There are only two paths in life to travel. Remember it is fear that roars the ego-self that wants what we no longer have. Love comes from our God-self which knows that we have not lost anything as eternal beings of light.

Pray. Meditate. Journal.

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LA BELIEVES …

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Dream – Awaken – Dream

Right now at this moment in time IAM a woman with many dreams to fulfill. It is all I can do to contain myself as I wait, but what am I waiting for? It is the virtue of patience that IAM very good at, mixed with a lot of endurance. It is with this acceptance that I live my life and acknowledge all that is to be. IAM not a child but a woman who has lived a life that was never ever questioned by me. One of my gifts is to pick myself up by connecting to my God-self. The first dream on this amazing journey of my life was to begin to question who I was which opened a door that led me to a path that stirred the passions of my own purpose. I wonder today if I can be other than a published author? Do I have what it takes to help another through the written word or by my speech and actions? My motto is that I believe anything is possible once we choose to make a difference in life. However, one cannot do anything at all without God!

I look back on the past sixty-two years of my existence that was sheltered but very comfortable and familiar with the love of my family and friends. Basically, IAM an introvert, a loner who dreams in the vastness of my own imagination. Yet, IAM a seeker of knowledge today who strives to share with all how powerful we are. I find that others can be very judgmental, mean and hurtful towards me that makes me slip silently back to yesterday and agree with them. Then I remember who IAM because in the pit of my stomach lies a pulse that quickens and tells me to stay true to self – for they do not know.

Unconditional love means accepting each and everyone as they are to walk their own journey, make their own choices and being aware that no one knows what is best for another in any situation. Difficult, yes, but the only way to allow one to connect to their God-self. The ego fills us with fear! Roaring at us about everything that does not matter. God fills us with love! Whispering like a feather that floats by that He rests within. Ego takes us outside of ourselves. God leads us within to where He is.

My path is moving or shifting in a few months and I truly do not know where IAM headed but I trust God does. Another may say that IAM courageous and strong but I think IAM curious to see all that I can accomplish; whether it be through the written word of my writing as in blogging, publishing another book, traveling, educating myself further or just meeting interesting people and simply belonging somewhere other than the memories of yesterday. I have learned to take the good memories because I believe they have brought me to this page but its so easy to slip back into silence. IAM walking away from the life of silence to survive. Yesterday can no longer be for me. It is the new day that I await with love to guide me. To know and understand that IAM following that which is offered by the universe allows me to let go of worry. I truly trust and believe that there is a process to life. Today I look at my life as an existence that has its own strength and IAM simply a form to be used to live this life. 

Only I can live this life! No one has the right to silence anyone, harm anyone or even try to degrade another in anyway. The spirit of love and peace fills my spirit. There are no regrets, no fears but only the truth of my self as I connect with all that is. There is a vastness to life that is besides all our journeys as if we are living a dream. Along the journey of life we must awaken from the dream and know our truth to survive. 

Pray, Meditate, Journal.

www.LindaAmato.com